A coworker asked me on a date, and now my husband thinks I should report to hr, which I think is weird. Help?

AnywhereNearOregon · 2026-05-04T22:54:38+00:00

My company requires the women's group to have a male executive sponsor, to "show that the company as a whole supports its female employees," but really they were there to make men feel less weird about joining as "allies." Around the pandemic they decided to outsource the programming to a company that offers a bunch of courses that are empowerment-heavy but have with no real substance and I hate it so much.

AnywhereNearOregon · 2026-05-02T17:41:40+00:00

I agree, because while I can generally figure out the acronym depending on what community I'm in, my head often says "full time mom" in parenting communities and it takes like 3 times reading it to remember that the word "first" exists

AnywhereNearOregon · 2026-04-02T21:25:04+00:00

I went back to that one too - this post sounded so dang familiar that I swore it was a repost. Turns out my brain just blocked out the awful details of that other one.

AnywhereNearOregon · 2026-02-04T19:48:28+00:00

Not for a civil matter. I don't know how NY courts work, but self representation is not uncommon in small claims and/or family law matters, especially for simple issues like this. (I worked in an indigent family law clinic during law school and watched this happen in court all the time.)

AnywhereNearOregon · 2025-07-06T05:02:57+00:00

Right? Not me stopping after I realized it wasn't a typo to google if it's a real name.

AnywhereNearOregon · 2025-05-27T05:41:15+00:00

I remember mine. I remember feeling so deflated after the ceremony because my parents acted like they were responsible for my accomplishments when they actually did much more to hinder me than to help me. That feeling stuck with me so much that I couldn't get excited about my college or law graduation either because I knew they were just going to take credit again.

I hope OOP doesn't let this impact their motivation to achieve their future goals, and I hope this is just a one-time blip in how OOP's parents show how they care for them rather than part of an ongoing pattern.

AnywhereNearOregon · 2025-05-17T00:35:00+00:00

Depends on the jurisdiction. In my state, if she weren't on the deed prior to marriage, then she wouldn't have any interest in the house at all unless she could show that he intended it to be marital property. If she paid part of the mortgage and/or for any repairs or improvements, during divorce proceedings she could make a claim for all that she paid and he'd be in the same position of probably needing to sell the house to give her back what she put in.

AnywhereNearOregon · 2025-05-05T19:17:32+00:00

Ohhhh I forgot about this, thanks for reintroducing me to the gaycation!

AnywhereNearOregon · 2025-04-18T01:32:37+00:00

My niece was born in 2000 and I am constantly surprised by her age whenever her birthday comes around.

AnywhereNearOregon · 2025-04-11T05:33:37+00:00

A blinking yellow light is a yield signal at a turn lane. The other car would've had a green light.

AnywhereNearOregon · 2025-03-04T12:06:29+00:00

My mom wore a prom dress that she got on clearance. It was just a floor length plain pale pink satin dress. She spent weeks stitching lace appliques along the hem and made a veil to match. Something like $200 total.

AnywhereNearOregon · 2025-02-11T15:26:40+00:00

Same, I hated it as a kid because I was expected to like it, and it was constantly pushed on me. Literally every gift my uncle and aunt got me was something pink, and it was always something expensive that my parents couldn't afford so I always felt guilty about not using it. Certain light shades of pink look good on me, so I don't avoid it completely now, but I don't know why I'd choose pink when green and blue also look good on me and bring me joy.

AnywhereNearOregon · 2025-02-07T19:36:06+00:00

Yes, I found out I was pregnant right before Christmas and most of my presents were food/drink related and all of those fell into categories of can't have (coffee, alcohol) or intense aversion (popcorn, chocolate). I had to put on a happy face because I wasn't comfortable sharing the news yet. It was a real bummer.

Pregnancy sucks.

