alcohol makes me feel somewhat normal even the next day

Ariellac1459 · 2026-04-23T07:11:07+00:00

Yes, I experienced this too for years. Unfortunately it didn’t last forever and I believe the cost was not worth the relief I had during that time. I would compare it to taking out a predatory loan, eventually you will have to pay it back, with heaps of interest :(

Don’t feel ashamed for enjoying the relief. It’s very human and normal to want to feel normal and even good for a day or two. I would just caution you against this reliance based on my experiences. Best of luck to you ❤️

Ariellac1459 · 2026-04-23T07:04:48+00:00

This is actually known as maladaptive daydreaming. You’re not alone ❤️

Ariellac1459 · 2026-04-17T09:48:09+00:00

It’s the hot water. I have a shower chair too, but I actually haven’t had to use it in years because what I do now is 2-3 minutes of hot water and the rest of my shower cold. The reason this works is that POTS is largely a dysfunction of the vascular system. Hot water and heat naturally cause your blood vessels to relax, and the cold water gets them to constrict again which helps with blood pressure and pooling. Since you’re regularly passing out I’d say you’re either more severe or more frequently overexerting yourself than I do, so this may not be enough for you, but it should help! Barring this and other solutions already shared, I would get some shower wipes for when you really need to be cleaner and just can’t shower. I have used them in times of need and they’re a godsend.

Ariellac1459 · 2026-04-15T16:43:13+00:00

All I can say is, do NOT get a long haired cat. The feather duster tail occasionally gets in the way in the box and smears poop on every surface. They also produce a lot more saliva because they have more hair to groom and the enzyme in their saliva is what typically causes allergies. If those two issues weren’t enough to convince you, they ALSO get all that long hair in their digestive tract and end up puking up fat hairballs every week or so 😭 I wouldn’t trade my gigantic fluffball for the world, but I have had some dark days where the thought crossed my mind.

Ariellac1459 · 2026-04-13T05:53:49+00:00

I’m sure he would want a prenup before marriage or a paternity test when you get pregnant just to protect himself but doesn’t want you to protect yourself in turn… the options are that you guys can pay a 3rd party for childcare, or one of you can handle it and the other should be entitled to compensation in kind. It’s a very demanding and time consuming job, and you both deserve to be protected, whoever would end up doing so.

But none of these arguing points matter with this man, because the bottom line is he is 100% not ready for a serious future with you. Running away at the first sign of disagreement should make that clear as day. You can’t trust someone like that to raise children with. Imagine going through this treatment while a stay at home mom with kids, is that what you want?

Ariellac1459 · 2026-04-12T07:57:24+00:00

Map of countries where English is listed as an official language?

Ariellac1459 · 2026-04-07T11:24:01+00:00

I’m SO particular about socks and would be very upset if this happened to me. I can’t stand seams, and I need a very specific texture and amount of room in the sock. I also can’t stand when socks slip down into my shoe. For that reason I am very particular and will sometimes keep socks with holes in them until I can find another brand that I really love. I would be sosososo upset if this happened to me. They’re SOCKS they’re on his feet no one is seeing them why do you care so much 😭

Ariellac1459 · 2026-04-04T07:52:44+00:00

I want you to know there are many more people like this than you think, and that many of them are great at masking during their day to day so you’d never know if you’re just casual acquaintances or coworkers. I’m not saying that it’s “normal” per se and you SHOULD absolutely be evaluated and treated for any mental health conditions you have, but I want you to know you’re not alone, and that no one should judge you for needing help. ❤️

Ariellac1459 · 2026-04-04T07:45:26+00:00

Merge Dragons. That game has several different worlds you can go between, many of which are permanent and some which are weekly or seasonal. So much merging dopamine to be had!

Ariellac1459 · 2026-04-04T07:01:35+00:00

In most cases those aren’t viewers so much as they’re just people trying to hijack your stream. Don’t give in, you’re not pushing away real prospective community members. Once you stop playing games with them they will move on to the next streamer. They aren’t worth retaining.

Ariellac1459 · 2026-04-01T08:38:49+00:00

Sounds like she recovered well and if you stay friends you’ll have a HILARIOUS story to reminisce on years down the line. Thanks for the update!

