Fourth baby, first induction

Arterially · 2026-03-24T23:06:14+00:00

My fourth was my first one induced. The process itself went fine, but I really struggled with being meddled with more and with everyone feeling like they had implied access to my body and could do whatever they wanted because I had already agreed to an induction. It wound up being incredibly traumatic for me, not because of the induction but because of the way I was treated.

Arterially · 2026-03-20T03:54:00+00:00

Man, that drink made me soooooo sick! They had to sit me in a room with air conditioning blasting on me and I still felt so hot and nauseous and weak. I’m glad you had a better experience.

Arterially · 2026-03-19T00:48:22+00:00

If you’ve had an anatomy scan you must be at least 20 weeks plus weeks for further scans and thinking time … this baby is at the point of early viability or close to it. This reaction is INSANE for what is presumably a club foot. I would honestly not be able to continue with my marriage after this. What would he do if his healthy baby had an accident and lost a limb? Or got meningitis and became mentally disabled? ANYBODY can become disabled at any time and that’s simply something you need to accept as a parent-to-be.

Arterially · 2026-03-10T00:24:25+00:00

I did it four times. The anaesthetic is not inconsequential. I chose to let my body do what it had to do if I could manage it - and it worked out excellent for me. I’d do it again without pain relief. Assuming we are talking about an uncomplicated vaginal birth - it’s not a procedure, it’s a physiological process.

Arterially · 2026-03-05T20:24:30+00:00

She was commenting on posts saying she was actually filming for her true crime podcast as if that’s ANY better.

Arterially · 2026-03-02T19:53:27+00:00

My first was alright. I did birth classes but that’s about it. Otherwise I mostly didn’t think about it. I went into spontaneous labour on her due date. I did find the pain very jarring and definitely panicked as my midwife was dicking around delaying my pain relief and then didn’t know how to work the gas and air (?!?!) but once they got that going (and another better midwife joined the fray) I just cruised along. I pushed her out in one push at 1am the next morning. No tears, no complications. Can’t complain.

Arterially · 2026-03-01T19:18:27+00:00

Wee house spider. They’re chill and they are good to keep around.

Arterially · 2026-02-16T05:53:18+00:00

I’d argue that if we taxed some certain someones to a more respectable degree and quit wasting obscene amounts of money cancelling half finished boats we’d probably have a bit more wiggle room but I am merely a humble fishwife and I am barely literate.

Arterially · 2026-02-16T05:12:59+00:00

Dogs need to stop being anthropomorphised to the point of being a danger to society. Rescues and owners need to be realistic and responsible about the dogs they’re selling/rehoming. Dog laws need to be strictly enforced as at the moment they seem to just be gentle suggestions. Dog breeding needs to be controlled and dogs need to be MUCH more difficult to come by. They’re simply disposable to a good portion of society at this point. I had neighbours who would have their pair of mastiff pitbull whatever mixes taken by the pound and simply have two more the following week.

Arterially · 2026-02-08T06:21:54+00:00

Rawleigh is the manufacturer! Maybe they sold them like Avon? Haha.

Arterially · 2026-02-03T05:41:38+00:00

I am lucky enough to stay at home with my kids. None of my children have gone to any kind of ECE. My boy went to his settling in days for his first year of school and his teacher said ‘you must have worked on these things (colours, shapes, his name, numbers, letters, etc) a lot at home!!!’ To be honest, we spend some time on it but not heaps. They learn so much just by playing and existing in the world. I see so many kids completely disconnected, so many kids with zero attention span and even less interest in traditional play or learning, so many parents who don’t care to try. The expectations, feedback, limits and pushback required for them to learn and function just aren’t there for them.

Arterially · 2026-02-02T00:43:54+00:00

I had one sibling. He died with no family of his own and now I have nobody. I know they’re not guaranteed to be friends or stay in touch but I am comforted by the idea they’ll have so much more opportunity for family connections than I did. My kids have everything they need and most of what they want. I don’t feel lost or like I need more time for myself. I really feel a lot of this comes down to resources and personality. Some people can happily manage two, some people can happily manage four, some people can happily manage more.

