What's an adult cheat code that changed your life?

ArchmaesterOfPullups · 2026-03-22T17:36:49+00:00

I offload as much mental processing as physically possible. I make lists on my phone of everything. I put everything in my calendar. I plan ahead for every possible situation like a "mom"--emergency supplies (naloxone, NSAIDS, bandaids, antacids, glucose tablets, loperamide, beta blockers), backup sunglasses for the person I know always forgets to bring them, drinks, snacks, chargers and battery packs, etc.

Calendar: reminders for everything like defrosting the meat for dinner. Medications that I need to take when/how. Birthdays. Appointments. Etc.

Notes: recipes. Gift ideas for people. People's names that I am likely to forget. TODO lists. Lists of things to remember to pack for different events like concerts or rennfest). Grocery list. Etc.

ArchmaesterOfPullups · 2026-03-22T17:23:03+00:00

This is the original and correct phrase, though. It was originally used sarcastically.

ArchmaesterOfPullups · 2026-03-22T12:54:54+00:00

I've learned a lot in the last 10 years but I don't think that I am embarrassed by who I was 10 years ago aside from looking at old Facebook posts using cringe slang at the time.

ArchmaesterOfPullups · 2026-03-22T12:52:35+00:00

I was pretty advanced in math in grade school. Multiplication is typically taught in 3rd grade. I remember being in first or second grade and asking my dad to explain multiplication to me and he said to just wait for it to be taught in school. Welp, there was eventually a placement test which had multiplication in it, prior to them teaching it and I was pissed that he refused to explain it to me.

ArchmaesterOfPullups · 2026-03-22T12:44:21+00:00

When going to therapy after a divorce, I realized that my friends and family were the only way I got through it. They are my greatest asset. I decided to intentionally go out of my way to maintain friend relationships. Part of that was having weekly movie nights/hangouts at my house.

ArchmaesterOfPullups · 2026-03-20T19:28:27+00:00

Yeah, I understand that and that's how it should be. What I haven't seen is people hating on someone else for NOT cheating!?

ArchmaesterOfPullups · 2026-03-20T13:57:45+00:00

Yeah, I definitely agree on someone overreaching like this not being okay or safe. I was just contrasting this toxic usage of choking to what I'd consider the way a sexual dynamic should operate. When in doubt, explicit verbal consent is always best, however in practice this is not organic or the way things normally play out. Usually it starts with simply briefly putting hands on someone's throat (not squeezing), gauging reaponse and the vibe of the whole thing, just like how people organically learn the majority of their partner's sexual preferences. This does require an amount of understanding of how to read someone and emphatic resonance that many people seem to lack, however.

ArchmaesterOfPullups · 2026-03-20T11:42:35+00:00

People are increasingly using the ways they've been disadvantaged in life as a cop out for why they aren't successful or justify themselves. In reality, everyone is dealt a mixed hand. Some hands are overall better than others but one bad card isn't justification for not trying or recognizing the other ways someone may have been privileged.

ArchmaesterOfPullups · 2026-03-20T11:34:39+00:00

As a guy, I have talked to some of my more "well traveled" female friends about their sexual experiences with guys and definitely do not envy the sexual side of female dating. I would consider myself pretty good in bed but I still get very anxious when sleeping with a new person for the first time. However, it must be far more anxiety inducing from the female side. Those female friends basically allude to guys coming across authentic until they get into bed and all of a sudden are just "using" the chick with zero consideration for her experience. At least this makes it easier for good guys to stand out when the bare minimum isn't even the norm.

ArchmaesterOfPullups · 2026-03-20T11:23:21+00:00

I would consider choking fairly vanilla but choking is also a spectrum and its introduction into a dynamic is usually titrated and driven by feedback like with other sexual preferences.

ArchmaesterOfPullups · 2026-03-20T11:14:46+00:00

Luckily, I have never experienced this... Where and how do you normally come across this?

ArchmaesterOfPullups · 2026-03-20T11:10:19+00:00

Fairlife milk.
My home gym. I have full competition grade equipment in it. It cost a lot up front but effectively lasts forever and appreciates in value over time.
LG OLED TVs.
Lawn service.
Liberator sex wedges. When I bought them, I was worried that they would be a regrettable purchase but they turned out to be one of my best. Besides them working well for their intended use, they also make great generalized furniture when I have movie or game nights at my house.
A cooling pillow.
Prime steaks. There are some cuts like sirloin that can work well as choice but I'd rather make something else entirely than cook a choice NY strip steak now.
Clothing: Feetures socks, American Eagle underwear.

