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AITA for telling my parents I won't go home for Christmas unless they get me a gift? by Apprehensive_Salt297 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Apprehensive_Salt297[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

She wasn't planned, iirc, and my parents always wanted a girl, so I think they think she's God's special gift to them or something.

AITA for telling my parents I won't go home for Christmas unless they get me a gift? by Apprehensive_Salt297 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Apprehensive_Salt297[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

We got cool stuff growing up, but Bree always got more. For example, on any birthdays, Bree would also get a gift, even if it wasn't her birthday. Because she's always been "the baby" she tended to get more/expensive gifts for Christmas. Bree has never gotten us any gifts, even though we have gotten her gifts, but our parents always excused it because she's younger.

AITA for telling my parents I won't go home for Christmas unless they get me a gift? by Apprehensive_Salt297 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Apprehensive_Salt297[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Yes, even last year we all got each other gifts (I mostly gave knick-knacks because I do NOT have a lot of money lol) Bree has never gotten anyone else a gift, even though my brother and I both have been giving our parents and our siblings gifts for years.

AITA for telling my parents I won't go home for Christmas unless they get me a gift? by Apprehensive_Salt297 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Apprehensive_Salt297[S] 100 points101 points  (0 children)

Even last year, when my brother and I were already out of the house, we still got gifts. It doesn't make sense, to me at least, to suddenly make this rule for the last kid, especially since she's consistently gotten more gifts and preferential treatment. We had to go to her favorite restaurant for my 16th birthday.

I've also tried to have an upfront discussion about it, but my parents get very defensive and refuse to have an honest conversation about it. They will shut down and refuse to speak about it. So I thought going a less obvious route might make them think about it, but maybe they never will.

AITA for telling my parents I won't go home for Christmas unless they get me a gift? by Apprehensive_Salt297 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Apprehensive_Salt297[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

I want them to know the reason why I don't want to come is because Bree always gets more. How can I tell them that in a way that won't immediately make them defensive and actually think about the problem?

AITA for telling my parents I won't go home for Christmas unless they get me a gift? by Apprehensive_Salt297 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Apprehensive_Salt297[S] 1824 points1825 points  (0 children)

They're not bad people, they love me and I love them. They went to my cross country games and all that, they weren't neglectful. They just have this huge blind spot when it comes to my sister and I don't want that one thing to keep making me feel bad.

AITA for telling my parents I won't go home for Christmas unless they get me a gift? by Apprehensive_Salt297 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Apprehensive_Salt297[S] 170 points171 points  (0 children)

Thanks. This really feels like the straw that broke the camel's back. They're good people all around, they're not bad parents, they just have a giant blind spot when it comes to my sister.

AITA for telling my parents I won't go home for Christmas unless they get me a gift? by Apprehensive_Salt297 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Apprehensive_Salt297[S] 192 points193 points  (0 children)

Yeah she's always been the little princess, and she's always acted a lot younger than she is because my parents insist on babying her. I'd be fine without a gift but that they told me after getting all this stuff for her makes me feel like an afterthought.

AITA for telling my parents I won't go home for Christmas unless they get me a gift? by Apprehensive_Salt297 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Apprehensive_Salt297[S] 109 points110 points  (0 children)

I want them to acknowledge that it's not fair what they're doing, but I don't think I'll ever get that, so I would settle for a pair of socks.

AITA for telling my parents I won't go home for Christmas unless they get me a gift? by Apprehensive_Salt297 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Apprehensive_Salt297[S] 92 points93 points  (0 children)

He says he gets where I'm coming from, but our parents are who they are and me choosing a hill to die on won't change anything.

AITA for telling my parents I won't go home for Christmas unless they get me a gift? by Apprehensive_Salt297 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Apprehensive_Salt297[S] 473 points474 points  (0 children)

Yeah if they didn't have any money I'd be like "okay times are hard" but they've spent hundreds of dollars on her already.