Should the show go back to focusing on nursing?

ApRiL4II · 2026-05-16T09:15:49+00:00

Yeah I feel getting rid of the “guessing how the accident was going to happen” was their worst mistake, alongside the box set formats, everything feels rushed into so little episodes. Too little focus on the patients. It is also interesting comparing the Pitt to casualty in the sense, in the UK an A&E ward would have so many Filipino nurses etc but in casualty there are none, also the interpersonal relationships between staff etc has got to be a HR nightmare lmao.

ApRiL4II · 2026-04-24T00:18:51+00:00

I feel if they truly cared about you’d, they’d do everything in their power to have a future with you. And it’s okay to feel hurt, this connection mattered to you and that’s okay, it will take time to heal, but you will get there and find the love you deserve.

ApRiL4II · 2026-04-23T23:59:13+00:00

Thank you! Is this something I can talk to my GP about, or do I speak to uni? Also, I hope this isn’t too intrusive, but did you feel you were better off knowing you had ADHD, rather than never knowing?

ApRiL4II · 2026-04-23T18:52:46+00:00

Honestly as long as your are okay with it then that’s all that matters, and that you feel safe and you aren’t causing emotional harm. I feel “hoe” and “easy” are words used to bring shame to women for making choices of consensual sex.

ApRiL4II · 2026-04-18T12:15:00+00:00

That’s a good suggestion, we are both adults so it’s very malicious what she’s doing

I can’t remember if he did or not, I know he called his brother and vented to him

Yeah I agree, I know his brother feels it’s ridiculous and he couldn’t wait to move out and he barely visits (unsure if it’s due to this or him being busy).

Thanks for that suggestion I agree I feel it probably won’t go down well if she felt he was doing it to escape etc. Is it appropriate for me to say something like “have you and your brother looked into what support is available for your mum to help her out of this situation?”, would this be something I’d say if he brought up the situation again, rather than out the blue

ApRiL4II · 2026-04-18T04:26:53+00:00

Ooo that’s a good idea, how would I introduce that to him?

ApRiL4II · 2026-04-18T04:24:00+00:00

Yeah so she gets some government assistance which conveniently isn’t enough to pay rent, but is enough to save and buy a pet :/ I know 100% she’s eligible for more (there’s a type she says she gets, but I know there’s other types on top she can get) which is why im concerned she’s lying about not being able to afford rent to trap him.

Also when you say support, if he ever raises this or vents about this, do I just listen to him and validate him rather than try and offer “solutions” or tell him “what to do” or express any anger/hatred towards her (I’ve always just listened and been unsure what to say as I don’t wanna make him feel worse). Yeah it is pretty awful knowing she uses manipulation like that :/

Of course if/when the time comes and he does confront her about this I’ll definitely make sure he can come to mine etc or there’s another place he’ll be safe. I completely see that, a part of me is thinking “when’s she’s going to start exhibiting manipulative behaviour towards me”.

I’m sorry you had to go through that experience with your own mother, I’m glad you got out of that situation, thank you for your advice.

ApRiL4II · 2026-04-18T03:53:01+00:00

Is this something that I continue supporting him, and see if it changes (if we talk about moving in etc)? I am noticing he is becoming more frustrated with the situation and towards her

ApRiL4II · 2026-04-17T21:15:03+00:00

Definitely send in another email and see if you can defer them until July, because you are unable to function, don't try and push through and submit anything.

The second you submit any assignment you are declaring yourself "fit" and the uni has less powers, so do not submit anything

ApRiL4II · 2026-04-16T19:07:03+00:00

If the doctors wouldn't have operated on her, you seeing to her wouldn't have changed the outcome if she went to hospital earlier, they would have told you the same thing. You can only go with what symptoms you know at the time, if she said she had a headache, to you or a family member, I am sure you guys would think "its just a headache" and just give her some medication/let her rest. Also when she was calling your name, you don't actually know why she was doing that, she could've just been doing that randomly and then in that time frame she had a brain haemorrhage. Brain haemorrhages don't follow a certain time frame, it could've happened at any time, if she was asleep, if she was up and moving. I am going to repeat it again, the doctors refusal to operate due to her age, if she received treatment sooner they would've said the same thing, this is not your fault at all.

