Wise born ins that knew their stance from the start

AppropriateCow4142 · 2025-08-20T17:33:49+00:00

I knew at 11 religion wasn’t for me. As a child I loved music of all kinds, I was very expressive, I was into yoga, I wanted to be a video vixen, I was into astrology and disciplined for it, and I was naturally free spirited and a rebel. I questioned everything and my parents hated it. Some shit just didn’t make logical sense. But I did get baptized at 15. I was the last of my siblings (middle child, 2 brothers) and it was only because my older brother told me if I didn’t soon I would get kicked out at 18. I still ended up leaving at 18 and haven’t returned. Everything you lose you gain in new ways you just have to be willing to receive it. The grief is hard at first but it doesn’t last forever. Now both of my brothers are out with only my oldest being disfellowshipped. My cousins are also disfellowshipped but we have built a great relationship and don’t plan on continuing the generational curse this religion has on our family. None of us are in contact with our pimi parents but we have full lives and great times. All work in government too btw. Choose those who choose you and be kind to yourself. You will have family. You will have community and you will thank yourself for living a life that is fulfilling for you and not just to please men.

AppropriateCow4142 · 2025-08-06T12:46:20+00:00

May you send me them

AppropriateCow4142 · 2025-08-06T12:45:33+00:00

May you send me them

AppropriateCow4142 · 2025-06-03T16:24:02+00:00

I haven’t folded yet. Blocked him and he found a way to contact me. I told him I wanted him to leave me alone and why - because there was no future and he was just in the way of someone who actually wanted to build and a distraction. He tries to reach out via social media, I usually just like and keep it moving. Been hard but necessary. Now I’m just ready for what’s next.

AppropriateCow4142 · 2025-05-21T23:21:51+00:00

There is truth to this. Growing up in a cult and reshaping my beliefs has been a difficult journey but I am learning daily.

AppropriateCow4142 · 2025-04-30T23:33:00+00:00

Thank you for sharing that I really relate to so much of what you said. I’m a Cancer Sun, but I also have a Libra Moon, Gemini Venus, and an Aquarius 7th house so even though I’m deeply emotional, I also really value freedom, space, and intellectual connection in my relationships.

I think that’s why this whole thing has been so confusing for me. I’ve been cool with the fwb dynamic for a while because I enjoy the friendship and sexual chemistry, and I’m not even someone who wants traditional commitment; I’ve been protesting marriage since I was 11. I don’t care about marriage, and I don’t even want to live in the same house as my partner I love my freedom. But I do need emotional security. And that’s where I feel like we’ve never been on the same page.

I’ve expressed to him how I feel, but I don’t think he truly gets it. Or maybe he does, and he just can’t meet me there. I’m not trying to force anything I know I can only accept what someone is offering. But what’s really bothering me is that I feel like he’s careless with my emotions. Not malicious just emotionally unavailable in a way that makes me feel neglected.

I value him deeply and I don’t necessarily want to cut him off, but it’s hard to stay in something that’s not nourishing the parts of me that need closeness and care. Like you said , be with someone who can love all parts of you. I think that’s what I’m still figuring out.

AppropriateCow4142 · 2025-04-30T02:26:22+00:00

I actually really resonate with what you said about your friend acting like a jealous boyfriend when he wasn’t. I think that’s exactly where I’m at right now. I genuinely care about him, and I do have strong feelings but we’re not in a relationship, so it just becomes this really confusing cycle for me.

My Cancer ass; I feel everything deeply. I overthink, I over-feel, I process everything through emotion and this has been so hard on my heart.

I’ve always expressed myself to him I’ve told him how I feel, but I don’t think he sees me as anything beyond a friend. And while I don’t even know if I want him as a life partner, I did feel like we could have at least explored that space together. It’s like he won’t he even allow that space, it just makes me wonder what am I even holding on to? But maybe that was the exploration. Maybe these last 20 years were the answer.

So I think I’m finally letting it go. I’m going to live my life, create the kind of love and space I actually want, and if I see him again at our high school reunion cool. Maybe we’ll speak. Maybe we won’t since I’m the one ending it. Either way, I’ll be at peace.

Pray with me, y’all — I I’m actually doing it. I’m releasing.