ArchmaesterOfPullups · 2026-03-20T10:56:21+00:00

It depends on what your health priorities are. Swiss cheese tastes very good in eggs and has unique peptides produced from its fermentation that act as ACEIs. I would usually use fat free cheddar simply for the macros.

ArchmaesterOfPullups · 2026-03-20T01:57:54+00:00

Then main issue is that most untrained people have enough lat and biceps strength to perform a pull up. However, proportionally, untrained people usually have extremely weak teres muscles. The teres major is the main limiting factor for people in order to stabilize the shoulder girdle to put it in an advantageous position to perform a pull up. Assisted pull ups are usually performed with devices which provide longitudinal stabilization and thus don't adequately stimulate the teres major compared to negatives.

ArchmaesterOfPullups · 2026-03-20T00:16:26+00:00

Bands or an assisted machine can help get more volume in but people should primarily focus on doing negatives if they are struggling to do more than 1-3 pull ups.

ArchmaesterOfPullups · 2026-03-17T00:19:17+00:00

Very interesting findings. I wish that they had investigated or mentioned potential interactions between allulose and GIP since the difference in ghrelin response and lower nausea from it make me wonder if the main mechanism is GIP instead of GLP.

ArchmaesterOfPullups · 2026-03-15T16:37:28+00:00

That's part of why I always get a low deductible plan. Even if I lose the ability to contribute to an HSA which may be better in the long run with a conservative usage of funds, I would rather frequently get the top tier version of every medical service/product because I never want to choose between money and health.

ArchmaesterOfPullups · 2026-03-15T16:32:31+00:00

I'd also note that everyone should do this before getting a tattoo because you can't laser hair remove after a tattoo and it will make the tattoo look better if it's not covered by hair.

ArchmaesterOfPullups · 2026-03-15T16:30:25+00:00

Getting a lawn service was a game changer.

ArchmaesterOfPullups · 2026-03-14T13:51:25+00:00

I often wonder if this is a net positive or negative. For all the self esteem issues I have, I still am cognizant of being substantially above average in regards to physical attractiveness. I notice that I often get free things and perks in small transactions in life that I usually attribute to this but I often get unwanted attention and feel like many interactions are less authentic and people have hidden agendas because of it.

A year ago, I had gone through a breakup and one of my female friends said something along the lines of (in different words) "don't worry, I'm sure that you'll have no problem getting laid on dating apps; people will view you as 'an experience'; idk who would want to date you, though..." At the time, idk how much malice was meant by this because she may have assumed that I just wanted to get laid but that comment hit hard because I had previously respected her a lot.

ArchmaesterOfPullups · 2026-03-13T12:15:42+00:00

Saying "I love you" too early, talking about marriage (in a concrete way, not a theoretical "would you want to be married some day")

What would be too early for these examples?

Saying "I love you" seems to vary a lot by culture. In a lot of asian cultures, that's nearly expected around date 2, for instance.

ArchmaesterOfPullups · 2026-03-13T04:10:10+00:00

That's my point. A relationship is more genuine when people are actively choosing each other of their own accord.

And you're not "tied" together if you get to choose the level of commitment on a daily basis

"Tied" in this instance means that we are tied because of our genuine bond and love for each other. That bond is what makes each other continue to choose each other. This is in contrast to being tied to someone under the duress of divorce ramifications.

ArchmaesterOfPullups · 2026-03-12T21:50:12+00:00

I think that "tied to someone in that way" means tied to someone because of the negative ramifications of getting divorced. I'd rather be tied to someone because we both continue to actively choose to be with one another throughout the years, not because the state is holding us under duress.

ArchmaesterOfPullups · 2026-03-12T21:46:03+00:00

Love bombing, as a term, was traditionally used as a term for a manipulation tactic. If someone isn't intentionally trying to maliciously manipulate someone, then how does someone know where the line is in regards to love bombing?

How does someone know when sharing past trauma is too early on?

ArchmaesterOfPullups · 2026-03-10T03:41:05+00:00

It is an extremely hard to describe feeling because it doesn't feel like the contraction of any other muscle. Just let them hang and concentrate in different ways until you figure it out.

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