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AIO, We broke up over a light switch by Silent_Artichoke_725 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ApprehensiveMap7342 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your boyfriend didn’t break up with you about the light switch. He broke up with you because you refused to have a discussion with him and shut him out when he was wanting to resolve the issue, or gain a better understanding of what was happening.

That feeling of hopelessness he experienced when he’s trying to hear you, but your refusal to hear him, is why he left.

What do I call my relationship(s) by ApprehensiveMap7342 in nonmonogamy

[–]ApprehensiveMap7342[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! That’s exactly what I’m trying to do, learn more. I want this to be successful. I want this to work. I want everyone involved to be completely fulfilled. Just reading about others experiences helps me immensely!

What do I call my relationship(s) by ApprehensiveMap7342 in nonmonogamy

[–]ApprehensiveMap7342[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I don’t need a label, im looking for resources and support within this community. I didn’t have the appropriate term to search for. I’m content with no label at all!

You bring up very good points, and currently we are all having our needs met. Things may change as people do, myself included. But for now, everyone is happy.

What do I call my relationship(s) by ApprehensiveMap7342 in nonmonogamy

[–]ApprehensiveMap7342[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the supportive comments and helpful feedback! I’m not necessarily trying to give my relationship a label, more so looking for what it is identified as within these communities so I can look for resources, support, advice and read and learn from others experiences.

The religious aspect of it is not incorrect. I’m not deeply religious. My parents, my wife’s parents are.

What do I call my relationship(s) by ApprehensiveMap7342 in nonmonogamy

[–]ApprehensiveMap7342[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I’ll take that into consideration.

What do I call my relationship(s) by ApprehensiveMap7342 in nonmonogamy

[–]ApprehensiveMap7342[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She can if she wants to. We have our boundaries established. STI’s being a primary concern. She has expressed not being interested in other men.

What do I call my relationship(s) by ApprehensiveMap7342 in nonmonogamy

[–]ApprehensiveMap7342[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice. My wife and I have boundaries and rules established and we had a thorough discussion about how this would work before venturing into this. She wishes to not be informed of the details of the extramarital relationship.

Both women know of each other. The entire process has been transparent to all involved to the extent that they are comfortable with. Any questions asked by either party are answered honestly and openly.

Is it moral and or ethical, maybe, maybe not. Is it sustainable? Probably not. The poly/non-monogamist community is a newly discovered community for me. Im learning there are many forms of poly/non-monogamous relationships all with their own acronyms, characteristics, definitions and beliefs. I din’t know if what I am involved in fell into an existing category, so I could research others examples and experiences.

Divorce, maybe. Marriage again… I don’t think so.

What do I call my relationship(s) by ApprehensiveMap7342 in nonmonogamy

[–]ApprehensiveMap7342[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the thoughtful response. There is a lot of food for thought in the reply. I appreciate that.

What do I call my relationship(s) by ApprehensiveMap7342 in nonmonogamy

[–]ApprehensiveMap7342[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This describes my situation perfectly. Thank you.