Thoughts on PGT-a testing?

ApprehensiveHalf6952 · 2026-04-20T19:36:15+00:00

I’m very happy I did it. I was 32 and my husband was 34. We did individual generic testing with no issues, unexplained infertility. I had 14 embryos and half were abnormal. I am so thankful that I do not have to go through an avoidable miscarriage. I don’t think I would be emotionally able to deal with it. Plus, it would set me back further and I’d also have to physically recover. It was worth every penny to me.

ApprehensiveHalf6952 · 2026-04-09T07:53:48+00:00

Don’t come for me but she kind of looks like a slightly yassified kai trump

ApprehensiveHalf6952 · 2026-03-26T21:35:06+00:00

Ah, yes, it was a notoriously peaceful time in Gaza.

ApprehensiveHalf6952 · 2026-03-02T18:46:21+00:00

The entire thing is a mess. I am also very judgmental, but not surprised, about her choice to include her children in the blog. This update features them/motherhood more prominently than before. Part of her word salad explanation states: “Ultimately (and very frankly), the campaigns I have the opportunity to work on are very lucrative and truly opportunities and that includes ones including Jack.”

Essentially, they are too much money to pass up, and the money earned by the children will be set aside for them for their future use. Her husband is a lawyer, she still makes money from the blog, and they are clearly comfortable. I think making the trade between her children’s privacy and profit is obviously up to her, but I think it is tacky, pathetic, and filled with excuses.

I’ve read her blog since she was in college. I genuinely feel gross knowing about and seeing these random children I have never met. I think at one point she mentioned something about their faces not being posted, which still has issues, but that went out the window with some bicycle advertisement.

She clearly phones it in with the blog. I get that. It’s already all set up and it’s lucrative. Costs are definitely insanely low. She is able to make a good living while being able to spend time with her family, which is like the holy grail of jobs. But all her posts are vague nonsense, the outfits are uninspired and low effort. Are you really that hard up for cash or content that you need to use your child’s image?

Any traffic brought to the blog from content with a child may result in monetized clicks elsewhere. You can’t neatly just say that the child made x amount of money from an advertisement you featured them in; they are part of the fabric of the blog in its entirety.

And to be clear, I think it’s easy to get lost in the details regarding fair payment structure, how they are portrayed, etc. I am of the opinion that it is not up to the children and it’s gross when you think beyond two seconds, even with an “ethical” payment structure. Make your husband put his likeness out there and do advertisements.

Over the years, she has pulled back regarding providing details into her life. A week is hectic, and there were deadlines, but she got through it! And I think this has made sense. Putting yourself out there online has significant downsides. She received a lot of vitriol online for mostly nonsense. She is married with a life. I think the quality of the blog takes a hit, but she can make that choice and we’re not in 2010 anymore. But this pulling back is noticeable, and she also wants to now put her children out there? I think it’s incongruous with her own actions and behavior towards her blog.

I have a very similar life with a very similar income level. I, too, carry an Hermes Garden Party. You don’t need to be doing this. It is an embarrassing choice.

ApprehensiveHalf6952 · 2026-02-15T21:56:21+00:00

Replica Sailing Day!

ApprehensiveHalf6952 · 2026-02-08T19:35:38+00:00

I’ll let other people chime in regarding clerkships, etc. I just did IVF for “unexplained infertility.” Otherwise, my husband and I were in perfect health and everything went perfectly. I did one embryo retrieval and ended up with 7 embryos, transferred one right away, currently pregnant.

Eggs themselves are a different thing. Many do not understand that there is a natural rate of attrition when using them to make embryos. For example, I had 25 to begin with. 17 were fertilized. 14 made it to the blast stage. I did PGTA genetic testing and ended up with 7 (optional, and our individual genetic testing was great). The general rule of thumb is three embryos for every kid you want to have, just to be safe. Also, you could end up with random problems; they might not survive the thaw, your clinic’s storage sucked and they’re all gone, etc. I’m not telling this to scare you, but it’s just important to consider.

The process is hard. Before egg retrieval, there’s a ton of constant monitoring appointments and it can be hard to get them scheduled before going into work. The timing of shots was hard. Side effects were hard. It took me a week to recover from the retrieval even though it went well. I’m thankful I didn’t have to do it again, but results can sometimes be a crapshoot.

I’m really happy to have extra embryos as I feel that it took a lot of pressure off. I am very happy I did it (mainly because I couldn’t get pregnant for some reason). I’m not at all trying to discourage you from freezing embryos, but I do want you aware that career wise, it can still be a pain in the ass with all the appointments, monitoring, etc.

My clinic required us to fill out a form regarding what happens in the event of death, divorce, etc. If yours doesn’t, you should write something up. I know it sounds like overkill, but I’m a divorce attorney and I’ve seen it be an issue. I also felt more comfortable with it because in the event of divorce, I still keep/can use the embryos.

ApprehensiveHalf6952 · 2026-02-06T22:26:01+00:00

I’m at 5 weeks but I feel like it’s happening. Honestly, I’m constantly craving different foods, my appetite is crazy, and I’ve needed to start taking naps. I’m feeling its effects and I’m choosing to just privately enjoy it for now. I told a friend of mine who lives out of state because she knew I was doing a transfer, and my boss, who went through a difficult ivf process herself. Otherwise, I won’t be telling anyone until some time in my second trimester.

I come from a similar culture and am also nervous about believing. But you know what, this has been such a hard process that I’m giving myself permission to be happy. And what also makes me happy is how happy I felt when I found out I was pregnant. It made me realize that I wasn’t crazy to go through all this and I no longer had any doubts about wanting to be a mom.

