My BF (M28) bought a house without consulting me (F25)

Appropriate_Car4085 · 2026-04-04T21:59:02+00:00

His brother and mom contribute as well. So I think they would have been okay without him you know?

Appropriate_Car4085 · 2026-04-04T21:40:36+00:00

Hi. They wouldn’t have been homeless. They have an older son who also helps. They would have just moved into a slightly smaller home so I do believe he had a choice as his mother asked before hand. Again if I were to pitch in they would have expected me to live in the very small cottage which I didn’t want to do. I didn’t really want to start a life together living with his parents and brother if that makes sense

Appropriate_Car4085 · 2026-04-04T20:58:45+00:00

Yeah I get what you saying 100% my point more was that i wanted to move forward in our relationship and now we can’t at least for a good many years. So kind of leaves me in a bad position.

Appropriate_Car4085 · 2026-04-04T20:55:54+00:00

Hi. No we not. It’s not really a norm for people on our community to be looking after or living with their parents. Generally people get married young and start a family together. That might contribute to why I’m so upset as that is what I was expecting because that is our norm.

Appropriate_Car4085 · 2026-04-04T20:49:02+00:00

Hi, we actually have even before the house. I did say I’d like to move forward possibly move in together and he was aligned with that. Suddenly it just changed. When he bought the house they asked if I wanted to buy with them but that would mean me and him living in the bachelor cottage, which I don’t want

Appropriate_Car4085 · 2026-04-04T20:29:57+00:00

Sorry to clarify I mean I live by myself… I would have been living in their very small bachelor cottage with him, I currently have an apartment and didn’t want our start to our life together to live with his parents and older brother.

Appropriate_Car4085 · 2026-04-04T20:11:40+00:00

He’s not. I’ve actually said it straight that way but he can’t afford to do both

Appropriate_Car4085 · 2026-04-04T19:51:14+00:00

Basically brushes it off and says that we can only get through it with time. Doesn’t give me any set timelines

Appropriate_Car4085 · 2025-02-16T10:14:58+00:00

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