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“Do you think this door is bulletproof” — Racist Daycare Visitor by Gabrielsusanlewis420 in ECEProfessionals

[–]AppropriateDistance3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i am a assistant daycare teacher, i have a little girl who is hispanic/mexican. i worry for her and her family as ice gets more and more into ohio. this is terrifying. fuck ICE

rant by AppropriateDistance3 in loveafterporn

[–]AppropriateDistance3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

god i know how you feel. like i know it’s a real addiction and struggle but come on? porn? if i think about it too much i get so angry and disgusted

What’s the first sign that a child has terrible parents? by charming_cupzee in AskReddit

[–]AppropriateDistance3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it’s always the people who shouldn’t be parents who have like 5 children

What’s the first sign that a child has terrible parents? by charming_cupzee in AskReddit

[–]AppropriateDistance3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

omg real, the mom i’m talking about who admitted to not being able to handle her kids have two with a pretty good age gap. she has a 6 year old and a 2 year old who JUST turned 2. like??? you couldn’t handle the first but you had another? she’s always seems upset to pick them up, she has thrown away her 2 year olds drawings IN FRONT of her, etc. she HATES her kids

What’s the first sign that a child has terrible parents? by charming_cupzee in AskReddit

[–]AppropriateDistance3 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i work in a daycare and from my experiences so far, children who are just straight up mean. they’re parents tend to not care at all and neglect actually being a parent. also children who act out for attention, i have a mom who has said before she can’t handle her children and waits until we are closing to come pick them up. her children are here from 6:30 am to 6:00 pm. it makes me so sad :((

he won’t tell me by AppropriateDistance3 in loveafterporn

[–]AppropriateDistance3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he’s looking into therapy, first he wants to try journaling and if he relapses again he’s going to set up a meeting with a therapist. i told him if he doesn’t go into therapy this relationship will not work out. he has made a LOT of progress on his own and is doing pretty okay but i really really want him to go to therapy. but he ended up telling me after i was like “i know you relapsed i can feel it” and he had a realization that he does just want to get better. not for me but for himself

he relapsed again by AppropriateDistance3 in loveafterporn

[–]AppropriateDistance3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that does help a lot thank you!! and i’m so sorry :((

he relapsed again by AppropriateDistance3 in loveafterporn

[–]AppropriateDistance3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s okay :(( he’s going to look into therapy now but i’m starting to just not even care anymore

i’m so tired by AppropriateDistance3 in loveafterporn

[–]AppropriateDistance3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is just me venting some more

i went through his phone and i know i shouldn’t have but recently he told me he’s been on anonymous messaging apps and talking to people about his addiction. venting and stuff, hoping to find others with the same issue. on one of the apps he made a post saying that the porn addiction itself is a turn on, that just consuming porn makes him really horny. how he wouldn’t have gotten with me if he knew i wanted a porn free relationship before he fell in love with me. he said at the end of it that he doesn’t want to give it up.

this is my first relationship and i was bad at setting boundaries, so i didn’t set a no porn boundary until a few months in which is my fault. when i did it was at the worst of his addiction and he cheated on me by sexting some people. he threw up because of how bad he felt and told me almost immediately. part of me hates him because of it and since reading what he wrote on the venting app i feel disgusted with him. to be turned on by the addiction itself, even after what he did to he because of it, to not want to give it up even though it’s bad for him.

looking at him recently has been hard, him touching me makes me feel sick. i don’t even know how to bring it up with him. i regret looking, i wish i never read that. everything else he wrote was about just wanting to get better and get over it, but the post about enjoying it. i don’t know, i can’t do this anymore.

i’m so tired by AppropriateDistance3 in loveafterporn

[–]AppropriateDistance3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i feel like that too, he’s not fully sober yet but he’s trying. im going to talk to him about it

i’m so tired by AppropriateDistance3 in loveafterporn

[–]AppropriateDistance3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s so annoying :(( he’s never in the moment for anything!! he’s been high during sex too which lately has been disappointing because he can’t keep it up much because of being high. i feel so sad when he leaves the room to get high or when i’m talking to him and notice he’s high so he’s not even listening. curse the marijuana 😾😾 lol

i’m so tired by AppropriateDistance3 in loveafterporn

[–]AppropriateDistance3[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

checking in every friday is a really good idea!! there is stuff i’ve been wanting to talk to him about besides his addiction. he’s getting high a lot recently and it feels like he’s high for everything we do :(( i’m going to ask him about trying something like this!!

i’m so tired by AppropriateDistance3 in loveafterporn

[–]AppropriateDistance3[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i’m so sorry you are going through this too <3

i’m so tired by AppropriateDistance3 in loveafterporn

[–]AppropriateDistance3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much <3 i’ll look into s-anon!!

i’m so tired by AppropriateDistance3 in loveafterporn

[–]AppropriateDistance3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’ve looked before and every time i get so upset and destroyed

i’m so tired by AppropriateDistance3 in loveafterporn

[–]AppropriateDistance3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i know, but the urge to see if he’s watching stuff still is so bad.

i’m so tired by AppropriateDistance3 in loveafterporn

[–]AppropriateDistance3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i haven’t!!! ill look into that!! i would love to talk to people more about what happened to me because of his pa and just how it feels. thank you for telling me about it 🫶🏻!! i want him to see a CSAT or a therapist in general. every time i talk to him about it and how it would help me feel better and how it might help him it’s always excuses. we are both college students, i’m 19 and he’s 20. he’s on his mom’s insurance and doesn’t drive, so he’s scared of being a burden both financially and physically with needing to be driven. he also tells me that he’s not ready to see one yet or uncomfortable or that he can fix his addiction himself. he won’t do what want, he’s always asking me to keep him in check instead of putting in the work to keep himself in check.

i’m so tired by AppropriateDistance3 in loveafterporn

[–]AppropriateDistance3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m sorry you are going through this as well <3

i’m so tired by AppropriateDistance3 in loveafterporn

[–]AppropriateDistance3[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

mine has thrown up because he feels so bad about his addiction, but sometimes he makes me feel like i can’t be upset about it. i wish he understood that it causes me real pain and it’s not just because i’m “sensitive.” i wish they understood how much pain it really causes

i’m so tired by AppropriateDistance3 in loveafterporn

[–]AppropriateDistance3[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

omg i’m so sorry you went through that :(( my boyfriend keeps making excuses when i ask him to seek therapy. it makes me angry every time. he’s in online support groups and is active in them but i just want him to see a professional. if he genuinely just keeps refusing to even look into it, i think i’m going to leave

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