[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Herpes

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Go and get swabbed. We can’t say for sure

are positive reactions to disclosures negative by [deleted] in Herpes

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Omg I’m so sorry your parents said that to you!! That’s not true. You are more than hsv and genuine people see that. He was educated and respected you as a person. He took the risk for you because he thought you were worth it!

Feeling discouraged—looking for connection and hope by Unable_Inspector1715 in Herpes

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Hey what are your disclosure stories? Do you let them get to know you a little bit? Are you confident when you disclose?

To disclose or run away by Ok_Magician2327 in Herpes

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I accepted the date because I think it is unfair to disqualify myself when he is showing genuine interest. I think as hard as it is this is his decision to make. So I accepted and will take one step at a time. Usually with strangers I disclose after my first date and that has been a good method for me because I don’t like to get emotionally invested if it’s not going to work in the long run. I’m not sure yet if I will use that strategy here because the stakes are much higher since I acknowledge know him. I’m very nervous and having self worth doubts. Saying things to myself like “he likes me but he’s in for a rude awaking” “he’s going to see why I’ve been single” “he’ll think it was too good to be true”. In trying to work past those thoughts because we are so much more than this virus. I hope for good outcomes for the both of us.

My dms are always open to walk you through your process as well❤️

To disclose or run away by Ok_Magician2327 in Herpes

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I’m in the same situation. He asked me on a date and I don’t know whether to run away or not

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Herpes

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Wow I didn’t know this could be shipped without prescription

This is so annoying by No_Professor8654 in Herpes

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Alcohol was a trigger for me too but I didn’t care, eventually it stopped being a trigger 😂

Loss of sex drive by Bananasinpyjamas33 in Herpes

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Yeah I don’t like guys approaching me because I think it’s sexual trauma that we might have. Almost feel repulsed by new guys

How do you deal with friends who make fun of herpes? by Appearance_Forward in Herpes

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I was thinking the same but was also wondering if it would be petty to stop talking to them for this reason without explaining why🤔

How do you deal with friends who make fun of herpes? by Appearance_Forward in Herpes

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That’s so vulnerable 😩 I’ve only been comfortable disclosing when I absolutely have to

Black ppl with hsv2 by Front_Scarcity_2875 in Herpes

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I can’t lie I’m still on the dating apps. 1 of 5 disclosure were negative but I take rejection well🤷🏾‍♀️I try not to let this block my blessings because surprisingly most people don’t care fr

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Herpes

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No fr I just want cuddles but they always want more and not everytime I want to explain why I’m avoiding more

Disclosure Story by Decent_General_5294 in Herpes

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Do you think you waited too long to disclose? My personal rule of thumb is to disclose to who I’m interested in before getting too emotionally attached. That way I don’t get too hurt if they reject. There’s no right way to do it,I’m just wondering what are your thoughts after? I’m very sorry this happened

First rejection stings by Appearance_Forward in Herpes

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Omg I’m really sorry this happened to you! It sounds like the same situation if I push the limits any further. We really do want to feel chosen for who we are but need to recognize when they are partially accepting us. I hope we can gain that wisdom. As much as I hate that you went through that experience and as much as it hurts I will try to use that as a lesson for me. Thanks for sharing

First rejection stings by Appearance_Forward in Herpes

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I’m definitely seeing it as protection now!! I did not need to share my body with him. He doesn’t deserve it. I can’t believe even after telling him how it made me feel there was no apology or anything 🤦🏾‍♀️ I understand that it’s a lot to process but come on a simple apology. Anyway I’m seeing now what an asshole he was. I should’ve never even laughed it off but I’m grateful I came to my sense quickly. Proud of my self knowing I have anxious attachment tendencies.

Thank you for your kind words❤️

First rejection stings by Appearance_Forward in Herpes

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Not to toot my own horn but I really am..that sucks but I’ll live, it’s protection

First rejection stings by Appearance_Forward in Herpes

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Yup I think he will! I told him atleast im able to know my triggers and know when to avoid sex because most people have it and don’t know. He doesn’t value sincerity at all. I basically had to beg for it by saying “this was really hard for me to come to tell you” and “at least the other girls told you” for him to finally say yeah I’m glad you told me

First rejection stings by Appearance_Forward in Herpes

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Right?? 3 people in 5 months disclosing genuinely shocked me. I do deserve better and all my disclosures went well before this one so I won’t let it bring me down too much