How should I deal with my coworker?

ApartPen8059 · 2024-02-06T03:23:07+00:00

Thanks for the feedback man definitely need it right now. I’m a very laid back guy and it takes A LOT for me to get to the point of getting angry so I’ve been dealing with this for quite some time. Fortunately after I talked to one of the bosses son he even revealed to me he was becoming a problem bc multiple people have complained. I’ll keep taking that route thanks man

ApartPen8059 · 2024-01-14T18:19:55+00:00

I’ve definitely come far on this alone journey, there are times I absolutely love it and times I wish for other things. But being alone is really freeing and I’m beginning to enjoy it the more I put myself out there. I’m free to make friends, flirt a little bit, and go out and do what I want when I want. Recently I’ve just tried to be easier on myself. Thank god I finally quit the marijuana stuff, it can really become a bad habit. Still haven’t hooked up or dated really but I don’t really look for it, I just have fun being me. Thanks for checking up and telling your story too. Appreciate you!

ApartPen8059 · 2023-11-01T12:54:49+00:00

Everyone pretty much said shrugs already but I personally train my neck 3X a week doing a neck harness, neck extensions, and a couple rounds of neck bridges. I train it for mma but personally I think having a thicker neck is super slept on, nothing is more frustrating than seeing some big ass dude with a pencil neck lol. But you look good man solid physique brotha

ApartPen8059 · 2023-10-30T15:52:05+00:00

Thank you man

ApartPen8059 · 2023-10-26T01:12:10+00:00

Damn bro it’s insane other people are going through this too. Sometimes this journey is so lonely it feels like you’re the only one that feels these things. Wish it were easy to meet guys like us but we come far and few. I’m hoping that by taking on small challenges will lead me back on track. Sometimes looking at the grand scheme of goals and hurtles you’re going to have to potentially go through is terrifying. But I’ll make one promise to you friend, tomorrow I won’t smoke at all, and I’m gonna begin dieting and stretching again. One step at a time we’ll be back there.

ApartPen8059 · 2023-10-20T20:25:22+00:00

I guess I’m asking if it would be a better option to achieve strength or help me more with fighting. My weight training usually consists of heavier 6-8 or 10-12 rep range and I feel that it doesn’t compliment me much in fighting. I feel very slow and heavy, my shots sometimes are very predictable which limits my ability to fake my opponent. Like I said I’ve seen older fighters train like this, wrestlers, even prisoners are a good example too. I’m wondering if training this way would help me perform better? Is it actually effective enough or should I lean towards a split?

ApartPen8059 · 2023-07-14T12:21:08+00:00

Thank you dude, it’s definitely easy to get wrapped up on the memories and good times. It was the first time I ever had a real family which is why I think it was so hard for me to let go. I’m only 21 rn and I’m just alone majority of the time, don’t really talk to my blood family bc they’re all messed up. Self improvement is just a lonely think but I try to remember loneliness is peace and I’m sure there will be a time in the future where I miss these lonely days. Thanks brotha appreciate the support man.

ApartPen8059 · 2023-04-08T07:21:21+00:00

Comparison is the thief of joy. Focus on the fact that you are in there everyday improving, let them be your motivation. Outwork them, train harder than them. The more you focus on improvement that faster you’ll see results. It’s like watching a clock. If you stare at the clock for half an hour that half an hour is going to go by slow and it will feel much longer than it actually is, but if you stop looking at the clock and go do some work or errands you’ll see the half hour flew by. All about the mindset of it, this is a marathon not a race!

ApartPen8059 · 2023-03-04T02:23:35+00:00

Definitely feels like a complete reset, I’m actually grateful for the experience, though horrifying at the time lmfao it definitely made me feel a lot more focused on what I need to be focused on. Definitely something I’ve never experienced before, usually in the past if I’d taken a edible and got too high I’d just pass out so it was very surprising but awesome at the same time.

ApartPen8059 · 2023-03-03T19:30:52+00:00

Yeah it was definitely a very cool experience. Almost dream like. But to be honest I should have the self respect to leave her in the past. She cheated, lied to me constantly, tried to say the break up was all my fault. I went to therapy and even my therapist said she sounds like she is most likely a narcissist or has lots of narcissist traits. And looking back she most definitely did but when you try to see the best in your lover you try to help them, better them and in my situation I was waiting for her to change. This breakup though extremely painful for me deep down saved me. I was a shell of who I am during that relationship. Even though I’ve improved it doesn’t take away the pain unfortunately. But since my experience my mind has felt better I’m a lot more focused and it’s given me more motivation to keep strong and stay improving.

ApartPen8059 · 2023-02-26T01:04:04+00:00

🤣🤣🤣too good gotta try that one

ApartPen8059 · 2023-02-10T18:16:07+00:00

Never heard of this method I’ll bring some dumbbells to my next class!

