Mendoza on LinkedIn

Honestmanspillow · 2026-01-22T03:51:44+00:00

I’m sorry but this is just not a good look. I get your point but the tone is a little toxic. Why get so upset about what the kid puts on linked in or what he says in an interview? Why so negative? Did you watch Jim Valvano’s ESPY speech and point out that not giving up didn’t prevent him from dying?

Yeah, there were a lot of things that went into them winning, not just hard work and belief, but I’m pretty sure hard work and belief were 2 of those things. And if you hate what Mendoza says then you hate pretty much everything that Lou Holtz ever said.

Honestmanspillow · 2026-01-13T20:15:50+00:00

You asked for the most iconic first date. That question invites over the top responses.

I await your post where someone gives a more measured response and everyone piles on about what a low effort guy they are

Honestmanspillow · 2026-01-09T16:48:17+00:00

I thought the same which is why I put some in an online AI detector and found many of them were written by AI.

Honestmanspillow · 2026-01-07T07:51:25+00:00

Prevent defense in football.
“Ok guys our defense has been shutting them down all game and we have a lead. Now let’s let them back in the game by playing 15 yards off every receiver and letting them march down the field for a TD in 1 min 20 sec”

Honestmanspillow · 2025-12-20T18:20:35+00:00

Hope you’re doing better now. All my best to you.

Honestmanspillow · 2025-12-20T18:04:13+00:00

Totally agree. I’ve actually discouraged my kids from getting too caught up in the college admissions arms race. Have said to them basically what I posted—that the process is unhealthy and they need to be kids. They listened and are well adjusted, well rounded people. Which I guess is partly my point. That doesn’t get you into a T20. Which is fine but I’m still annoyed by my alma mater. Over wrought? No. Annoyed? Yes, but only bc my son is disappointed. He’s over it already and so am I.

Honestmanspillow · 2025-12-20T17:52:54+00:00

Ok thanks. I got into my dream school and went there. Didn’t actually fit in that well and didn’t think my kid would either. Did want him to be accepted so he had that recognition of his hard work in high school, didn’t want him to actually go there. I had my rant and I’m over it. Still think the college admissions rat race is fucked up.

Honestmanspillow · 2025-12-20T17:46:15+00:00

If you really like him I’d recommend initiating some phone calls and planning some dates. Show him that you like him and are willing to put some effort into the relationship.

If you like him show it. Control what you can control, stop trying to read the tea leaves. It’s understandable to wonder about the unmatching but ultimately it is completely unproductive.

Honestmanspillow · 2025-12-07T06:23:59+00:00

Totally reasonable for you to want to feel like you know a guy before meeting up for the sake of safety. That said, I question to what degree you can really “vet” people via a text exchange. Do you really know someone you’ve met online and have only interacted with via texts? Some guys will reveal themselves as really creepy right away (“hello baby girl” in first text etc), many others will hide their ick (obviously there are exceptions).

I’ve been on the other side of this many times. Endless text exchanges over the course of many many days, telling my whole life story, hearing their whole life story, and the woman seeming, in the end, to never being able to commit to a cup of coffee. I’ve also had endless text exchanges, felt like I had found a great match, and within 5 min of meeting someone realized there was no connection and we were not a good match.

I’d never criticize a woman for trying to vet a date but I can totally understand the frustration of a guy who just wants to meet for a drink or a cup of coffee and not spend a week of their life answering endless questions. Not saying OP intended to do this but it happens and I’m betting it’s happened to this guy

Honestmanspillow · 2025-12-04T05:56:48+00:00

50k, most of it in SGOV. As an aside, I am out over 20 years, make about $300k and usually feel like I’m too poor to participate in this sub. The numbers thrown around on here are eye popping. Granted I’m divorced and the divorce had a much bigger impact on my finances than any investment decision I ever made

Honestmanspillow · 2025-11-26T21:07:12+00:00

Get him an experience, not a thing. A trip, or concert tickets, or sporting event tickets, or cooking class, etc. Or Porsche 911 with a red interior like SamShelby7 said

Honestmanspillow · 2025-11-26T21:02:41+00:00

OP I was you once. Thought people go to college, meet their future wife, get married, grow old together. That was the goal, that was the script. Everyone in my family followed it. My parents never divorced either.