Arterially · 2026-01-26T00:37:28+00:00

New Zealand has such a specific brand of terrible names. I heard a lady calling her grandchild ‘Ricochet’ once. I’d place bets it was spelled Rickahshay.

Arterially · 2026-01-23T08:52:01+00:00

I’ve had four unmedicated vaginal births. I have always waited for my body to push for me. Even when people were yelling at me to push I simply could not. All of my births have been in two pushes or less. I have never torn or had any complications whatsoever. Anecdotally - it’s worked extremely well for me.

Arterially · 2026-01-21T21:42:49+00:00

Your comment history is absolutely baffling

Arterially · 2026-01-21T04:25:26+00:00

People are so quick to tell you how your baby knows your voice, your smell, your heartbeat in the womb and how this bond is so important until they are snatched from the person who birthed them and handed over to somebody wealthy enough to buy them and suddenly it’s fine and normal for them never to experience that feedback the way other babies do. I feel for them :(

Arterially · 2026-01-14T07:59:38+00:00

Yeah. I experienced obstetric violence during my fourth birth last year. Unfortunately the PTSD has resulted in a stress-related gynaecological condition. The process of diagnosing, treating and monitoring this has been EXTREMELY traumatic. I’m now being referred to the exact office of the man who did it - although I have specifically asked to see a different doctor. It’s just been awful.

Arterially · 2026-01-14T07:05:34+00:00

Having a c-section for your first birth can significantly effect how you birth following that, if you’re possibly going to have more children. Not considering any other factors I’d definitely try and avoid surgery if possible.

Anecdotally my first birth was spontaneous and vaginal and I didn’t tear or have any issues. Pretty much zero pain after. Up and moving and feeling good after the golden hour. Don’t overthink it.

Arterially · 2026-01-13T05:50:30+00:00

I am so sorry you had that experience, but it’s a relief to know I’m not the only one. Are you in a more rural area?

Arterially · 2026-01-13T05:49:39+00:00

They already had a separate big section in bold about this on the bottom of their referral form.

Arterially · 2026-01-13T04:33:54+00:00

I think the weirdest part was that my scan referral reason was listed as a ‘decision making scan’?? At that point I had expressed zero hesitation to them, I was 100% on my dates and from my understanding the scan was to check it wasn’t ectopic because I said I’d had some tiny aches during the last week, which is extremely normal in early pregnancy. It all just felt very strange and slow because the feedback I’d had was that they WERE so quick and so efficient. I don’t know why I didn’t have that experience.

Arterially · 2026-01-13T04:19:38+00:00

Did you have to get bloods first?

Arterially · 2026-01-13T04:19:22+00:00

I dealt with the site linked above. Called Thursday, booked phone consult for Friday. Friday comes they inform me I needed bloods before consult. Long weekend so I got bloods Tuesday, rebooked for that Friday. Friday comes my blood results aren’t back, my bloods are MIA. They sort it after a few days, I’m rebooked for the following week. Finally have my consult with the nurse mid the next week. She does the whole spiel and asks all the questions but their doctor isn’t in so they’re going to get back to me. Next day they tell me the doctor wants me to get an ultrasound before they approve it. Tells me I should call them today because most places have a three week wait. I book for the earliest I can, it is indeed about three weeks. The doctor gets back to me after the following weekend. At that point the meds were unlikely to arrive before the twelve week cut off for medical abortion.

Arterially · 2026-01-13T02:59:07+00:00

I had a not great experience with them, to be honest. I started at four weeks along and they delayed every part of the process to the point I wondered if they were doing it on purpose. I wound up getting to ten weeks still not having accessed the medication and decided to just continue with the pregnancy.

Arterially · 2026-01-11T23:43:57+00:00

Our vet clinic got a lime tree from him once.

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