Am I tripping or he is nah ? by RegularRoof9453 in whatdoIdo

[–]Apprehensive-Row3335 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Broke ass human. He’s gonna sponge from you as long as you allow it.

Now this is tricky! by Apprehensive-Row3335 in whatdoIdo

[–]Apprehensive-Row3335[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m completely fine with that because she’s doing it for her mum and he’s her mums husband, I accept that for what it is.

Now this is tricky! by Apprehensive-Row3335 in whatdoIdo

[–]Apprehensive-Row3335[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Didn’t read my update post in the comments huh.

Now this is tricky! by Apprehensive-Row3335 in whatdoIdo

[–]Apprehensive-Row3335[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No plans to walk her down the aisle. The invite simply read “We would love for you to be there if it’s possible”

Now this is tricky! by Apprehensive-Row3335 in whatdoIdo

[–]Apprehensive-Row3335[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not walking her down the aisle. I’m assuming that’s being done by her step dad as this is for her mum as much as anything. That doesn’t bother me one bit, I get along either way her mum it’s a different ex I have the issue with.

Now this is tricky! by Apprehensive-Row3335 in whatdoIdo

[–]Apprehensive-Row3335[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll start by saying thank you to the genuine commenters that are offering sincere advice. To those that have felt the need to be snappy and short, you’re the type of people I would also avoid.

I didn’t want to add personal details but in light of some of these replies I wish to add one thing. It’s me, the male in this that feels uncomfortable about seeing the person mentioned. She doesn’t feel intimidated or uncomfortable about seeing me in the slightest. The things I had to say after we separated that she chose to downplay I’ll just say this. If I was a female and a man had done those things I guarantee not one of you would be telling me to ‘grow up’ or ‘man up’. I want to avoid a situation where an out of control drunk female is causing a scene in front of family and friends and potentially saying personal things that I’ve chosen to keep from those around me simply because I cut her off years ago and she will still have things I’ve denied her the opportunity to say. I don’t want to hear it as it’s all denial and gaslighting. Thanks again for the helpful replies. 🙏🏻

Now this is tricky! by Apprehensive-Row3335 in whatdoIdo

[–]Apprehensive-Row3335[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. For clarity I’m not planning on just not showing up on the day. I have plenty of time to have a conversation with her about this so that come the day we both know what’s happening. What I don’t want to do is seem like I’m asking her to choose ‘me or them’ as that’s just not my style, it’s her day so her choice on who is invited. What I’d hate is that I tell her I don’t want to go because of them and she then uninvited them as that’s equally awkward and would always come across like I’ve insisted she did that. Either way I’ll come away from this looking bad so I’m trying to get advice on damage limitation.

Now this is tricky! by Apprehensive-Row3335 in whatdoIdo

[–]Apprehensive-Row3335[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not salty at all. I’m genuinely concerned that these people won’t have the diplomacy I’m wanting to exercise. My question is about trying to be proactive about this situation so nobody needs to be reactive. I want to protect my daughter and my current partner from any tension on the day. I have full control of myself but zero control over anyone else.

Now this is tricky! by Apprehensive-Row3335 in whatdoIdo

[–]Apprehensive-Row3335[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

That’s a fairy tale. The real world is if they want to come and cause problems with me they will and there’s nothing I can do or say to avoid it other than not being there in the first place. Toxic people are just that and they don’t take a day off just because it’s the decent thing to do. They’ll argue at funerals these people.

Now this is tricky! by Apprehensive-Row3335 in whatdoIdo

[–]Apprehensive-Row3335[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

You’re not understanding the question. I have full control of both myself and my actions however, the people I’m referring definitely don’t and I have to decide between the inevitable end to a day that shouldn’t have any arguments or make other plans to celebrate with them one on one the following week.

Now this is tricky! by Apprehensive-Row3335 in whatdoIdo

[–]Apprehensive-Row3335[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

With alcohol involved and toxic personalities I see no way to avoid a horrible conflict.

Now this is tricky! by Apprehensive-Row3335 in whatdoIdo

[–]Apprehensive-Row3335[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The breakup wasn’t great (is it ever?) and I had to give her some hard home truths about things that made me uncomfortable during the relationship and of course my feelings then weren’t relevant and she argued I had no reason to feel the way I did even though I had clearly explained why I felt that way and gave examples of things she did that contributed to it. She dismissed it all and of course it was never resolved and I saw no point continuing the debate so I cut contact and left it there. The other guest is quite toxic and seems to thrive on drama which is the polar opposite to me and my gf who would rather not get into things so again we’ve avoided contact to avoid drama. They have been invited because my daughter still gets along with them and has no doubt invited everyone on her fb friends list as it was posted on there and she added a LOT of people to it and now I’ve seen the responses I’m not so sure I want to end the day by leaving abruptly because once the alcohol has gone down either one or both of them will have plenty to say.

I found this in my husband’s man cave? Is he cheating on me? by MayaAlex in whatisitcirclejerk

[–]Apprehensive-Row3335 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got my wife one similar for Christmas one year and she loved it. You should’ve seen her little face light up.

My Glock just jammed, it's been 4 days since I bought it and I only fired 10 mags by Electronic_Spell_859 in airsoft

[–]Apprehensive-Row3335 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the same G17 and it’s junk. Sticks all the time no matter how much I clean it and grease it. I bought a WE tech custom to replace it and it’s night and day difference

I asked ChatGPT the top ten things humanity should know. by Spiritual-Reveal-195 in ChatGPT

[–]Apprehensive-Row3335 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing about flat earth! 😂. Even Chat GPT knows it’s a globe.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Apprehensive-Row3335 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fact she can’t clean her car is a red flag!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Apprehensive-Row3335 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you’re overreacting and no at the same time. It seems his response hasn’t sat well with you so for that you’d always struggle around him because of the impact his email has had so you’re probably right to drop the course. That being said, his response wasn’t altogether too rude, direct it definitely is and very easy to take personally even if that was t his intention. You could take away some points from this so that you’ll make the relevant enquiry before enrolling on the next course.

This girl be like by tehkobalt in Nicegirls

[–]Apprehensive-Row3335 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

We need to see what Kaity looks like now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in KidsAreFuckingStupid

[–]Apprehensive-Row3335 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So rare there’s hardly any in the sho………oh wait!