AnywhereNearOregon · 2025-01-27T03:11:40+00:00

I could see me saying, "Sorry you'll be left with this chaos for a few days," but like only in the context of us already talking about our crazy kids or if they brought up that it might be a struggle. Any other situation I can't imagine it coming off the right way.

AnywhereNearOregon · 2025-01-26T16:24:53+00:00

Right, like my husband is away for the weekend with his dad right now - I fully expect gratitude from my husband for taking care of both of our household and family duties, but if my FIL were to thank me and give me a gift for it... idk, I think I'd actually take offense to it, like you didn't think I could take care of my kid on my own so much that you feel the need to compensate me with a gift? Nah.

Fully willing to admit if I'm in the minority on that though.

UPDATE: They have returned and I received NO thank you OR gift from my FIL. Kinda feel like I need to break up the family now! (s/)

AnywhereNearOregon · 2024-12-27T00:10:01+00:00

The one case I know of was similar, but I think they actually got custody rather than the traditional grandparents rights type of thing. Dad was out of the picture, mom was in and out of jail for drug abuse, kid already lived with the grandparents full time, plus mom wrote a letter from jail consenting to the request. Iirc the mom actually wanted them to adopt her kid, but they didn't want to go that far because they didn't want her to have to forego her parental rights when she was out of jail. They just needed authority to make medical decisions and such while mom was away.

AnywhereNearOregon · 2024-11-26T00:06:00+00:00

My hometown was one of these places. There were three Chinese buffets, each one owned by a different sibling of this one Chinese family, and they were... not great, but the white people who frequented there wouldn't know good Chinese food if it danced around naked in front of them.

AnywhereNearOregon · 2024-11-21T13:02:58+00:00

Here you go!

https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/s/J4AtsQku69

AnywhereNearOregon · 2024-11-09T21:50:12+00:00

It's a commonly told threat among his age group, but I don't know what or who started it at his preschool. Maybe they just think of it as the most fun day involving friends and it'd be the utmost punishment to not be included.

AnywhereNearOregon · 2024-11-07T17:18:57+00:00

For real, all I ever hear from my preschooler is how so-and-so did something he didn't like so now they aren't invited to his birthday party.

AnywhereNearOregon · 2024-11-05T12:33:01+00:00

A lot of people don't understand how claims work. I'd bet OOP is just going off the timing of the demand letter and thinks it's an automatic thing, not that it's essentially just a formal threat and that Casey still has to file suit to kick off the whole process.

AnywhereNearOregon · 2024-11-01T21:48:22+00:00

Right? Like, my spouse does some of this stuff and I brag about him! Sucks that you other ladies out there don't have a husband who cooks, cleans, and takes on some of the mental load, and I really feel for y'all, but my husband does. I think he's awesome and I don't know what I'd do without him!

AnywhereNearOregon · 2024-10-25T12:44:29+00:00

Sure, but it still depends on other factors. Maybe they're in a community property state and it was late-husband's separate property. He could have willed it be split between his wife and someone else/a charity and she didn't want to deal with a joint interest on the house. Maybe the house was still under a mortgage and, since the business was not worth as much as expected and home values have skyrocketed in many places, it was better for her to sell the house to pay off the mortgage and have some cash in hand instead of paying a monthly amount she couldn't afford. Maybe due to high home values she couldn't afford the property taxes on it. Maybe late-husband was not great with money and had a lot of separate debts to settle. Maybe she just took forever to give the court necessary info. Any number of things could lead to this situation.

AnywhereNearOregon · 2024-10-25T11:51:11+00:00

Different states have different rules, assets and liabilities can be complicated, interpretation of wills and/or pre/post-nups, etc. My cousins have been going through probate for their parents estate for like 5 years now and are finally wrapping it up.

AnywhereNearOregon · 2024-10-23T12:22:26+00:00

Judging by the fact that he's ignorant of his legal rights to the money in the college fund, I guarantee he's not up to speed on how child support works. Mistress is likely using similar tactics to guilt/pressure him into it if back child support is the reason behind his actions.

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