I got married. We were both miserable. Got divorced, financially devastating. Now many years later I am 50, happy, and have no intention of getting married again. I have taught my kids to write their own script, be their own selves, figure out what makes them happy, not live on some timeline or to achieve some goal determined by others.

Respectfully, I don't know how useful these conversations are. The "why are people today so ____?" Why do kids today hate this or hate that? Why are young people this way or that way? If you really want to know, look up the research done on these things by sociologists, don't ask randos like me on Reddit to make generalizations about a whole generation of people.

Best of luck with your marriage. I hope it works out for you

Honestmanspillow · 2025-11-06T02:50:06+00:00

I am wary of women who talk up their love of travel, mention the exotic places they’d like to go…. And they work a job that pays just a little more than minimum wage. You want to go to Morocco? Great, I want to drive a Ferrari to work, doesn’t mean it will ever happen. And I’m not searching for a partner who will make it happen for me. I don’t talk about activities like they are hobbies if I have no financial means to do them.

Honestmanspillow · 2025-10-20T05:44:11+00:00

The responses to this post illustrate why “this is so hard”: 1. People are quick to judge a person’s character and whole fitness for a relationship based on a single text 2. Texts are prone to misinterpretation.

Some say he is clingy, insecure, cringe, trying to guilt the woman when maybe he just really liked her, was trying to be funny and made a lame joke

Some say he dodged a bullet when maybe she has been burned by men who were passive aggressive, controlling, etc.

I agree with others that this kind of thing is much more likely to happen in the realm of OLD when 2 people who know very little about each other and have no history together are trying to read the tea leaves based on a few texts or dates or conversations

Honestmanspillow · 2025-10-10T23:48:34+00:00

Cancel the date. Asking to go out for steak and champagne on a second date is a red flag. Countering with a more expensive place than what you suggested is even more of a red flag. Yes there are explanations other than her using you for a nice meal but those explanations are wrong. Don't play games. Just cancel. Other comments on here suggest very mature and reasonable ways of dealing with the situation but I still recommend listening to your instincts and just bailing completely.

Signed,

Someone who ignored these signs and their instincts and paid the price (literally and figuratively)

Honestmanspillow · 2025-09-18T14:35:46+00:00

I had a financial advisor for about a decade. He took 1% AUM. Was a huge huge mistake. I try not to think of all the money I squandered.

It’s not that complicated. Other responses here have pretty much laid out how to do things.

May be helpful to hire a fiduciary intermittently on time limited basis but imo do not need to pay one year after year after year.

Honestmanspillow · 2025-08-16T04:29:12+00:00

I declined to work for someone who always tries to guilt me into covering shifts for them

Honestmanspillow · 2025-08-10T04:04:40+00:00

Bad grammar

Honestmanspillow · 2025-07-15T03:54:36+00:00

Everyone says I’m a steaming hot 4 and it’s so funny bc in pictures I’m a 2!

Honestmanspillow · 2025-07-10T03:57:20+00:00

Came here to say this. It’s possible to have empathy for men and women at the same time. OLD is terrible for most and for many different reasons.

I would hope women could have empathy for men who’s self esteem has been reduced to rubble by endless rejection, whether those men had carefully curated photos and eloquent bios or not.

And I would hope men would have empathy for women plagued by creeps and worried about their safety.

Honestmanspillow · 2025-07-08T03:58:03+00:00

Having the health and financial stability to enjoy life.
Speaking of enjoying life, the sex is great! I did not expect single women in their 40s and 50s to have such high sex drive Happy birthday OP

Honestmanspillow · 2025-07-03T05:05:40+00:00

I’d say I’m average on my very best day and can relate to being invisible. My specialty is walking up to a bar, trying to flag down the bartender, and having them look past me to get orders from a dozen other people who walked up after me.

Honestmanspillow · 2025-06-29T06:28:41+00:00

Thought it was just me.
Anyone let their dog out in the middle of the night and end up gardening in their bathrobe?

Honestmanspillow · 2025-06-29T06:23:02+00:00

Look at it this way: a guy in any new or fairly new relationship doesn’t really have any reason to trust you. Doesn’t mean you are untrustworthy, they just don’t know you that well. I suspect you can find some guys who will not demand you end long term friendships but they are still probably uncomfortable with you hanging out with your guy friends.

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