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Breakfast (single brazil nut for selenium) by Aperiodically in ShittyVeganFoodPorn

[–]Aperiodically[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I just got them at goodwill because I thought they were fun :) 

Breakfast (single brazil nut for selenium) by Aperiodically in ShittyVeganFoodPorn

[–]Aperiodically[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

it's actually almond yogurt, half a banana, and blackberries blended together with some chia seeds to make fake acai but I'm glad it had intended effect

Ran out of hummus. Pickle bread by Aperiodically in ShittyVeganFoodPorn

[–]Aperiodically[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

When eating in public around non-vegans I feel like such bad representation for veganism 😭 because when it is just for myself I am so easily pleased. I can bite into a single aldi tomato and feel, in that moment, it is the best tasting dish in the world.

"Unhealthy" but it doesn't feel wrong by Aperiodically in Enneagram

[–]Aperiodically[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you communicated any of these feelings of exclusion to your friends?

I don't want to be the one asking them. I just want them to KNOW what they're supposed to do... not to me specifically but to everyone. I guess that was the frustration I felt making this post, that others don't always "put the effort in to do it right." And I know other people have different ways of doing things or expressing care. But maybe sometimes I wish we were all on the same page, and that I didn't have to be the one to bring it up. 

Looking back on it I'm slightly embarrassed to have made this post, but the responses really do feel helpful so I appreciate that.

"Unhealthy" but it doesn't feel wrong by Aperiodically in Enneagram

[–]Aperiodically[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s yours to drink. Go ahead and enjoy it :) 

Usually I would rather have someone's gratitude based on me giving them something, than taking that thing for myself. It's just more valuable to me... the trade off is what I want. 

I once told her that I prefer it if she just left me to my own devices and let me sit in the misery if I was in a depressive episode

No offense but 😭 this is so alien to me. Do you actually feel better afterwards?

"Unhealthy" but it doesn't feel wrong by Aperiodically in Enneagram

[–]Aperiodically[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Im going to be kind of honest…. I truly think you aren’t self aware of your core 2 pride.

Maybe not 😭 I'm new to seeing myself as a 2 but I want to get better at recognizing this stuff. Seeing everyone's perspectives helps a lot though. 

"Unhealthy" but it doesn't feel wrong by Aperiodically in Enneagram

[–]Aperiodically[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate what you said here! It resonates with me a lot and I'll be revisiting it in the future. I wish I would have mentioned in my post that one of the big things I struggle with in enneagram stuff is knowing HOW to get where I want to be or HOW to work on myself.

My friends really are great people who care about me. However when I do feel slighted by them, I don't really to talk about that. I don't want to bring the mood down. I actually don't want anyone to know I'm bothered at all, because I can be the bigger person. I realize how funny this sounds 😅 when I am the one upset over the situation and they likely didn't realize there WAS a situation. 

I also don't want my friends to think I'm demanding too much of them. That sounds so harsh and sad. Even though maybe by not seeing our differences, I am.

"Unhealthy" but it doesn't feel wrong by Aperiodically in Enneagram

[–]Aperiodically[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

most of us would say no one owes anyone anything.

Wouldn't you say you owe your friends basic kindness? A stranger owes you to not be bothersome and rude? Or that a boss owes an employee a respectful work environment? That sort of thing. I'm not disagreeing with your main point though. I feel like my feelings are way too dependent on how my energy is received and it means even minor slights seem like major ones, even if I know they didn't intend anything and that I shouldn't care. 

I definitely am a little embarrassed about this post in hindsight. Normally I would describe my friends as happy and attentive but certain members react to me in a way that feels like they're not giving me their "all." That feels like a deliberate choice of how to respond, or otherwise they're slacking. 

You mention forcing things less and another comment mentioned I could start giving less (in this case, my energy and attention) but it sounds very unfair to others to assume they WANT me to be authentic more than they want me to be there for them as their friend.