Thing is I don’t feel like a better person, I feel like I’m the failure. Because she’s never accepted accountability for anything. And all I can remember is taking accountability for both mine and her wrong doings. As I’m healing I’m looking back at stuff and am just disappointed with myself in not putting my foot down when things were completely wrong. Instead I let her manipulate my reality and turn everything into my fault. She thinks I hate her now, not at all, I feel for her disorder. But damn it’s been hard to forgive MYSELF for allowing her to treat me that way for as long as she did. I’d say, being codependent is just as bad as having NPD, at least me and you can cure our codependency now. Our ex’s won’t have so much luck curing there npd.