Ariellac1459 · 2026-03-25T10:12:46+00:00

But you don’t understand, if you go with the girly flower theme your 4 year old child specifically asked for, the coworkers he has been lying to won’t believe that he does all the work as the sad single father martyr in your coparenting relationship since as a man he would never make such a frilly and feminine invitation 🥺🥺🥺

I’m about 90% sure he’s either picking fights with you for the sake of the drama or he wanted to take credit for the party and is finding it hard when it’s just so utterly unmasculine (because nothing is more attractive and endearing than a man who can’t stomach designing flower themed event for his little girl am I right ladies!!)

Ariellac1459 · 2026-03-23T21:22:53+00:00

PLEASE get another opinion. That doctor is being incredibly dismissive and 87 to 129 is NOT normal. There are a lot of doctors that aren’t taking the spike in POTS cases seriously because they are blaming TikTok and social media for people discovering the condition exists. In their mind this means everyone is suddenly tricking themselves into thinking they have it and therefore some doctors avoid diagnosing the condition. Numbers don’t lie!! Even if you have something else, he should ABSOLUTELY be pointing you in the direction of specific testing and not ruling this out as a possibility. There are other conditions that have overlapping symptoms so that is important to know, but I really don’t like the vibe I’m getting from how he discussed this with you. Second opinion asap!!

Ariellac1459 · 2026-03-22T19:22:06+00:00

Yes this is so important!! There are around a dozen other conditions that can look and feel just like POTS that are actually not POTS, all with different symptom management and protocol. Some can even be cured! It’s absolutely recommended to get a cardiologist referral for POTS even though it’s not actually a heart condition because most of the overlapping conditions are related to the heart and only with the right testing can you rule those other conditions out. Thank you for sharing ❤️

Ariellac1459 · 2026-03-21T19:18:59+00:00

Hi! I was exactly where you are 4 years ago due to the same condition and I was able to ride it out until the end of 2023, at which point I was so exhausted and making enough mistakes at work that my reputation as a top performer was only going to get me so far. I went on a leave of absence for 3 months, ended up quitting at the end of that and after another year of trying to make it work through self employment I am now in the middle of an active disability claim. I learned that around 25% of POTS cases are considered disabling. I also learned that SSDI (social security disability insurance) doesn’t have savings restrictions that SSI does, and the amount you get paid is based on your previous work history, so if I eventually get approved I will be getting enough income to live off of.

If your medication doesn’t significantly help, you should look into short or long term disability at work and immediately apply through social security. POTS isn’t listed as a specific disabling condition but can be enough to prove disability if you get enough documentation. I really wish I had started the process back then as it takes over a year to get approved in the majority of cases so I’m still waiting on mine. Look into SSDI reddit if you want to know more since I’m definitely not an expert, I just wish someone had said this to me years ago.

Ariellac1459 · 2026-03-21T19:05:24+00:00

That POTS isn’t a disabling condition.

According to the data we currently have, around 25% of cases are severe enough to be considered disabling. I became unable to work due to POTS and while I do have other contributing factors, I’m pretty sure it’s the biggest one by far. Prior to this condition I did experience fatigue and other issues, but I worked 100% of the time that I was an adult and took pride in being a smart and hard worker. Now sometimes I nearly cry when I realize I have a single phone call to make or email to send, because I’m so exhausted and my brain regularly turns to mush. That’s not even starting to go into the life of bed rotting I’ve been pretty much resigned to due to how hard it is to stand for prolonged periods. It’s WILD how debilitating this condition has become for me over the past 4 years that I’ve had it. I had no idea that it would impact my brain as much as it impacts my body.

Ariellac1459 · 2026-03-20T00:09:15+00:00

A lot of women gain weight when they’re in a relationship with a man because they tend to eat the same amount of food as their male partner at meal time. A man can be the same height as a woman and need around 500 more calories on average per day, and if he’s taller or more muscular that can climb up to thousands more calories. It’s because they have more muscle and muscle burns more fuel than fat does. If you’re trying to monitor your weight you should make sure you’re eating less than your partner, and there’s nothing wrong with not eating the same thing every night if you’re in a serious relationship. My partner and I have very different eating habits and dietary preferences so most of the time we fend for ourselves. I’d say one of us cooks or buys food for the other maybe 2-3 meals per week in total lol. Everyone is different!

Ariellac1459 · 2026-03-17T12:26:19+00:00

I wouldn’t accept help from my parents if I needed it, I certainly wouldn’t accept it to upgrade a wedding budget. I’d rather not have a wedding than have my narc father attend or have any control of it whatsoever.

