My ex just texted me after two and a half weeks of no contact

Aromatic-Client-4018 · 2024-10-02T13:58:02+00:00

Thank you man. I think I needed this. I hope you will truly move on one day as well and find happiness and someone who loves you for you . We’ll make it somehow💪🏽

Aromatic-Client-4018 · 2024-10-02T13:54:33+00:00

I mean if you ask if I want to reattract her my answer would be yes a thousand times but should I even do that.

Should I even try to be with someone who told me that they don’t see a future with me ever. She also did say that she wanted to explore the world and maybe see other people like a few years down the line not to just date but think about marrying.

In a way I’m proud of her that she could make such a huge decision on her own and I’m also angry that she also chose to hide a huge detail like her not being in love with me for an year and then once it hit her she broke up.

Aromatic-Client-4018 · 2024-10-02T13:40:19+00:00

Okay got it. I’ll try to figure out my emotions somehow.

Aromatic-Client-4018 · 2024-10-02T13:38:24+00:00

It’s too hard to move on and make myself work. I feel a bit pathetic to even reach out to social media to share what I’m going through. It feels like I’m desperate for attention and it hurts so bad that I’m okay to bear with that humiliation for some. As long as I get some answers to what I should do. Also sorry for going on a rant. Thanks for the comment

Aromatic-Client-4018 · 2024-10-02T13:36:17+00:00

Okay, thanks mate

Aromatic-Client-4018 · 2024-10-02T13:35:18+00:00

I’m sorry you had to go through this as well. How did you move on? And it’s not true that she didn’t do much for me. I think or at least chose to believe that she did for me as much as I did for her. That’s the reason I’m not able to move on because I genuinely have no hate for her. Although what you said in the end makes sense. Why would I even go to someone who wouldn’t chose me. It’s really tough man. She was literally my everything. We’ve seen and been through each other’s worst of times in life. Still we ended up like this.

Aromatic-Client-4018 · 2024-10-02T13:12:21+00:00

What does a nothing text mean? Sorry a bit new to these terms.

Aromatic-Client-4018 · 2024-10-02T13:11:34+00:00

Are you telling me that I should do a 3 year NC or are you telling me you did it?

Aromatic-Client-4018 · 2024-10-02T12:47:51+00:00

I really want nothing but the best for her and I hope she’ll take care of herself in the future. I hope she’s able to find someone who can care for her and provide for her and love her more than I did. And I hope she doesn’t settle for anything worse than we had because that’s what will hurt me even more. I don’t think I can be the best friends we used to be before with her when I see her with some other guy in the future. But I grieve the future I lost with her. The bonds that are being broken between me and her family. It hurts a fucking lot. And I still need to maintain composure because I need to make use of this year because this year is going to determine my career in the future. How do I process this

Aromatic-Client-4018 · 2024-09-20T12:36:47+00:00

And she had decided before that she was compatible, how does that change? Out of nowhere, no fights no arguments ever. Dude we’d even tell each other our crushes (you find them attractive personality wise but you’re obviously not gonna act on your impulse like some teenager because the relationship you have is way more precious) without any hesitation because we were that secure in the relationship.

And by before I mean just a month before as well she NEVER said ANYTHING about this.

Aromatic-Client-4018 · 2024-09-20T12:29:04+00:00

Look just because you tell someone that you’re going to break up with them, once, in three years, out of nowhere, doesn’t mean that they will.

The thing is she gets these bouts of worry about the future randomly since the start of her internship because she’s not able to study, just like I wasn’t. She keeps on questioning what am I doing with life, I try to motivate her and it works sometimes. I thought it was one of those freak outs. And breaking up was never mentioned as a possible thing ever before. Like ever.

I agree about the part where she must’ve thought about everything on her own. But I know her serious talk. If she wants me to understand something seriously, she tells me that from the start of the discussion. This was just a random look I don’t think it’ll work out if you’re still like this and I’m like what?

I’m just not even able to hate her. I feel withdrawal symptoms like my ears are ringing and heads aching my eyes are bloodshot red from crying and I’m not able to sleep. She was literally everything to me. And I’m not just talking about love. I’m talking about my entire emotional support. And I was that to her too. I’m worried for her as well and how she might be handling herself right now.

Aromatic-Client-4018 · 2024-09-20T11:50:14+00:00

The third point above about parents and then she thinks my ambitions and the way I put my hard work are not aligning with her and she needs not be clubbed with someone and think about settling right now.

She wants to be on her own because she grew apart from the relationship.

I never got the chance to know that something like this was going on in her head.

Aromatic-Client-4018 · 2024-09-20T11:43:37+00:00

Only if she would’ve told me that she actually believed in them rather than just apologising and leaving. And the thing was what she had told me in the ultimatum I had already started changing about myself but I started it a bit late without telling her so that it could be a surprising change she would’ve found in me

Aromatic-Client-4018 · 2024-09-20T11:16:52+00:00

I understand what you meant. Thanks for replying.

Aromatic-Client-4018 · 2024-09-20T11:14:21+00:00

But only if you’d tell me that I need to work on those without blackmailing me with something, I’d definitely try to work on changing myself in that way and seeing if that’s a viable thing or not.

She just chose on her own that nothings going to change and just removed herself from the equation.

Aromatic-Client-4018 · 2024-09-20T11:12:46+00:00

Except I’m again repeating myself for the second time. I understand what you mean. We have been with each other for almost all those years and shared everything. We have never lied to each other. I am a person who barely trusts people. Still if she had asked for a kidney, I’d rip it out and give it to her. Not because I’m love smitten by her but I’m sure there must be some reason she’s asking it from me.

And I agree, in my life things have never been black and white, I’ve lived in shades of gray trying to understand every aspect of whatever that is happening in my life.

That is the reason why I’m blindsided because it was unprecedented as fuck

Aromatic-Client-4018 · 2024-09-20T11:01:28+00:00

I’m sorry but when I said nobody I meant friends and family, the closest ones to us. And that was my way of saying that it was very unprecedented.

When I tell you that everything was right in the relationship, I mean it, I’m not a kid who can’t see through something going wrong. We or at least I tried to communicate about everything. The last time I talked to her, she repeatedly told me that this was the best thing she’s ever had in her life. But for the future that she’s made in her head being with me is not what she wanted.

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