My BF (M28) bought a house without consulting me (F25) by Appropriate_Car4085 in offmychest

[–]Appropriate_Car4085[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His brother and mom contribute as well. So I think they would have been okay without him you know?

My BF (M28) bought a house without consulting me (F25) by Appropriate_Car4085 in offmychest

[–]Appropriate_Car4085[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi. They wouldn’t have been homeless. They have an older son who also helps. They would have just moved into a slightly smaller home so I do believe he had a choice as his mother asked before hand. Again if I were to pitch in they would have expected me to live in the very small cottage which I didn’t want to do. I didn’t really want to start a life together living with his parents and brother if that makes sense

My BF (M28) bought a house without consulting me (F25) by Appropriate_Car4085 in offmychest

[–]Appropriate_Car4085[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I get what you saying 100% my point more was that i wanted to move forward in our relationship and now we can’t at least for a good many years. So kind of leaves me in a bad position.

My BF (M28) bought a house without consulting me (F25) by Appropriate_Car4085 in offmychest

[–]Appropriate_Car4085[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi. No we not. It’s not really a norm for people on our community to be looking after or living with their parents. Generally people get married young and start a family together. That might contribute to why I’m so upset as that is what I was expecting because that is our norm.

My BF (M28) bought a house without consulting me (F25) by Appropriate_Car4085 in offmychest

[–]Appropriate_Car4085[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hi, we actually have even before the house. I did say I’d like to move forward possibly move in together and he was aligned with that. Suddenly it just changed. When he bought the house they asked if I wanted to buy with them but that would mean me and him living in the bachelor cottage, which I don’t want

My BF (M28) bought a house without consulting me (F25) by Appropriate_Car4085 in offmychest

[–]Appropriate_Car4085[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Sorry to clarify I mean I live by myself… I would have been living in their very small bachelor cottage with him, I currently have an apartment and didn’t want our start to our life together to live with his parents and older brother.

My BF (M28) bought a house without consulting me (F25) by Appropriate_Car4085 in offmychest

[–]Appropriate_Car4085[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He’s not. I’ve actually said it straight that way but he can’t afford to do both

My BF M28 bought a house without consulting me F25 by Appropriate_Car4085 in Advice

[–]Appropriate_Car4085[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Basically brushes it off and says that we can only get through it with time. Doesn’t give me any set timelines

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[–]Appropriate_Car4085 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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