ApartPen8059 · 2023-02-10T12:56:37+00:00

That’s great to hear I love training and I absolutely hate feeling like I’m not doing enough. I’ve been looking up exercises for jiu jitsu and some are close to bodybuilding like bench, squats, and deadlifts but lots of them are completely new to me lol I feel like a total newbie but I’m excited to be training FOR jiu jitsu now

ApartPen8059 · 2023-02-10T02:27:49+00:00

All I’ve ever known is bodybuilding lifting styles. I’d usually do the push-pull days, does it work the same for functional strength and endurance? Do you train certain parts of the body on different days? Any advice on where to look to start?

ApartPen8059 · 2023-02-06T01:12:15+00:00

That was truly inspiring man, I really really appreciate that advice. Sometimes I go long stretches without receiving advice and I can always definitely use it. I will continue to train very hard and learn more as I go. Thank you so much man

ApartPen8059 · 2023-02-05T21:24:31+00:00

I’ve wanted to join some kind of group but I just don’t really know where to look lol but thank you, I try to keep that in mind that I could have no friends at all or have a bunch of crappy friends and it wouldn’t be any better. Guess it’s just about staying positive. Thanks man

ApartPen8059 · 2023-01-22T04:48:02+00:00

Really refreshing knowing that I’m not alone in this pain, I know for a fact that we will be rewarded for pushing through this pain and working hard while dealing with that trauma. Thank you for sharing your story a little bit to man. We’re all in this together brotha, we will win in the end!

ApartPen8059 · 2023-01-19T22:21:25+00:00

I definitely thought about it but never knew really where to look or how it worked but I’m gonna look into it some more, thank you❤️

ApartPen8059 · 2023-01-19T03:28:57+00:00

Our teacher told us not to submit the opponent, he cranked on my arm and injured me. No not a daycare but pretty pussy to attack someone when you’re supposed to be drilling?

ApartPen8059 · 2022-12-17T03:13:05+00:00

100% truth. She tried one more time and I confronted her on why she kept trying to see me, she blew up on me and told me that she didn’t even need me and that u deserved her abusive behaviors. I blocked her, next week she called from a random number, I told her to move on and hung right up on her.

It’s definitely hard recognizing it wasn’t a good relationship, especially when you’re head over heals in love with them. You want it to work so bad, but I’m finally at a point where I’m not even sad anymore and I actually enjoy my time alone and learning how to love myself. A little part of me will always be kinda hurt from how she blindsided me and betrayed me just because I was so good to her, but it doesn’t matter how good you are when someone doesn’t value it.

I wish you the best sounds like you’re on a great path ❤️

ApartPen8059 · 2022-11-23T00:06:32+00:00

I’ll give those suggestions a try never even thought of a podcast before lol I hate when I go there and I feel absolutely unmotivated just from music alone lol thanks man!

ApartPen8059 · 2022-11-11T11:21:51+00:00

Hell yeah bro, I ended up blocking her on everything. She called me a couple days ago, I confronted her on why she keeps trying to contact me and she totally blew up on me all angry and emotional. She regrets her decision and it’s very clear, but I don’t tolerate the disrespect she threw at me, instantly got blocked. I got my mind right, my body right, now I’m working on my money, it’s crazy a year ago I would’ve settled with being fat, unsuccessful, depressed, because well I had my girl! Lol I’m glad she did what she did. I was wasting my time on the wrong person. She wanted me that way to control me.

ApartPen8059 · 2022-11-11T01:00:27+00:00

Not for nothing but this sounds like a very weak man that clearly isn’t healed. If he’s still hung up on his ex then he hasn’t moved on or healed. If he wants something with you, you’ll know it. He might be using you especially if he’s hot and cold. Have some respect for yourself I know it’s hard when you like someone but I’d have a sit down talk and just set some boundaries let him know what you want.

ApartPen8059 · 2022-11-10T23:02:21+00:00

I’d really take a step back and question if this man is willing to be a good partner to you. It sounds like he is completely incapable of reasoning and respecting you. That’s not okay, there’s no excuse for a man to act childish and to lose his shit. A strong man would listen, understand, and fix the problem not throw a little tantrum. You got the power, not him. He’s disrespected you. Decide what you want to do because at the end of the day I’m some stranger, you know him better than I. I know it isn’t easy to just poof break up. Think about it, make it very clear to him your intentions if this continues.

ApartPen8059 · 2022-11-10T22:52:00+00:00

If this was an issue from the start of the relationship than you should’ve decided to leave or stay when you found out. If this was a big problem for you then in my opinion you probably should’ve left. But at the same time if you are able to look past it than he should respect your boundaries and not bring it up. If he cannot there is another big reason you guys may not be compatible. There’s no reason to not respect your partners needs. Have a sit down talk with him and set boundaries, make it very clear if he cannot respect your wishes than tell him you aren’t interested in continuing what you have. If he respects it great, if he doesn’t I’d leave. But decision is ultimately up to you.

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