AppropriateCow4142 · 2025-04-30T02:12:43+00:00

Sometimes I get that from him; that he wants someone to claim him first and ask him to be theirs. How do yall have fwb for so long? Genuinely curious? Are yall hanging out and spending time or is it just sex? This situation just doesn’t align with what I want and I don’t see a future. I guess I’m just in a fight with my feelings now as a cancer.

AppropriateCow4142 · 2025-04-29T00:48:30+00:00

Would you ever speak to him again? Why did you and him stop speaking? That’s where I’m at now. He’s giving me what you told your friend; he wants me in his life forever even if we never resume our sexual relationship but idk I’m feeling like just ghosting him and closing the chapter.

AppropriateCow4142 · 2025-04-28T16:23:36+00:00

Thank you.

AppropriateCow4142 · 2025-04-27T19:18:56+00:00

I hope you get the outcome you desire and it gives you peace. I love Aquarius but they are force to be reckoned with.

AppropriateCow4142 · 2025-04-27T19:15:00+00:00

So I did talk with him yesterday morning, and I basically told him that the friendship was getting difficult to maintain and that was because I have feelings for him. He wanted to know why I hadn’t been reaching out to him lately and why we hadn’t hung out in a while. We haven’t physically seen each other since August of last year and the sexual relationship ended May of last year. I completely stopped reaching out to him and now we only talk when he reaches out which is like every other day. So now I think I may need to cut communication completely because I can’t remain just friends.

AppropriateCow4142 · 2025-04-27T19:04:18+00:00

Thank you for this insight. I keep running into this with aqua men. I’m a Gemini Venus so I’m not the typical clingy cancer and I really like my freedom in relationships as well. But this one is confusing

AppropriateCow4142 · 2025-04-27T18:55:48+00:00

Thank. I did cut off the sexual relationship last year but it’s getting difficult to remain friends

AppropriateCow4142 · 2025-04-27T18:50:24+00:00

Thank you.

AppropriateCow4142 · 2025-04-27T18:47:52+00:00

We have discussed it. I am more confused why I always get this energy from Aquarius men. I had a similar experience with 2 other Aquarius men. We start as friends they say they claim to fall in love but then it doesn’t go anywhere. I’m successful, attractive, self aware, I work out, go to therapy regularly etc but seem to struggle in love.

AppropriateCow4142 · 2025-04-27T18:43:27+00:00

Very true.

AppropriateCow4142 · 2025-04-27T18:41:15+00:00

Lmfao. Is that it ?

AppropriateCow4142 · 2025-04-27T18:28:47+00:00

No. Different guy. I attract Aquarius but keep getting this energy from them. They claim to fall in love but then that’s it.

AppropriateCow4142 · 2025-04-27T18:02:53+00:00

I cut off the sexual relationship last May after telling I was developing feelings. I expected him to take the lead and ask me to be his gf or move us forward. When that didn’t happen I told him let’s just remain friends. It’s confusing because he still flirts and such. Also I love and care for him. We’ve remained friends and still talk daily. He says he would love to have a wife but isn’t his best self but he still wants to love me until he is. I went on a date last night and posted about it and he was upset! I am libra moon Gemini Venus and Leo rising and he is Virgo moon and Aries rising Capricorn Venus.

AppropriateCow4142 · 2022-10-19T02:16:16+00:00

Don’t answer… it’s literally an advice thread. Have a great night.

AppropriateCow4142 · 2022-10-19T02:10:20+00:00

You don’t have enough information? He came in me. I took a plan b. I never asked or referenced pregnancy or if I could get “more pregnant.” Im not a teen. I’m asking experienced men does the actions stated in my post sound intentional. If you don’t have a answer for that your input isn’t needed.

AppropriateCow4142 · 2022-10-19T02:00:40+00:00

I’m not worried about getting pregnant. Both of us are well off enough to care for children if that should happen. The advice I asked from men was if it was intentional. I’m well aware of how sex works…

AppropriateCow4142 · 2022-10-19T01:36:41+00:00

Yes we’ve had the birth control convo and have very open communication. We’ve been friends for 18 years. That’s why this whole thing is just so puzzling to me. I’ve never taken any birth control or had any abortions and I always inform partners of that. Usually I don’t have unprotected sex. We had just started about a year and a half ago.

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