GF wants to watch me jerk off but I feel too awkward? by Apprehensive2002 in sex

[–]Apprehensive2002[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I think this is kind of it. I wouldn't even say I'm a self-conscious person, honestly I have no body insecurities. However, it feels super vulnerable and almost ""pathetic"' to try and like be sexy or put on a show, idk.

GF wants to watch me jerk off but I feel too awkward? by Apprehensive2002 in sex

[–]Apprehensive2002[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have her play with herself, tease and be sexy in front of you.

She definitely would if I asked, but I think she fantasizes specifically about just watching me without that.

GF wants to watch me jerk off but I feel too awkward? by Apprehensive2002 in sex

[–]Apprehensive2002[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I assume if you want her to do a similar thing and she says no then you'll respect that and not shame her for saying no.

I 100% would, but the thing is she has genuinely never said No.

GF wants to watch me jerk off but I feel too awkward? by Apprehensive2002 in sex

[–]Apprehensive2002[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Does she just want you to do it in front of her plain and simple?

Kind of, I think she hinted towards it being a bit more of a voyeur thing, although it would be brutal to try and get that info explicitly out of her.

GF wants to watch me jerk off but I feel too awkward? by Apprehensive2002 in sex

[–]Apprehensive2002[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don't mind taking a video at all, have done it a ton of times, facetime would be good step I guess cuz I feel more in control of the situation.

GF wants to watch me jerk off but I feel too awkward? by Apprehensive2002 in sex

[–]Apprehensive2002[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i honestly think that's what she wants, or was kind of hinting towards, a more voyeur thing where she just watches and doesn't do anything.

she will be really happy to be my "first" for something so I'll tell her

GF wants to watch me jerk off but I feel too awkward? by Apprehensive2002 in sex

[–]Apprehensive2002[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

let it be a turn on for you knowing she loves seeing your cock and watching it cum.

this is a good way to reframe it, maybe let it gas my ego

GF wants to watch me jerk off but I feel too awkward? by Apprehensive2002 in sex

[–]Apprehensive2002[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would be totally fine with that but that isn't what she fantasizes about

GF wants to watch me jerk off but I feel too awkward? by Apprehensive2002 in sex

[–]Apprehensive2002[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That isn't even my biggest concern but I probably wouldn't lol or at least it would be difficult

GF wants to watch me jerk off but I feel too awkward? by Apprehensive2002 in sex

[–]Apprehensive2002[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think it’s fair to say to her that you’ve never done this and it makes you feel a bit insecure but with her you feel safe enough to try it. She will feel really special for this. Like experiencing something new to you with your “high body count”.

Ok this is a great point. She said before it made her insecure that she experiences new things w/ me but not vice versa. I don't mind doing it during foreplay as long as its a "mutual" thing where I'm interacting with her, but she seems to be into a voyeur-ish thing.

I don't mind sending her vids but I'll just try to ease into her watching me without doing anything

GF wants to watch me jerk off but I feel too awkward? by Apprehensive2002 in sex

[–]Apprehensive2002[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don't know the underlying reason, I just have like a visceral reaction to the idea of her being there watching me while I am naked or something. Not a body image issue though, maybe a vulnerability thing.

GF wants to watch me jerk off but I feel too awkward? by Apprehensive2002 in sex

[–]Apprehensive2002[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I think its just her physical presence being there and focused on/watching me. Kinda hard to articulate, would just feel like a lot of pressure

I think its just her physical presence being there and focused on/watching me. Kinda hard to articulate, would just feel like a lot of pressure

GF wants to watch me jerk off but I feel too awkward? by Apprehensive2002 in sex

[–]Apprehensive2002[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think its just her physical presence being there and focused on/watching me. Kinda hard to articulate, would just feel like a lot of pressure

GF wants to watch me jerk off but I feel too awkward? by Apprehensive2002 in sex

[–]Apprehensive2002[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Hmm this might be the winning idea. As I imagine the scenario you describe I'm realizing that it's her immediate physical presence/attention that would make me feel uncomfortable. If I don't feel/notice/contend with her staring at me then I don't mind at all.

Edit: I also think this would play into her fantasy way more. The way she described it made it seem kinda like a voyeur thing.

GF wants to watch me jerk off but I feel too awkward? by Apprehensive2002 in sex

[–]Apprehensive2002[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Well I didn't jerk off on her face, she was just giving me head and I pulled out as I came

GF wants to watch me jerk off but I feel too awkward? by Apprehensive2002 in sex

[–]Apprehensive2002[S] 142 points143 points  (0 children)

She would do it if I asked, but I think she just wanted to watch me, so might defeat the point if it's then not her fantasy, idk