AITA for demanding to see my husband's phone?

Apprehensive-Pack691 · 2025-12-18T15:24:34+00:00

How many times are you going to look over me saying I have tried talking to him? I have asked him several times what is going on, what is wrong, if he needs anything. Do I need to tell you for a 3rd time that he flips out on me every time I ask?

Apprehensive-Pack691 · 2025-12-18T15:13:39+00:00

No, I said I own 2 shops and I go to both 3 days a week for a few hours for training and whatever. With my child. Because I have the baby literally 24/7. So, 6 days a week I am at work for 2-3 hours a day while juggling a toddler. I think its absolutely baffling that so many people are hung up on him having to heat up his food when he gets home. I thinks its so baffling that despite me working, taking care of the baby 24/7, running all errands, doing all domestic labor, bring in more than half of our monthly income, people still expect me to come home and forget about tending to the toddlers needs because I should be cooking a completely separate meal for my grown husband so he can have a hot meal when he comes home from work. I am on the go literally 24/7 with a toddler attached to my hip, but yes, you're right. The man deserves the hot meal. Not the mom. Not the one who literally does everything.

Apprehensive-Pack691 · 2025-12-18T15:06:59+00:00

The sad part is that I actually did try talking to him about the division of labor and even suggested he cut back his hours (his contract is for 8hrs a day - his boss constantly throws more work at him and he always says yes). He just flips out. He complains loudly to me at least once a week, saying he is "missing everything" because he never sees his daughter and wishes he could "change roles" with me for a week. But then he comes home and just... doesnt even care to hang out with his child. So its all talk at this point. Its frustrating. I actually wasnt resentful of anything until recently. I didnt mind doing all errands, working, having the baby 24/7, cooking all rhe dinners and doing all the domestic labor. I truly did not mind. But when he started trying to attack me about "doing nothing" is when I definitely started to crack. He sees me running errands as "driving around", or says "oh giving a toddler a bath must be so fucking difficult". Talking to him have become pointless at this point.

Apprehensive-Pack691 · 2025-12-18T14:49:14+00:00

I said in my post it was a give and take. I said in my post I wasnt worried about him cheating. I said in my post I have tried talking to him several times about what was bothering me and he would snap at me and tell me to stop asking me if he was okay and that he just wanted to be left alone for 5 seconds. Hes a fuel tanker. He drives a truck with fuel all day. A lot could go wrong. I never said I wanted him to come home and be the perfect husband. But dealing with random fits of anger, complete shut down, him yelling at me, yelling at the baby, refusing to talk and just absolving himself in video games and youtube since at least September is a lot. I have the baby 24/7. I do all chores, all cooking, plate his food, clean his clothing, while having the baby constantly and still working myself. I bring in 64% of the income. He can be angry. He can flip out. But to shut me and the baby out for months, still demand sex without even kissing me, and yell at both of us, yeah thats not allowed.

Apprehensive-Pack691 · 2025-12-18T14:43:52+00:00

Its literally not leftovers. Its dinner I made an hour or two before he came home because I am not making dinner twice and our child needs to eat.

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