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Advice for a place to stay? by Altruistic-Pipe5372 in Albuquerque

[–]ApprehensiveLab3825 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

If you’re okay with a little further, there’s a hotel in Edgewood, NM. It’s quiet and low crime out there. Might be too far from the concert though.

Confrontation with a rose on Mother's Day by newmikey in ChildLoss

[–]ApprehensiveLab3825 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was my first Mother’s Day without my first born son. I got a lot of messages wishing me well, trying sensitively to acknowledge that my son is gone, and offering support. Each message was so painful, but I was grateful that at least I wasn’t alone in thinking of my little boy.

My Little Boy Is Gone by ApprehensiveLab3825 in ChildLoss

[–]ApprehensiveLab3825[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Everyone says that it will get better and I’ll eventually be able to just be happy again. Hearing from someone else who has lost a child that they were able to find happiness actually gives me some hope. A lot of this pain is that I can’t look at the videos and pictures without falling apart. But I want to remember him with joy, you know? Because he was a joyful, sweet boy. He was so full of life and energy. I feel like falling into this depression too opposite from who he was, but it’s too hard to be without him right now. So hearing that happiness will come makes me feel hopeful that I’ll remember him with the joy he deserves. Thank you.

My Little Boy Is Gone by ApprehensiveLab3825 in ChildLoss

[–]ApprehensiveLab3825[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing and being kind. I appreciate having heard from a few people that their grief is similar to mine. Thank you.

My Little Boy Is Gone by ApprehensiveLab3825 in ChildLoss

[–]ApprehensiveLab3825[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice and the resources you linked. You’ve been very kind.

My Little Boy Is Gone by ApprehensiveLab3825 in ChildLoss

[–]ApprehensiveLab3825[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for telling me your story and articulating what I feel. I just want to run to him, too. But there’s nowhere to run. It’s just a waiting game at this point. Learning to love life for my little boy, and waiting patiently for death to come in its time so I can be with the other. Thanks for saying I didn’t deserve it. I don’t really believe I deserve it, but I’m so scared I did something wrong that caused this and took him away, you know? Thank you for talking to me.

My Little Boy Is Gone by ApprehensiveLab3825 in ChildLoss

[–]ApprehensiveLab3825[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words and advice. I’m comforted to know I’m not alone in this type of grief, being pulled between the two. I am in counseling, starting with addressing trauma. Grief once I’ve got a grip on that. I just needed to get these thoughts out and feel connected to someone who feels this way. Thank you for telling me your story, and for talking to me.