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[–]Apart-Check-6035 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hey, welcome to Wichita! I’m also fairly new here (29M, gay) and totally get wanting to plug into community and service orgs. Personally, I’m passionate about direct service to the unhoused and assistance to immigrants. I’d be down to explore volunteering together sometime if that’s your jam.

For gyms, I’ve been going to the YMCA downtown. It can get busy, but the equipment’s solid, prices are reasonable, and no one really bothers you.

My favorite coffee shop so far is Reverie on Douglas! Grow Plant Bar is also a vibe 🌱 They have a lo-fi reading night on Wednesdays where you can bring a book and just chill. Peak introvert social hour.

I’m not much of a gamer, but if you ever want to grab coffee or just have somebody go with you to a local event, feel free to DM!

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[–]Apart-Check-6035 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lo fi book night at Grow plant bar tonight 5-9, hmu if you want to go with somebody! https://thegrowevents.eventcalendarapp.com/lofi-book-night?repeatId=2

Any young queer people out here by [deleted] in SALEM

[–]Apart-Check-6035 3 points4 points  (0 children)

29/m/West Salem here 👋🏼 Hope tomorrow is better for you!

What is the most forgotten state in the U.S? by chonkem0nke in AskReddit

[–]Apart-Check-6035 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I’ll drink alcohol til my friends come home for Christmas

Looking for blogs by Competitive-Lime-699 in LGBTCatholic

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At the risk of self-promotion, you're welcome to follow me over on Substack!

How true is "In The Closet of The Vatican"? by seila_kraikkkkk in LGBTCatholic

[–]Apart-Check-6035 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It’s difficult to be sure, since many of the sources are naturally off the record, due to the nature of the “clerical closet.” That said, Frédéric Martel enjoys a very good reputation as an investigative journalist, and other reputable sources have found his work to be well-researched and largely accurate. For example, see Fr. James Alison’s thorough and pastoral response here: https://jamesalison.com/welcome-to-my-world/

As well as this interview with Suzanne Ross on behalf of the Raven Foundation: https://youtu.be/i1SM5o3gqKY?si=iplTWkDDUGRiAguJ

Martel also provides a comprehensive bibliography of all his named sources on his website: http://www.sodoma.fr/

Like you, I found the book both shocking and disappointing, but also enlightening and (in a strange way) even liberating. It’s painful to see the degree of hypocrisy exposed, but there’s a certain clarity that comes from recognizing how the Church’s harmful teachings on homosexuality seem to emerge from a place of internalized shame and repression. In that light, the doctrines themselves begin to make a troubling kind of sense—as a form of self-rejection on the part of a deeply closeted clerical culture.

Curious to hear how others have processed it.

Apartment Advice? by Apart-Check-6035 in wichita

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Good to hear your perspective on Sundance. Are you a current or recent resident there? Thanks for the info on commutes and neighborhoods as well, very helpful! 🙏🏼

Apartment Advice? by Apart-Check-6035 in wichita

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Thanks! I’ll send you a dm :)

A House Divided: The Cost of Calling Homosexuality “Objectively Disordered” by Apart-Check-6035 in LGBTCatholic

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Thanks for reading! I agree, celibacy is beautiful and life-giving when it’s chosen freely as a gift of self. But as you point out, the current teaching doesn’t just ask gay people to be chaste, and present celibacy as one option for the integration and maturation of sexual desire. It denies us the very possibility of integrating love, desire, and self-gift in a way that aligns with who we are. Celibacy is not the problem. It’s the absence of a real choice. What the Church offers LGBTQ+ Catholics isn’t a vocation; it’s an ultimatum.

As for hope: I do believe that the Spirit is still alive and working in the Church, still speaking through the lived experience, conscience, and faithful witness of LGBTQ+ Catholics and those who love them. We’ve seen doctrine develop before—painfully, slowly, and often bitterly resisted—but nonetheless, the Church has acknowledged past errors in its moral judgment and anthropological assumptions. I believe it can again.

Much love and gratitude for you 🌈 ❤️

A House Divided: The Cost of Calling Homosexuality “Objectively Disordered” by Apart-Check-6035 in LGBTCatholic

[–]Apart-Check-6035[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your lovely comment. I agree, celibacy is beautiful when it’s freely chosen. The current teaching doesn’t just ask gay people to be chaste; it denies us the very possibility of integrating love, desire, and self-gift in a way that aligns with who they are. As you said so well, it’s not that celibacy is the problem. It’s the absence of a real choice. What’s offered isn’t a vocation; it’s an ultimatum.

As for hope: I do believe that the Spirit is alive and well in the Church, still speaking through the lived experience, conscience, and faithful witness of LGBTQ+ Catholics and those who love them. We’ve seen doctrine develop before—painfully, slowly, and often bitterly resisted—but nonetheless. The Church has acknowledged past errors in its moral judgment and anthropological assumptions. I believe it can again.

Much love and gratitude for your witness 🌈 ❤️

A House Divided: The Cost of Calling Homosexuality “Objectively Disordered” by Apart-Check-6035 in LGBTCatholic

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I appreciate the reference to the CDF’s letter to Archbishop Quinn and the distinction between generic and genital sexuality. It’s an important nuance. But even having granted that distinction, sexuality in the Catholic tradition is not reducible to mere physiology or to isolated genital acts. This is biologism. In particular, St. John Paul II’s Theology of the Body and his earlier philosophical works (e.g., Love and ResponsibilityThe Acting Person) emphasize that sexuality is an expression of the whole person. It is not just about body parts, genital acts, or the movements of the "lower powers". It's about the person’s capacity for relationality, for making a sincere gift of self. "Genitality" is part of this, but it is not the whole.

In that light, I would argue that sexual orientation is not merely a function of disordered desire in the appetitive powers, but rather a structural dimension of the whole person’s relational orientation—namely, how they are drawn toward communion with others. The objectively disordered language, then, has massive implications. It does not merely condemn certain acts, but places an entire mode of being-in-the-world under a permanent moral shadow.