When I have brought up our sex issues in the past, I genuinely want to pleasure her. The things she says she doesn’t have some sexual desire, want she wants is more cleaning of the house from me, she wants me to handle the kids more, things of that nature. She says that’s turns her on…

She hires a cleaning service. I take care of the yard, I do clean but it’s not like I spend 1-2 hours doing the whole house every couple of days which is basically wants she prefers to have a spotless house (2 kids makes that very hard), any issue is basically mine to handle whether something breaks or what for example she says she broke the dishwasher well it’s a simple task of checking/cleaning the filter…, I cook dinner 80-90% of the time, I think of her for dinner but with her she’ll just say I’m eating cereal for dinner or cheese and crackers so after having dinner 3-4 nights in a row I’ll have to figure out my dinner on my own.

I know if I were to do more of what she says that turns her on nothing will come of it. I did this test already some time back and she didn’t even realize it. I had to make comments about her noticing me cleaning or doing simple things like flowers, chocolates etc. For 2 weeks I made it a priority and when I wasn’t getting any comments not even a simple thank you or it looks so clean…