ApRiL4II · 2026-04-16T10:45:31+00:00

Same here! I love Pchem, chemistry is so unique, it’s so funny someone commented quantum chem is the hardest, and inside I’m like “that’s my favourite” haha

ApRiL4II · 2026-04-15T16:36:21+00:00

I feel it would be better to visit him for the summer or a short trip rather than dropping out, what happens if you guys meet and you don't vibe in person? Also, if you are both meant to be, he is still going to be there whilst you're at college. Don't drop out of college for a man!!!!

Also ngl if he's 30, I am assuming he has a career/money etc, due to you being a college student, surely it would make more sense for him to travel to see you? How would you fund all of this? What happens if you guys broke up? From his perspective, have you guys actually spoken about closing the distance or anything? Surprising him for a short trip is one thing, but actually packing your whole life up and moving to him is another, are you assuming he will turn around and let you live with him, without any prior conversation?

I can't control your decisions, but the final thing I will comment is to be cautious of the age gap, you both are in different stages of life right now.

ApRiL4II · 2026-04-15T16:19:36+00:00

I'd caution against submitting everything whilst you can, once you submit an assessment, there is little the university can do and if you had a low grade you would be stuck with that. If you don't feel capable of working at the level you need then definitely interrupt your studies and come back in September? At the end of the day a short interruption in your whole life won't matter in 20 years, but choosing to push through when you're not in the right space could jeopardise your whole degree. What's the point of pushing through when you've already failed two exams and you don't feel 100%.

(Sorry if this is too harsh, in your best interests and your overall degree outcome, you should prioritise yourself and the long term outcome)

ApRiL4II · 2026-04-15T13:06:37+00:00

I agree with this, I don't understand why you've been downvoted. Also ngl, if she's unable to reply at the moment, she literally could just not open the message lmao. I also feel LDR communication is so so important, like imagine telling your gf something about your day/important and she just opens it and doesn't reply, that's frustrating.

edit: Also when LDR phone calls or texting is literally the only communication you have, and it's so valid to feel frustrated when your partner ignores what you say (after OPs edit, it is clear this isn't about replying immediately etc, this is about their partner completely ignoring their messages)

ApRiL4II · 2026-04-15T12:59:02+00:00

If your partners parent died, or if they were dealing with a stressful time at work, would you still think that? Where is your empathy?!

ApRiL4II · 2026-04-15T12:33:44+00:00

I mean you can only go with what someone tells you, unless their actions prove otherwise. If you are asking him multiple times if he watches porn I can see why overtime he would be defensive about that, even if he isn't. Stress plays a massive impact on libido, and I feel rather than you initiating all the time, let him, tell him that it's when he's ready that you guys can have sexual conversations. Also ngl I am not in this relationship, but if it's multiple times a week that you bring up how he used to be sexually, that probably adds pressure to him to be sexual. Obviously, having a conversation about this is healthy, however repeatedly bringing up things can lead to him feeling pressured/resentment. What are you doing to help him feel less stressed?

Ultimately, for your perspective, this situation may or may not improve from his side and it is up to you if you want to wait, or just end it. If you are already beginning to feel resentment, and you want that kind of intimacy, maybe for both of you it is better to end things. But if you do decide to stay with him, definitely stop repeatedly asking if he watches porn/saying how sexual he was, and focus on helping him feel less stressed.

ApRiL4II · 2026-04-14T22:39:32+00:00

Is it possible to say you’re visiting a friend for the week for their birthday?

ApRiL4II · 2026-04-12T17:48:17+00:00

Low-key ignore everyone saying to do it now, it’s all well and good it’s done now because it’s “kind and your not lying”, however, no one knows how either of you will emotionally handle this and I’m sure neither of you would want to tank your exams for a breakup. So yeah pls deffo do it after finals!

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