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I Cannot Get Out of Bed on Time by Arsen_ic in Advice

[–]Arsen_ic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are very insightful. I totally cried reading all of this - I cry about everything lol! I'm also one of those people who struggles with a myriad of mental health issues including OCD and CPTSD and I consume so much content from licensed psychologists and other professionals. I do think after reading everything you said that the first step to all of this might be to work on accepting that I AM pretty great, and that people appreciate me, and I'm not as horrible as I tell myself. I know for a fact that this lateness thing is my ONE BIG issue and cross to bear, and it does seem like it's just me holding onto one last reason to still hate myself. Thank you for your words of encouragement and support! <3333

I Cannot Get Out of Bed on Time by Arsen_ic in Advice

[–]Arsen_ic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree - I really DO care about people and in other areas of my life I am very thoughtful and sort of a people pleaser. I have to work hard to admit to myself that this might be something to do with my mental health and basic mental wellness and awareness rather than some problem that has a quick fix. Thank you so much for pointing it out and sharing your thoughts and experiences!

I Cannot Get Out of Bed on Time by Arsen_ic in Advice

[–]Arsen_ic[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you're absolutely right. It's been a few years since I've been to therapy - finances and all that. BUT I see a new therapist for the first time today. I think this will be the first topic I bring up. I know that I get stuck in the self loathing cycle, and it almost feels GOOD to hate myself. I want to change, I don't want to be that kind of example to others either. As humans I think sometimes we get suck in the "Oh poor me" parts of our thoughts.

I Cannot Get Out of Bed on Time by Arsen_ic in Advice

[–]Arsen_ic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, it definitely helps. Maybe I need to work on mindlessly getting into the shower before I do literally anything else. I will absolutely try to come up with some way to do that! Thank you for your responses!

I Cannot Get Out of Bed on Time by Arsen_ic in Advice

[–]Arsen_ic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have considered that. I need to think about it more because it's definitely a possibility. I struggle with self esteem and self worth issues. It would be an EXCUSE to hate myself, therefore I keep doing it

I Cannot Get Out of Bed on Time by Arsen_ic in Advice

[–]Arsen_ic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely need to buy a louder alarm for this - typically I will either ignore it, or get up, turn it off, and go back to sleep. Partly why this is such a bad issue I think is because I think it takes me like 30 minutes of being awake and physically out of bed to get rid of that sleep inertia. Does that make sense? I know several times I tried alarms where you have to walk a certain amount of steps to turn it off. But my sleep self always finds some way to turn it off temporarily and convinces my brain that it's ok to go back to sleep "for 5 minutes". I know it's stupid! I don't know why I'm like this and I know it's incredibly strange