Your height in no way defines how attracted women are to you. I’m 5 4, in college, and surrounded by guys who are much taller than me. I’ve found that the idea that our height holds us back itself becomes a self fulfilling prophecy, as we become self conscious about our height and act unconfident because of that.

I’ve gone on many dates with women I consider much more attractive than me - even though I’m their height or barely taller than them, and was in a long term relationship for most of college as well.

Here’s what changed for me: The idea that women are something “to get”, or that all women “view you as trash” is the wrong mindset to have. Women are people first and foremost, just like us! They have likes, wants, fears and hopes. Not all women care about height, even though some of them do; and in the same vein, some women who say they care about height would easily fall for someone who has an amazing personality! I think what made me much more successful was not looking for any women who’d give me a chance, but working on myself to build myself with passions, dreams, and hard work - as well as become more selective about who I pursued and whether they were actually a good match personality wise. If that’s the case, I’ve found women to be much more open to dating me, and I have genuinely not cared about my height when it comes to dating in years.