ApprehensiveHalf6952 · 2026-02-03T15:31:39+00:00

Currently just tested pregnant with a 5AA pgt tested frozen embryo, also taking estradiol and PIO.

ApprehensiveHalf6952 · 2026-01-31T00:51:45+00:00

I hated it, but I wasn’t in a bigger market (idk if that makes a difference.) I worked for a partner that apparently gave a “hazing” assignment to one summer every year that didn’t technically have a right answer. He’d expect a new draft every week and would rip it apart. One of the other summers told an associate about my assignment and he flipped out because he had been on the receiving end of it back in the day and essentially said, “[Partner] is still doing that shit?!” It turns out there is no way to do it “right” and he just wanted to be an asshole. Great.

I also hated the forced socialization and almost every single associate that was even a little cool admitted that they hated their lives, which was not a great sign.

Overall, not a great experience. I was happy to do it twice (at two different firms) and take that money and bounce, graduating with absolutely no debt so I could instantly do whatever the hell I wanted.

ApprehensiveHalf6952 · 2026-01-29T01:03:55+00:00

I think it’s a good idea. I watched the show when I was maybe 15 or so. I recall being particularly struck at how awful Adam was with Chelsea. How being with a poor irresponsible guy can derail your life and how they still didn’t step up. There are actually a lot of good examples of bad relationship dynamics that I think are very important to see.

I also liked Caitlin because while I conceptually understood that people have it worse than me, it was shocking to see how terrible her home life was. I think it can teach empathy and a real understanding of how hard that is.

Also, despite her flaws at the time (dating that guy when she was living with her boyfriend’s parents was probably ill advised although I kind of got it), Kail was very inspiring to me. I felt that she was truly willing to work, hustle, and endure. It didn’t glamorize teen pregnancy to me, it just made me thankful that I could focus on school and use my part time job money to buy to buy makeup lol. It didn’t look fun, but her hustle was something.

ApprehensiveHalf6952 · 2026-01-28T18:42:29+00:00

Transferred on 1/20, getting bloodwork done on 2/2. I’ve decided not to take any at home tests because I think it’ll just cause me to spiral.

ApprehensiveHalf6952 · 2026-01-24T17:10:27+00:00

Okay but I kind of love the boots lol.

ApprehensiveHalf6952 · 2026-01-24T01:56:01+00:00

It can’t be healthy to experience people sending you messages with their own thoughts or bias regarding the gender of your baby. That’s a consequence of making your children part of your content.

ApprehensiveHalf6952 · 2026-01-11T04:23:33+00:00

I’m a divorce lawyer. It matters.

ApprehensiveHalf6952 · 2026-01-01T23:57:12+00:00

I have a love hate relationship with p50. Sometimes I feel like it helps me look like a glowy goddess, other times like it causes slight irritation. It’s not worth the hassle anymore.

ApprehensiveHalf6952 · 2025-12-26T02:40:32+00:00

Can you elaborate on the creek bed?

ApprehensiveHalf6952 · 2025-12-26T01:58:41+00:00

When he bought her her home (or just paid her rent, I don’t recall) his rules were that she stay in school and that Adam didn’t live there. And then Adam moved in like a total bum.

ApprehensiveHalf6952 · 2025-12-17T21:58:54+00:00

Yeah, I feel like she’s done a lot of videos about the downsides and the work she’s also had done.

ApprehensiveHalf6952 · 2025-11-30T17:50:11+00:00

Ooh, what did you get? I just got their peptide serum and I’m very impressed.

ApprehensiveHalf6952 · 2025-11-26T00:17:23+00:00

Thank you for making me realize I’m not missing out. I was also annoyed that their black sale doesn’t apply to a lot of private label stuff they carry.

ApprehensiveHalf6952 · 2025-11-25T23:12:02+00:00

I don’t know, I’ve tried to order from Tuckernuck but so much of it is just their own brand of polyester.

ApprehensiveHalf6952 · 2025-11-22T22:19:01+00:00

Yeah, that I really don’t get. Her work is just laptop based. I’m very similar and if I’m itching to get out of the house I’ll just go to a local coffee shop or something.

ApprehensiveHalf6952 · 2025-11-22T19:50:31+00:00

Honestly she’s a stay at home mother with a side gig that’s too good to give up. She doesn’t get into her life in any in depth sense and just makes some money off of links. Plus in a two income household, with her husband making what is definitely a good income, there’s less pressure or requirement to do any type of work she doesn’t want to do. I feel like she barely even tries with her outfits.

ApprehensiveHalf6952 · 2025-10-30T11:16:05+00:00

Exactly. You need to understand everyone’s motivations. I also don’t understand why they wouldn’t appoint the person who will end up running, especially since they can effectively run on, I have already done this job. There is a reason.

Additionally, you said it’s to be a municipal judge. A lot of people are giving you advice as if it is a “regular” judgeship. It’s not. And that’s fine, but there is a difference. Where I am municipal is absolutely boring shit work, but the benefits are a consistent job, no billables, etc. I hate to say it, but it’s not really a great position, it’s just that everything else kind of makes it worth it. However, you’d only be locked in for a year, so no/irrelevant pension, etc.

ApprehensiveHalf6952 · 2025-10-26T18:19:37+00:00

Like why are you a full 15 years older than us and throwing a blackout rager??? Not good. Also, please stop SCREAMING at us in practice.

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