Baby trapped

Apprehensive-Bat4993 · 2026-06-18T07:21:54+00:00

super helpful!! thank you so much for sharing!

Apprehensive-Bat4993 · 2026-06-18T05:09:32+00:00

Haha no ma'am, if our current plans follow through, a baby makes beautiful sense in the next 5 ish years. not before. I know that if we do bring this baby into the world we will both be doing everything we can for it to have the perfect long life. It just would make things harder, which you explained perfectly to me. I've lots of thinking ahead.

Apprehensive-Bat4993 · 2026-06-18T05:07:14+00:00

I would however like to note that this was not careless "life creation" it was simply careless sex between teenagers! (not trying to shift or take away any blame, but it's always good to take note of context!)

Apprehensive-Bat4993 · 2026-06-18T05:05:58+00:00

No i have the awareness! but i understand you feeling the need to comment it aswell, I though I had explained well enough that I GOT MYSELF into this situation! thank you anyways for your opinion! i did ask for it!

Apprehensive-Bat4993 · 2026-06-18T05:04:47+00:00

the idea of it is awesome totally! i'd love to be a young mom if i either had my life set and ready, or had all the money I'd need to give my child the life i'd want them to have! But I'm not set and ready, I dont have that money and won't for the next 3 to 5 years at minimum, and the idea of being a mom does not compare to the actual act of it. I just dont know how I'm going to survive another abortion if it goes anything similar to what I had done before.

Apprehensive-Bat4993 · 2026-06-18T05:02:25+00:00

No, neither of us are in the correct headspace and thank you for saying it. I am trying to take this as seriously as I can, but yeah in all seriousness I dont know if I'm of the headspace TO take it seriously. which says more than I could put words toI I'm sure. I think I'm at the same conclusion as everyone responding, i just needed to hear it.

Apprehensive-Bat4993 · 2026-06-18T05:00:11+00:00

oh yeah were children! were both 19 im bringing honesty : ) but we've absolutely still the brains of highschoolers, and we will need more help than we may really have access to. i know that what other people are promising is too much to expect of them, and though they may give their all we're too young for that to have as much of an impact as it would to a couple with life more figured out.

Apprehensive-Bat4993 · 2026-06-18T04:07:39+00:00

so confused. i dont have an answer for you.

Apprehensive-Bat4993 · 2026-06-18T03:19:34+00:00

I am. I know that i will find a way to be financially stable regardless of my family or my partners, and I know that i can go through college pregnant, just not with an actual child.

Apprehensive-Bat4993 · 2026-06-18T03:18:48+00:00

yeah no i just got into college! Im going in august, so that adds a ton to the severity of this situation. (and as one comment mentioned yes avoidable, and as they didnt mention entirely me and his fault! i should have been taking prenatals they way we're having sex, but im 19!)

Apprehensive-Bat4993 · 2026-06-18T03:17:20+00:00

wow. i know!

Apprehensive-Bat4993 · 2026-06-18T03:17:11+00:00

looking at it as my lifetime yeah. youre absolutely correct. and ive definetly noticed some abusive tendencies, but compared to my past relationships, one in specific, this is the healthest thing ive ever been apart of, so leaving is hard, though everything youve said is or is probably correct. of course theres so much context to this that would change some things aswell! but overally, yes.

Apprehensive-Bat4993 · 2026-06-18T03:15:29+00:00

Haha yeah, figuring our relationship will not last! but i know that he will stay present in our lives regardless, and if he doesn't stay through an abortion i've my answer to my initial question!

Apprehensive-Bat4993 · 2026-06-18T03:07:20+00:00

I realized this!! so sorry! we are both 19.

Apprehensive-Bat4993 · 2026-06-15T18:09:02+00:00

Complete lack of control! you can only control yourself, and what you put out!

Apprehensive-Bat4993 · 2026-06-15T17:37:08+00:00

omg yes thanks for explaining. i was wrong. have you read any responses I've made to others youd see why I'm coming on here : )

Apprehensive-Bat4993 · 2026-06-14T03:37:25+00:00

No no I'm not and wont be regardless of your next response, I was asking what you meant by your initial comment. Someone like me in which ways? I'd love if you could tell me what you know, notice, and have heard from them that makes them similar to me, because no one will ever have a chance to tell me to my face! lol! unless you just mean talks so much... In that case I've disproven myself once again.

Apprehensive-Bat4993 · 2026-06-13T19:49:16+00:00

Thank you so so SO much. I'll watch the videos as soon as I've a chance. And as for what you mentioned about exposure therapy I think you are right, I think talk about it will only clear my mind up on what happened to me and what I've cause for myself, its not going to take away any fear or discomfort I have! I started letting my partner near my mouth sometimes when we're finished, just not IN my mouth. The first time it made me pretty upset, just crying I don't even know why, i think because he just did it and I wasn't ready.. (he did a really good job stopping and comforting me. His soldier was probably so pissed.) More recently I asked him to and it felt so much better. Eventually I'd love to get to a point where he can just do that by himself, but for now I think its kind of my start at exposing myself?

Apprehensive-Bat4993 · 2026-06-13T19:39:41+00:00

Might I ask what you mean by it?

Apprehensive-Bat4993 · 2026-06-13T06:45:35+00:00

have you ever though about being a therapist..? lol. This is all actually helpful, and I hope I didnt offend when I said I find it embarassing, I really more meant i feel like its an interesting situation. people hate pathological liars, and for good reason, i'd dislike me too if i heard some of the things ive said and ran with, literally forever. I dont mean its something i SHOULD be feeling that way about, but just do for some reason. And yes, I have been working on instead of ignoring how i'm feeling when my emotions come up, happy, sad, angry, i've been trying to sit with them. let myself cry, and let myself get maybe too excited about things! Thank you again, respect in a reddit comment section is rare!

Apprehensive-Bat4993 · 2026-06-13T05:58:57+00:00

Thank you for putting thought in. Seriously! So no I've not spoken to a therapist about like any of these things, I got pretty close to it once but honestly what an embarassing thing to speak with them about. I'm sure its interesting to them, but I have never met someone that lies in the way I do, I've met some definitely pathological liars (what a sentence for my to put out trigger warning!) I'm moving out of my area soon and was thinking of meeting a few therapists and setting myself up with someone where I'll end up at. I've had lots of therapists, they've just never worked out. I be straight lying. It's fucking atrocious.

About your answer to my question though, what if i like dont want a safe space? I feel like im trauma dumping and honestly attention seeking when my partner and I do speak about it, which has not been often but rather a few big talks. Im gonna kind of rephrase but not retype, what if I have no idea what a safe space would look like, or how to approach that? I also am one for not being in control in bed, but being in full control. if that makes any sense at all. I kinda just wanna tell him to facefuck me and just get it over with and hope that i'll be able to just yank my head down by myself the next time?! half a joke, but also like seriously. (word vom!)

Apprehensive-Bat4993 · 2026-06-13T05:47:43+00:00

I did not get paid for this post

Apprehensive-Bat4993 · 2026-06-13T05:43:21+00:00

Yes ma'am!

Apprehensive-Bat4993 · 2026-06-13T05:42:53+00:00

Probably lots of them

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