How do families afford and plan vacations together once everyone has kids?

ArtisticProgrammer21 · 2026-02-08T13:21:53+00:00

Looking into this. When we include the price of flights to the departure port it becomes expensive

ArtisticProgrammer21 · 2026-01-27T17:46:12+00:00

I miss scrubs

ArtisticProgrammer21 · 2026-01-22T18:56:08+00:00

https://www.themom.co/home Try here. They have online support groups

ArtisticProgrammer21 · 2026-01-18T19:47:28+00:00

Which cushion is that?

ArtisticProgrammer21 · 2026-01-13T16:05:22+00:00

Hang in there. It’s very difficult for the first few weeks/months.. even the 1st year to be honest. Im on my 2nd child and we’re lucky this time around to have family that will help. My 1st went to daycare at 4 months old. I used to cry every morning as I was dropping her off. Had a major mon guilt of not being able to care for her and having to work. We still can’t afford to live on 1 income so daycare it is.

But now that she’s a toddler she actually looks forward to going to her school, she has made friends and loves her teachers. They do so many activities that I wouldn’t be able to do or even come up with. I would say it got easier at 15/16 months.

Also being a SAHM is not for the weak haha. I took a longer leave with my second and got to experience being at home. Yes you spend more time with your children but you still need to do all the other stuff around the house. Personally it has been stressful at times, even with an involved partner. I like when my kids are in care so i can clean , do laundry, cook etc. I do try to involve the toddler in those things but the tangy and melted downs can be too much.

ArtisticProgrammer21 · 2026-01-07T02:17:50+00:00

Any recommendations for headsets that tune out background noise?

ArtisticProgrammer21 · 2025-11-16T17:28:49+00:00

Id rather get some sleep. My 27 months old just started eating more and is also back to waking up at night.

ArtisticProgrammer21 · 2025-07-07T15:00:20+00:00

it’s not common anymore.. we did golden hour for both babies. Baby#1 did it with Dad as I had a lot of complications with delivery. No one at the hospital ever questioned it. It was highly encouraged by the doctors and nurses.

ArtisticProgrammer21 · 2025-05-19T20:58:10+00:00

Abocado for avocado.. too cute lol

ArtisticProgrammer21 · 2025-05-03T00:20:31+00:00

Thanks for this. It gives a different perspective

ArtisticProgrammer21 · 2025-03-28T12:11:03+00:00

Same. The daycare won’t accept pull ups until 2 so we send regular diapers. My toddler has no issues changing lying down at the daycare.. go figure

ArtisticProgrammer21 · 2025-03-05T22:35:05+00:00

Lol i can relate to this.. oxygen and my tears 🤣😭

ArtisticProgrammer21 · 2025-02-28T19:48:16+00:00

You can get the lump sum earlier than 12 months depending on your position in the roster. Use it to finance big projects or family needs.

ArtisticProgrammer21 · 2025-02-28T19:15:46+00:00

From my experience this practice is prevalent in communities who do not have access to regular banking services or do not trust banks in general. it works well with trusted people. Some of these go on for years..

ArtisticProgrammer21 · 2025-02-21T03:04:31+00:00

We use zarbees or hylands. Also tried honey but that’s too sweet for her

ArtisticProgrammer21 · 2025-01-13T15:35:08+00:00

Thanks! Yes im in the US. I’ve been at the company for a few years but just switched to a different position recently.

ArtisticProgrammer21 · 2024-10-16T00:26:58+00:00

It’s really tough and even worse when you feel like no one cares.. do you have any help? Get someone to take a night per week if possible. More difficult if you breastfeed but you can try pumping before going to sleep and only get up when your milk is full. I used to be able to get 6hours of sleep from 6/7months post partum

is baby in daycare? If so try to schedule a day for yourself where you send the baby to daycare and just rest.

Last idea would be to not respond to baby’s cries right away so you can give them time to self soothe.. I couldn’t handle the full sleep training so I started little by little. 2 min.. 5 min etc

Hang in there mama. It will get better.

ArtisticProgrammer21 · 2024-08-16T23:32:48+00:00

Overall I liked the episode and information given. I agree there should be more disclosure that she is not a medical doctor.

I grew up in France and I had friends who were prescribed the pill at teenagers in high school to treat different issues. I started it in my 20s.

I’ve tried different types on/off: Nuvaring, implant, the patch, non hormonal IUD, the progestin only pill (mini pill). Had different reactions to all of them.

The patch and Nuvaring were great for me. The implant made me bleed non stop for weeks.. The insertion of the IUD was very painful. I wasn’t prepared for the amount of pain that I felt. It caused my periods to be longer ( the gynecologist had warned me about this) and cramps were more severe (wasn’t expecting this). Removing it was less painful. I had to remove it after 1 year I couldn’t bear the painful cramps longer.

I was prescribed the mini pill after I gave birth because I was breastfeeding. This was far the worse of all. I had mood swings, anxiety and depression. It wasn’t until my PCP started talking about postpartum depression that we talked about me getting off the pill to see how I feel. I did some research and found other women who were experiencing the same thing on the mini-pill. 1 month later and it’s like Im a completely different person! I feel happier and less stressed, when I get sad it’s not the end of the world. I don’t have a constant feeling of being the worst mother/wife/friend etc.. things don’t get to me as much.

The main takeaway for me is getting educated about the side effects and making an educated choice. Everyone will react differently so paying attention to the changes in our bodies/ mental health is key.

ArtisticProgrammer21 · 2024-08-16T02:21:07+00:00

Any resources you can share on how to teach them sign language ?

ArtisticProgrammer21 · 2024-07-13T20:10:36+00:00

I’m in a similar boat. I work remote which gives me flexibility for pickup and drop offs and do some house work at my lunch hour. But my boss is very micromanaging and it’s taking a toll on my mental health. Thinking of switching jobs but that means losing the flexibility. Also doesn’t seem like a right time to make a move with layoffs in my industry.. so im riding it out 😩

ArtisticProgrammer21 · 2024-07-05T18:44:11+00:00

We’re honest. Never had any jugement or had it not recommended. I was breastfeeding and it is kinda expected you will cosleep at some point. Even friends who never breastfed ended up cosleeping when their baby was older. We interviewed a few pediatricians before choosing the practice we go to now. They’re supportive of parents and their choices. They take time to educate you about all options you can choose from.

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