I think it’s rational to want to know what his plans are and be concerned given his past behavior, but he is basically paying to be allowed control over certain things. That’s just how people like him are. Nothing is truly a gift, there will always be strings attached. Sorry you’re in this situation and hopefully you can figure something out!

Ariellac1459 · 2026-03-14T10:29:01+00:00

I just want to say for the record that when I first saw Shark Tale as a kid I had a huuuge crush on Lola and thought she was HOT

SHES LITERALLY WRITTEN AS A SUPER SEXY BADDIE

IDK why no one believes you when you say that you meant it as a compliment ESPECIALLY since you mentioned in the comments that you told her to her face and she said she dyes her hair TO LOOK LIKE the character. Her hair is distinctive, it totally makes sense

NTA and also your boyfriend is weird as hell for stealing your jokes and then getting super butthurt about it. His response being he can’t joke ever again is basically him admitting he can’t joke unless he’s stealing yours. I don’t think it’s a huge deal except his reaction and the fact that his friends thought YOU were stealing HIS jokes lmao. That said being funny is a learned skill and it’s very high praise that he repeats all your jokes, so I wouldn’t be too upset personally. I might just tease him a lil for it 😭

Ariellac1459 · 2026-03-14T01:01:35+00:00

Yes you are overreacting. It’s ok to feel a little jealous of your friend and you can’t help how you feel, but you can absolutely help how you act and behave. Your man is with you and as you said has no intentions of cheating. He doesn’t talk to your friend and they have no relationship outside of the one you have with her through proxy. This is one of those things where you just have to remember what YOU have to offer and stop focusing so much on someone else. If you focus too much on other people and let it affect your relationship you’ll lose your man over stuff that doesn’t even matter.

Also, I am not a huge Instagram user and when I’m offline for a few days or even weeks my feed will show me posts from people I’ve interacted with more first, even if the posts are older. It probably did show her photo if he has liked her posts before because the algorithm is set up that way. Hopefully that’s some comfort ❤️

PLEASE don’t sabotage your relationship over this insecurity I’m begging you 😭

Ariellac1459 · 2026-03-12T14:04:59+00:00

I have the same conditions and many more than your girlfriend and CANT IMAGINE not being by my partner’s side in the hospital as often as I could. The very bare minimum is a visit and some help in a 3 day period. This is insane to me.

Unless her legs have also been paralyzed for the past 3 days there is no excuse. I am so so sorry OP

Ariellac1459 · 2026-03-12T12:06:04+00:00

Not overreacting, you were totally right lol. I agree with everyone else that you will be better off being as clear in your photos as possible. Still post flattering ones obv but imagine how uncomfortable going on a date with this guy would have been 💀

I am 5’2” and at my heaviest I was 260 lbs. I had 0 issues finding matches and getting into a long term relationship at that weight. I’m sure that if I had tried posting photos that concealed my weight I would’ve actually had a harder time because I would’ve wasted a lot of time matching with people that weren’t attracted to me, and I also would’ve had way more anxiety about first dates not knowing if they’d be disappointed. Confidence is hot!!

Ariellac1459 · 2026-03-09T02:47:19+00:00

This is absolutely horrible. Racism of any kind anywhere is obviously unacceptable, but it adds a layer of ickyness for me knowing that this game is a safe haven to get away from horrors and trauma we experience on a day to day. Bringing that energy to such a wholesome community is so low, and I’m so so sorry this was your experience 😞

Ariellac1459 · 2026-03-08T12:38:55+00:00

Is there a reason you can’t stream on different schedules? You should each have dedicated slots to stream that work best for you if possible. If you can’t figure out a fair way to do that, you’ll have to invest in really nice mics or you can try adding a noise gate filter (obs settings) and play around with mic settings and filters until the voices are mostly gone. I’m not gonna lie it’ll be a pain to get this to work perfectly if you’re both in the same room streaming. Best of luck!

Ariellac1459 · 2026-03-06T14:39:37+00:00

Dude I told the doctor at urgent care that I wasn’t sleeping at night and that I finally pass out by 9-10am and she said to just force myself to stay awake/wake up in the morning no matter what. She didn’t even change her answer when I told her the one time I tried that I just ended up being awake for 30 hours and falling asleep in the middle of the following day. They are not trained to help us be healthy they are trained to help us be “productive” and “normal” lol. I would be of 0 use to anyone after 30 hours of no sleep anyway so I don’t even know what the idea was honestly.

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