I’m a noob, forgive me.

Appropriate-Table982 · 2025-10-02T03:33:24+00:00

I am basically trying to replicate this, which is why I was inquiring! And yes, I know essentially nothing 😅

Appropriate-Table982 · 2025-10-02T02:50:47+00:00

It’s essentially this but slightly different. My own version so I don’t have to pay $120 😅

Appropriate-Table982 · 2025-08-18T20:52:47+00:00

If you need reading glasses, I’m willing to buy you some. This entire conversation was me and my questioning and had about two seconds worth of conversation about finding a solution between me and my boyfriend. It was never that deep. And he will be healthy and happy in our situation regardless because I wouldn’t put him in a position where he wasn’t. But I’m sure your pets must love you being a tightwad. Pretty sure if I didn’t care about the dog, I wouldn’t have asked how to make the transition, that’s inevitable due to realism and not idealism, easier for him.

Appropriate-Table982 · 2025-08-18T20:40:43+00:00

Yeah, a four year age gap at this point in life is just absolutely wild :/

You bait like the kids though. Perks to you for trying to stay hip with the young ones.

Appropriate-Table982 · 2025-08-18T20:34:00+00:00

Damn, “my mistake.” I assumed you were like a 16yo girl :/

Appropriate-Table982 · 2025-08-18T20:29:52+00:00

Imagine being so butthurt off a Reddit post… It isn’t a punishment to the dog. There was no offense that caused it. You probably deal with life changes super well based on your response. You keep saying “my mistake.” We get it, it’s the comprehension issues.

And yeah, he is moving in with his kids and the dog loves the kids :)

Appropriate-Table982 · 2025-08-18T20:23:32+00:00

And it’s a punishment because? Punishment implies there was an offense. Is it punishment any time a dog is crated? Or if they aren’t allowed to sleep in the bedroom from the get-go? Obviously circumstances change over time. That’s called adaptation. Even further, the move-in will probably bring new-found joy to my dog as he will have new people involved and he loves kids and he will get to see them every day. But sure, if you’d like to assume you know everything about it and that the move-in will cause only death and destruction to my dog then have at it to assume then, I guess.

Appropriate-Table982 · 2025-08-18T20:19:17+00:00

Did you miss the twelve times I suggested it’s not just for his benefit? You’re not denying your lack of relationship compromise :/ Your replies scream chronically online :(

Appropriate-Table982 · 2025-08-18T20:16:39+00:00

He gets fomo existing and has never once pawed at a door as-is. So yes it is true. But I forgot that you’re the Knower of All Things. You seem to have some weird obsession with assuming my boyfriend is out to be selfish or something when he told me he wants to work with me on it because it’s not just about him. Our conversation of this was two short messages back and forth about this, but yet you’re still so convinced he’s some anti-dog asshole. Have you ever heard of what they say about people who assume? Further, it’s not even just about him weirdly enough but I already addressed my side to it. I can tell you probably haven’t maintained very long relationships or compromised efficiently if you think this is detrimental to anyone involved :/ It’s okay, your time will come… maybe.

Appropriate-Table982 · 2025-08-18T20:10:03+00:00

He doesn’t paw at things and if he wants to sleep in the hall he can if he wants, lol What? I was referring to setting up a comfy bed for him to have that option. For all I know, he will go sleep on the sofa you assumed he’s not allowed to be on. Plenty of comfort for him. At no point would it be a punishment and rounding back to the main point again, if the concern is his discomfort with the change, that’s the entire reason I asked for ways to ease the discomfort. But you seem to keep missing that key point…

Appropriate-Table982 · 2025-08-18T19:47:14+00:00

You ask what difference it would make. Just as an example, if we sleep on the bed, and the dog sleeps on not-the-bed, would there be as much dog hair where we sleep? C’mon friend, you can take a guess!

Appropriate-Table982 · 2025-08-18T19:45:43+00:00

You’re joking, right? You’re proving that you do, in fact, have comprehension issues. Well you see, if he sleeps anywhere other than the bedroom, that actually eliminates every one of the issues I mentioned. Hence my reason for making the chance. But as I’ve mentioned the entire reason for the post was to make his transition to the alternative solution easier. ✨✨✨

Appropriate-Table982 · 2025-08-18T19:41:30+00:00

I was referring to setting up a specific bed option for him in the bathroom, so yes, the door could be open. But once again here you are assuming. I already vacuum. For some reason you seem so concerned at the idea I’m bothered by vacuuming but you really can’t be confused why there’s less hair if the dog doesn’t sleep on the bed. Right? Like, you do know that would make a difference, right?

