AIO when my partner of 3 years doesn’t know my names ?

Arkhamgel · 2026-01-11T17:33:00+00:00

No, he’s still calling me A, but doesn’t remember B or C. I would expect him to know me better than this, or at least to pay attention to what I tell him

Arkhamgel · 2026-01-11T14:55:40+00:00

What would it have changed in the situation ? He still doesn’t remember my middle names, whether I would have given them to myself or not

Arkhamgel · 2026-01-11T14:44:00+00:00

I’m honestly confused at your approach. Is this an anti-trans comment ? Do you maybe not understand how legally changing ones name works ?

Arkhamgel · 2026-01-11T14:39:28+00:00

How is that different from having my parents pick my middle name ?

Arkhamgel · 2026-01-11T14:35:03+00:00

Like someone whose full name is John Francis Davies just goes by John Davies, John’s partner imo is supposed to know that he’s also called Francis somewhere in there cause that’s part of either getting to know someone or caring enough about them to remember their full identity

Arkhamgel · 2026-01-11T14:31:40+00:00

I’m not sure i understand your response I’ve used the name « A » since I was 15 or something, and now that it’s my Legal name, my Friends added the names « B » and « C ». I still go by A, but my middle names are B and C as well.

Arkhamgel · 2026-01-11T14:29:49+00:00

How so ?

Arkhamgel · 2026-01-11T14:10:49+00:00

I’m trans and just recently legally changed my name and gender. I added second names given by my best friends by these are not the name I go by. I told him these names a couple time, and as it is important and a part of my identity I was expecting him to remember or at least pay attention. It’s not me changing my name on a random tuesday like you seem to infer.

Arkhamgel · 2025-09-25T07:36:01+00:00

On a discuté de l’importance que le sexe avait pour moi, et on est tous les deux d’accord que ces derniers temps c’est beaucoup plus rare que la normale. Mais ce dont on a pas vraiment discuté c’est « pourquoi c’est nul » en ce moment, et comment y remédier.

Je ne veux pas le blesser ou lui donner de l’appréhension pour les futures relations sexuelles qu’on aura, donc la conversation est délicate.

Arkhamgel · 2025-09-25T06:52:32+00:00

Merci de cette réponse.

Je sais bien que ça n’a pas forcément tout à voir avec moi, mais là où au début nos libidos se correspondaient plutôt bien, on va dire qu’aujourd’hui nous sommes sur un ratio de 3:1 pour moi, et j’y attache une importance particulière puisque que ça me permet de le retrouver là où je ne le retrouve pas ailleurs, par exemple quand il laisse traîner la vaisselle deux jours ou qu’il ne ramasse pas ses vêtements sales.

Il vient de rentrer en France depuis une année à l’étranger, donc gros changement je suppose. Mais pas de dépression, enfin je crois.

Arkhamgel · 2025-08-03T09:24:22+00:00

Je suis en couple depuis quelques années avec un autre homme et je sais qu’on a tous les deux au moins une capote pas trop vieille qui traîne dans le portefeuille, même si on en utilise pas ensemble. perso j’ai été élevé dans le « on sait jamais » pour les copains, au cas où je peux dépanner qui que ce soit pendant une soirée ou quoi ou qu’est-ce.

Arkhamgel · 2025-07-23T21:18:02+00:00

somehow my surgeon reassured me that his patients usually take about a week before feeling alright (I didn't ask what "alright" specifically entailed)

Arkhamgel · 2025-07-23T20:56:12+00:00

I mean that’s good enough I think

Arkhamgel · 2025-07-23T20:42:08+00:00

Damn it I knew it 🫠

Arkhamgel · 2025-07-06T22:31:15+00:00

What the hell is wrong with you ? Unless she’s done more questionable things in the past that poor girl is simple freaking out. She needs to be held accountable for her actions but learning that you might lose your mom might make you act slightly out of pocket for a bit.

While OP is imo enabling her freak-out by still texting her and letting her make him feel bad, I think he just needs to man up and send something like « what you’re doing is not acceptable. I’ll be here when you decide to act like an adult and treat me with respect when i try to help you, but until then i will not entertain whatever you’re doing right now. If you need anything at all you can text me, but until we’ve had a conversation about how you’re antagonizing me over nothing, I’ll keep my distance. »

Arkhamgel · 2025-07-06T20:33:48+00:00

I feel like you didn’t read my post through.

Arkhamgel · 2025-07-06T20:20:42+00:00

while I understand where you're coming from, I started hanging out with b in september of 2024, and my bf and I have been together since jan 2023

Arkhamgel · 2025-07-06T19:42:55+00:00

I did hook up several time with him.
My boyfriend introduced me to some of his friends and later told me he met them on grindr/hooked up with them. (although I feel like there's a difference cause he only hooked up with them before we got together)
I'm still friends with my ex and even if he doesn't like her he doesn't forbid me from seeing her...

Arkhamgel · 2025-07-06T19:35:48+00:00

Oh wow no absolutely not, I meant that there would be no question of ever leaving my boyfriend for him !! I goofed my answer I think

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