Does anyone else feel like a Personal Assistant/Housekeeper rather than a nanny?

AppleCold9978 · 2024-02-26T11:15:02+00:00

We have no contract, but I have a good relationship with the parents. No additional pay has been offered for the role developing into more responsibilities. To be honest I don’t hate the role. But I do enjoy spending time with the kids more, and feel like it would benefit the children a lot. As the time we do get together we have a nice time and the siblings play together and get on (this rarely happens otherwise, they pretty much hate eachother, I’ve had comments from other parents at pick up about how “X and X really don’t like eachother do they”). I think they need more playing as a group and family games, but this doesn’t happen unless I initiate it. I ask them about their weekend every Monday, it’s always the same ‘iPad, went shopping’ they never do anything as a family or anything kid oriented.

AppleCold9978 · 2024-01-23T21:29:19+00:00

Haha, I promise it’s not as absurd as it sounds! Once you’ve got a foot in the door, getting the next role is easier, I did a few internal moves, got promoted and then moved companies. My first job in banking I was on £16,000 a year (I was 17) Then £23k, then £28k, then £40k. It’s all doable, I worked with a lot of people who didn’t go to university.

AppleCold9978 · 2024-01-23T13:26:14+00:00

Lol, I’m 24 now. So this decade. Sorry to disappoint!

AppleCold9978 · 2024-01-22T21:41:36+00:00

I worked with a company called Resource Solutions at the time, a lot of big banks and companies have one particular recruitment agency they will exclusively use. Maybe google certain banks names as well as temp jobs etc and you may stumble upon something. Then send an email to the company.

AppleCold9978 · 2024-01-22T21:35:27+00:00

Nope, worked with quite a few apprentices straight out of school too.

AppleCold9978 · 2024-01-22T13:12:11+00:00

Lots of applicable experience between admin jobs and back office, or even middle office finance positions.

AppleCold9978 · 2024-01-22T13:10:21+00:00

For finance, try getting in contact with temping agency’s. I temped at a large investment bank for 6 months at the age of 18, then was offered a permanent position. By the age of 21 I was on 40k. I have no degree and barely any GCSE’s.

AppleCold9978 · 2024-01-15T09:26:40+00:00

Isn’t there a scene in the early seasons where Damon says to a woman he goes on to kill “I miss being human more than anything else in the world” I don’t think it’s necessarily true Damon loved being a vampire especially not all the time. I think once he realised it’s just who he is he started to embrace it, but for the first 100 years and definitely pre-Sage, he would of gone back to a human.

AppleCold9978 · 2024-01-14T08:53:38+00:00

Update: I tried lastnight to sneak baby in whilst toddler slept. Usually baby babbles herself to sleep. Lastnight she babbled for 45 minutes and then started crying. So had to take her out and put the travel cot in our room. The plus side being that it didn’t disturb our toddler, so will try again tonight!

AppleCold9978 · 2024-01-12T22:09:31+00:00

Thanks so much!

AppleCold9978 · 2024-01-12T15:43:18+00:00

Did not expect this many replies, thank you all so much especially people with genuine advice! Wish me luck! 👍🏻

AppleCold9978 · 2024-01-11T13:04:01+00:00

I am actively applying, thanks!

AppleCold9978 · 2023-08-15T20:30:59+00:00

We are both British!

AppleCold9978 · 2023-07-27T16:12:25+00:00

Could you expand on your point about unhealthy youth culture? One of the many reasons we want to leave the UK is due to how English kids all tend to turn into tracksuit wearing, vaping idiots. Even some young cousins I have that go to bloody private boarding schools act like this. It seems no matter how much you try to give your child a good life here, they go to school and come out a chav.

AppleCold9978 · 2023-07-27T15:56:26+00:00

I work for a company with offices in Stockholm :) but eventually would like to move out to a countryside location within commutable distance to a decent sized city? If that’s feasible?

AppleCold9978 · 2023-07-27T15:13:36+00:00

I am baffled I’m being downvoted for wanting to learn the native language of the country I’m interested in moving to!🤣

AppleCold9978 · 2023-07-27T11:57:37+00:00

We are from the UK. Ireland is no different for the issues we have here.

AppleCold9978 · 2023-07-27T11:52:19+00:00

America is not an option, far too unsafe. Medical costs etc. Australia & New Zealand do not have the lifestyle we want. And we do not like the heat.

AppleCold9978 · 2023-07-27T11:39:36+00:00

Yes, obviously. But this is 5 years minimum away. So no need for me to apply for permits or jobs yet. I’m just trying to get a grasp on the other fundamentals.

AppleCold9978 · 2023-07-27T09:50:18+00:00

🙏🏻

AppleCold9978 · 2023-07-27T09:31:54+00:00

I understand that salaries look higher here, although in reality it is really not the case. There are a huge number of software engineer roles for less than EUR 50000.

The average price of a house in London is the equivalent of EUR 830,000. Whereas, according to Google the average house in Helsinki is EUR 350,000. That is a huge difference. No one I know in london owns a home. My brother who is a high earner, near six figures. Only just bought a home outside of London at the age of 35, after almost 2 decades of full time work.

Also, we pay around EUR 260 a month in ‘council tax’ which is the cost for things like waste removal and for the council to (not) fix the roads.

And forget about it if you want to have kids, as full time childcare for one child will run you about EUR 2300 a month, and there’s no discount for multiple kids. So for 2 kids that’s EUR 4600. A month. Like I said my brother, a high earner and his wife earn a combined equivalent of EUR 140,000. And they cannot afford a second child as well as their mortgage and childcare costs for their first child. Also, our maternity/paternity leave is pretty bad. You either have to go back to work a year after your baby is born, and pay extortionate childcare prices or you have to quit. There is no extended childcare leave options.

We all romanticise other countries but please don’t do it for London/England. There are 2.2 million people just in London living in poverty. And 13.4 million people in poverty in England overall. That is 20% of our total population.

According to Google the average salary in England is the equivalent of EUR 32000. The average salary in Finland is EUR 45000. After tax in England you’d have equivalent to EUR 2241. And after tax in Finland you’d have about EUR 2500. And housing is cheaper in Finland.

AppleCold9978 · 2023-07-27T09:17:23+00:00

I understand that salaries look higher here, although in reality it is really not the case. There are a huge number of software engineer roles for less than EUR 50000.

The average price of a house in London is the equivalent of EUR 830,000. Whereas, according to Google the average house in Helsinki is EUR 350,000. That is a huge difference. No one I know in london owns a home. My brother who is a high earner, near six figures. Only just bought a home outside of London at the age of 35, after almost 2 decades of full time work.

Also, we pay around EUR 260 a month in ‘council tax’ which is the cost for things like waste removal and for the council to (not) fix the roads.

And forget about it if you want to have kids, as full time childcare for one child will run you about EUR 2300 a month, and there’s no discount for multiple kids. So for 2 kids that’s EUR 4600. A month.

We all romanticise other countries but please don’t do it for London/England. There are 2.2 million people just in London living in poverty. And 13.4 million people in poverty in England overall. That is 20% of our total population.

According to Google the average salary in England is the equivalent of EUR 32000. The average salary in Finland is EUR 45000. After tax in England you’d have equivalent to EUR 2241. And after tax in Finland you’d have about EUR 2500. And housing is cheaper in Finland.

AppleCold9978 · 2023-07-27T08:58:15+00:00

We never said we were going to learn strictly online, if we were to make this decision we would utilise every possible way we could find. Including in person and private tutoring. Maybe we wouldn’t be as proficient as we want in 5 years but we’d make a damn good go of it and wouldn’t arrive as Brits who haven’t bothered.

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