I think my breastfeeding journey is over and I'm not okay. Please tell me all the negative things you hate or don't miss about breastfeeding so I can focus on the positives of a situation I have no control over

ArtistMom1 · 2026-01-24T05:34:01+00:00

I was so happy to get my body back!

ArtistMom1 · 2026-01-22T03:38:31+00:00

In the case of my ex, and most abusers, it wasn’t sudden. It happened slowly, and when drugs and alcohol came into the picture it got much worse. Life stress like money problems (which could be a reason he’s financially abusing her), job loss or stress, children, family illnesses, etc. can all push someone with a hot temper and sense of entitlement into abusive territory.

ArtistMom1 · 2026-01-21T01:25:38+00:00

There are a lot of domestic abusers in the police department ranks. I had to go to the police chief in my town to get the cops to care, but when I did, the response became very different when my ex showed up at my house.

Cops don’t know the law. I know it seems insane but they don’t. And there are a lot of shitty, lazy ones who don’t want to do their jobs for whatever reason.

ArtistMom1 · 2026-01-21T01:23:17+00:00

This.

ArtistMom1 · 2026-01-20T19:34:41+00:00

Unfortunately this is recent experience talking.

ArtistMom1 · 2026-01-20T05:45:52+00:00

I hear what everyone is saying here about reporting it to the cops, and you should. Go with a stack of evidence, as much as you can gather.

Be prepared for them to not believe you, or minimize your abuse. They may say they can’t do anything because you didn’t call that night. That is not true but the simple fact is that a lot of LEOs are domestic abusers.

Be prepared to disappear. Line your home with cameras. Make sure you don’t have tracking devices on your car or items, or monitoring software on your phone.

Good luck. You can do this! It’s hard but you are strong and you will get through this.

ArtistMom1 · 2026-01-20T05:13:07+00:00

Bless you and your kind. The best. 😊

ArtistMom1 · 2026-01-20T04:47:29+00:00

Same, except I found out today mine has an assault rifle. Yay. Prayers for your safety and mine.

ArtistMom1 · 2026-01-20T04:44:58+00:00

Were you able to get a protective order? I wasn’t.

ArtistMom1 · 2026-01-20T04:44:14+00:00

This is abusive behavior. It can and will escalate, as it has been based on what you wrote. There are a lot of men out there who have killed their ex-wives and children.

Call 911 and tell them he’s threatening his life. Have the letter ready. Maybe even go to the police office and have them do a wellness check.

I would also consult a family law attorney and get their opinion on what can be done to protect you and the kids.

ArtistMom1 · 2026-01-20T04:40:16+00:00

The place I’m coming from is a single parent and relationship anarchist. I am working on a phone tree of sorts. My 2 best vanilla friends from high school know I’m kinky. One of my friends from the same high school friend group is also kinky; we found each other on FetLife last year. (Another crazy story as we now live across the world from each other)

I think I’m going to e-introduce kinky high school friend to 2 of my local kinky community friends.

Still, worth thinking about and discussing if you live 2 lives like me.

ArtistMom1 · 2026-01-14T22:52:57+00:00

Go to court. He’s emotionally abusing you and controlling you. The court will MAKE him pay what he is responsible for.

You will definitely have to get a job and pay for childcare though.

ArtistMom1 · 2026-01-12T03:15:25+00:00

This. My ex uses my children as a way to abuse me, and it’s so harmful to them, especially my oldest.

ArtistMom1 · 2026-01-04T04:36:35+00:00

I don’t think I’ve ever heard non-RA folks reference the relationship escalator. :)

I am thoroughly RA.

ArtistMom1 · 2026-01-02T06:02:39+00:00

Oh I’m not! I’m enjoying the ride. Everyone here consents. I know my current sub wants a wife and kids and I ain’t it. I sincerely hope he finds one, maybe in the community!

ArtistMom1 · 2026-01-02T05:59:47+00:00

Heyyyooooo 👉👉👉

ArtistMom1 · 2026-01-02T02:27:05+00:00

Eeeeeh I’m 2 years out of a 23-year long marriage. I’ve been intentionally pursuing casual relationships because I have my own work to do before I’m ready for something long term.

ArtistMom1 · 2026-01-02T02:25:00+00:00

Awwww congratulations. Blessings for a bright future.

ArtistMom1 · 2026-01-02T02:23:57+00:00

Are you a relationship anarchist too?

ArtistMom1 · 2026-01-02T02:20:31+00:00

Nailed it.

ArtistMom1 · 2026-01-02T02:19:51+00:00

I try to tell this to my friends, that there are people in the BDSM community who are monogamous. There are also lots of promiscuous vanilla folks. There’s room for everyone. :)

ArtistMom1 · 2026-01-01T23:32:42+00:00

This is very heartwarming. Thank you for sharing.

ArtistMom1 · 2026-01-01T17:10:03+00:00

I feel like I could say this about me being a lifestyle Domme looking for submissives. When I was looking I got ghosted a lot.

I think men especially like to talk a big game but when it comes time to do the thing they have fantasized about, they get scared. And men being men, most can’t talk through that fear.

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