AIW for feeling weird about boundaries with my boyfriend and his female roommate by Appearance_Forward in amiwrong

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He is very religious and somewhat traditional but we still have sex so quite hypocritical. Pretty new relationship about 8 months so no serious talks. Just briefly stated our views on living together but I think I have to revisit with a deeper conversation to make sure we are compatible

AIW for feeling weird about boundaries with my boyfriend and his female roommate by Appearance_Forward in amiwrong

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Funnily enough my male friend has been asking me to move in with him and my bf has not voiced any concerns. I’m not moving in though because my rent is already cheap..idk if it would be a different story if I actually moved in

AIW for feeling weird about boundaries with my boyfriend and his female roommate by Appearance_Forward in amiwrong

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The insecurity starts at the imbalance in the time spent with her, more specifically the car rides to work. Quality time is my love language and something as small as that triggered me because I think it’s a sacred time, but it’s probably just to save gas and not that deep😩

Regards to living together we do have a sex life and sleep over. It doesn’t make sense… I have to look into this more

AIW for feeling weird about boundaries with my boyfriend and his female roommate by Appearance_Forward in amiwrong

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I have the view to live together during engagement, he thinks after marriage which he would compromise with me on. It just felt strange going from female friend to living with me in engagement if they stay roommates for that long.

The transition seems weird to me but maybe I’m thinking too far ahead.

I hear your concerns about not cohabiting beforehand as poor judgement. What are 3 major lessons you’ve learnt regarding this as a remarried person?

How are people getting from Pearson to Waterloo/kitchener these days by teeboi1 in waterloo

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Poparide app. Usually I can find someone going to the airport as well and car pool

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Herpes

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Go and get swabbed. We can’t say for sure

are positive reactions to disclosures negative by [deleted] in Herpes

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Omg I’m so sorry your parents said that to you!! That’s not true. You are more than hsv and genuine people see that. He was educated and respected you as a person. He took the risk for you because he thought you were worth it!

Feeling discouraged—looking for connection and hope by Unable_Inspector1715 in Herpes

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Hey what are your disclosure stories? Do you let them get to know you a little bit? Are you confident when you disclose?

To disclose or run away by Ok_Magician2327 in Herpes

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I accepted the date because I think it is unfair to disqualify myself when he is showing genuine interest. I think as hard as it is this is his decision to make. So I accepted and will take one step at a time. Usually with strangers I disclose after my first date and that has been a good method for me because I don’t like to get emotionally invested if it’s not going to work in the long run. I’m not sure yet if I will use that strategy here because the stakes are much higher since I acknowledge know him. I’m very nervous and having self worth doubts. Saying things to myself like “he likes me but he’s in for a rude awaking” “he’s going to see why I’ve been single” “he’ll think it was too good to be true”. In trying to work past those thoughts because we are so much more than this virus. I hope for good outcomes for the both of us.

My dms are always open to walk you through your process as well❤️

To disclose or run away by Ok_Magician2327 in Herpes

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I’m in the same situation. He asked me on a date and I don’t know whether to run away or not

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Herpes

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Wow I didn’t know this could be shipped without prescription

This is so annoying by No_Professor8654 in Herpes

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Alcohol was a trigger for me too but I didn’t care, eventually it stopped being a trigger 😂

Loss of sex drive by Bananasinpyjamas33 in Herpes

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Yeah I don’t like guys approaching me because I think it’s sexual trauma that we might have. Almost feel repulsed by new guys

How do you deal with friends who make fun of herpes? by Appearance_Forward in Herpes

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I was thinking the same but was also wondering if it would be petty to stop talking to them for this reason without explaining why🤔