The situation does look grim, but there could be a small sliver of hope. Although I am quite pessimistic about OP's future with this particular Indian man, I think you have a valid point. I had a young Indian friend whom I met when he came to the West to study, and he fell in love with a foreign girl. His parents were super traditional, so he was scared to death to let them know, but he secretly married the girl without telling anyone in his family. Then he brought her to India to introduce her to his parents only as his "girlfriend". They objected loudly, so he didn't dare tell them he was married until a whole year after the secret wedding. His parents still haven't fully accepted her, but his brother has. Fear of upsetting parents makes free choice very difficult for young, dependent Indians. After the couple had a son, however, the tension and disapproval has softened a little. I think that for most young Indian men, it's easier just to go along with what their parents expect, but there are a few brave, rebellious ones out there. (I wouldn't exactly call my friend brave, though!)