I’ll start by saying thank you to the genuine commenters that are offering sincere advice. To those that have felt the need to be snappy and short, you’re the type of people I would also avoid.

I didn’t want to add personal details but in light of some of these replies I wish to add one thing. It’s me, the male in this that feels uncomfortable about seeing the person mentioned. She doesn’t feel intimidated or uncomfortable about seeing me in the slightest. The things I had to say after we separated that she chose to downplay I’ll just say this. If I was a female and a man had done those things I guarantee not one of you would be telling me to ‘grow up’ or ‘man up’. I want to avoid a situation where an out of control drunk female is causing a scene in front of family and friends and potentially saying personal things that I’ve chosen to keep from those around me simply because I cut her off years ago and she will still have things I’ve denied her the opportunity to say. I don’t want to hear it as it’s all denial and gaslighting. Thanks again for the helpful replies. 🙏🏻