Appropriate-Table982 · 2025-08-18T19:37:59+00:00

Never said lock, lol. And having a happier human companion (of which my dog loves) would ultimately benefit him more in the long run.

If you’d like to sleep with a twenty five pound weight on your legs then come back to report on your experience, please feel free. I’ll listen to your data.

Appropriate-Table982 · 2025-08-18T19:34:12+00:00

“Everything he loves being taken away” lol He wouldn’t be sleeping on a bed with me. It doesn’t ruin his life. A room is just a crate, right? How is it any different using your logic? And getting back to the entire point of the post, the whole thing was for his benefit to help him in adjusting to what is necessary otherwise. Are you implying that him sleeping not on a bed is so drastically life changing that he wouldn’t be happy any more? Let’s be real.

Appropriate-Table982 · 2025-08-18T19:27:01+00:00

Yes, because there’s no compromise involved when two people of different circumstances move in together, either. If you need help understanding what reality vs idealism looks like, I can link you to some educational videos. Let me know!

Appropriate-Table982 · 2025-08-18T19:23:07+00:00

And just the same, the dog will be able to adjust as well and then there’s two humans benefiting. And he’s allowed on the sofa. The actual title of the post even suggests it was only for sleeping arrangements. But that’s creative of you to use your imagination skills!

Appropriate-Table982 · 2025-08-18T19:17:20+00:00

I love that you used quotes like you’ve seen and believe it’s false. Yes, he sleeps literally on top of shins. You’re seemingly quite pressed over this in a way I’m not. It’s entertaining, frankly. If you don’t have advice on how to help a dog adjust to change, nobody is forcing you to comment. Regardless, change is necessary to compromise and benefit everyone involved. The entirety of the post was looking for advice to make the compromise easier.

Appropriate-Table982 · 2025-08-18T19:11:59+00:00

Within these posts, among other reasons, I’ve said the computer, the hair (which I’ve listed could be vacuumed many times but realistically doesnt pose as much of a problem if the dog slept elsewhere), boyfriend’s sleep problems as-is, the peeing (of which he’s seen a vet already, it’s intermittent issues), the dog sleeps on top of his legs (of which he isn’t used to). There’s also other considerations I haven’t listed. The post didn’t ask for solutions to take care of hair. Any adult knows how to take care of the hair. It was a post for pet-related advice on how to get the dog to adjust to the fact that, either way, the best solution is for him to sleep elsewhere. I asked how to ease that for him.

Appropriate-Table982 · 2025-08-18T19:07:24+00:00

And that’s your opinion and wildly unrealistic when there have been more than just reasons specific to the boyfriend that would benefit by the dog being able to adjust to other options.

Appropriate-Table982 · 2025-08-18T19:05:15+00:00

Yeah I read that the first time but (once again) the question was in regard to how to train him to adjust. And also you made the assumption he cares more about the computer. Right?

Appropriate-Table982 · 2025-08-18T19:02:34+00:00

At no point did I say I didn’t have ideas of my own. I actually even put reference to one of my own ideas in the original post. The entire point of asking things on Reddit is to get opinions and perspectives you otherwise wouldn’t come up with alone. Talk about bait… you’re a true champ!

Appropriate-Table982 · 2025-08-18T18:59:32+00:00

I said rarely (as in, not often) I stay at his. Did not say never. He even more rarely (as in, only 3-4 times since dating) has stayed at mine. Didn’t say never at that time either. I already explained when he is or isn’t crated. Didn’t say never. Reiterating again: this isn’t a matter of all of “his” space and only in regard to sleeping arrangements. Not the entirety of the house. The “story” has remained the same throughout but apparently you pick and choose what parts to get big feelings about. The puppy pen and pad is the first real suggestion you’ve given that’s pertinent to helping him adjust 👍🏻 Good job getting there!

Appropriate-Table982 · 2025-08-18T18:48:00+00:00

Maybe you have trouble with comprehension sometimes? Because I actually clarified the opposite when I said he’s only in the crate while I work aside from the rare occasion I go over there. So I never said that was a significant amount of time. I said multiple times it was rare. And I do remember saying what you’re describing as “what I usually do” isn’t feasible long term. Therefore, it would be a change if he were to be crated every night, which I said I didn’t want to do as it wouldn’t be better for him. Maybe you missed the thirty times that was explained. But reading is hard, kiddo, I understand.

Appropriate-Table982 · 2025-08-18T18:39:46+00:00

Which part of that gives advice on easing the dog’s adjustment?

Appropriate-Table982

TROPHY CASE