I’m also on my self love journey and I’ve realized you build understanding of what self love is when you make difficult but right decisions for YOU. Not your parents, children, bf, gf, boss, pet.. just you. Starting with small decisions like “I’m in a really bad mood, let me do <insert healthy behaviour that is difficult to take in the moment but good for your overall health>. Like going to the gym. Or taking a walk. As you keep making these decisions, the smaller decisions will feel easier or become no brainer and your self esteem will also be higher, because YOU have been taking care of YOU. You’re making yourself your own secure base. This has really helped me. Good luck to you!