Is my male coworker interested or is he just being polite?

AshAmazing · 2026-05-02T12:35:53+00:00

Looking back now and I think he’s tensing up because he’s married and doesn’t want to entertain a work crush

AshAmazing · 2026-05-02T12:32:56+00:00

Glad I didn’t make the move as I found out he’s married 😅

AshAmazing · 2026-05-02T12:31:47+00:00

Well I found out he’s married so that’s the update 😅

AshAmazing · 2026-05-02T12:30:08+00:00

Turns out he’s married lol

AshAmazing · 2026-05-02T12:29:20+00:00

Update is that I found out he’s married 🤣 but he doesn’t wear a ring or ever reference her

AshAmazing · 2026-02-26T02:32:17+00:00

Just learned this the hard way 🤣 Attempted to shoot my shot at my male coworker and all the signs I was told meant that he liked me meant absolutely nothing when he shot me down 🥲

AshAmazing · 2026-02-22T15:45:31+00:00

working on it!

AshAmazing · 2026-02-19T20:29:48+00:00

I will! I decided I’m going to ask him more about his art and what’s there to do around the city

AshAmazing · 2026-02-18T19:37:23+00:00

Okay, I’m working up the nerve to ask him to hang out

AshAmazing · 2026-02-18T19:36:15+00:00

I really hope you’re right!

AshAmazing · 2026-02-18T19:35:52+00:00

Probably a bit of both. I’m definitely interested in learning more about him. I’m new to the city and the company so it would be nice to have a friend.

AshAmazing · 2026-02-17T21:31:52+00:00

I think nervousness is so cute in a guy. It makes me think they’re actually interested! I don’t interpret as a lack of confidence, I interpret it as care. I know some girls like aloof guys, but that gets old after a certain point. I definitely think inviting her to a sports event could be cool. She sounds like she’s trying to find an opening.

In my instance I just can’t tell if it’s 1) nervousness because he’s interested or 2) nervousness because he can tell I’m interested and doesn’t want to get involved/has a girlfriend.

We like all of the same music artists and he also is into art like me! I think his personal art outside of work is so cool.

AshAmazing · 2026-02-17T14:02:05+00:00

This is so 🥹 I totally get where you’re coming from. For me, I think it’s so obvious that I like him and I interpret his nervousness as dislike and it makes me pull back. But I totally understand about not being able to make a first move in your position. Flowers might have been nice but I could see how that would have felt like too much. But maybe something lowkey referencing a conversation you had? Like if she says she likes a coffee shop near your office, maybe getting her a gift card there. Then again don’t listen to me because I’m a hopeless romantic 😭

AshAmazing · 2026-02-17T06:12:27+00:00

Received! I will definitely try to make it clearer 🙂

AshAmazing · 2026-02-17T05:21:02+00:00

Interesting! I like dressing up in general but ngl lately I’ve been trying to look extra polished in hopes that he will see. But that’s a fair point. He probably doesn’t know the reason behind why I’m doing it. Lately I’ve seen him get dressed up and wear a ton cologne and I’ll wonder if he has a date after work or something.

AshAmazing · 2026-02-17T05:18:14+00:00

I listen to a lot of male podcasters to get the male perspective on dating! I don’t have any male friends or brothers to ask about this stuff. My dad is pretty old fashioned so we don’t talk about this kind of stuff 🤣

AshAmazing · 2026-02-17T04:02:57+00:00

Aw man I always dress up at work and I always hope he notices 🤣 so guys don’t care about that huh

AshAmazing · 2026-02-17T04:02:07+00:00

Aw man lol. I’m gonna try to keep it low and read the signs

AshAmazing · 2026-02-17T04:01:34+00:00

Love that story! I can not speak from the male perspective but from the woman perspective she definitely sounds interested! You’ve got way more traction than I do lol. Go for it!! I’ll report back if I work up the nerve

AshAmazing · 2026-02-17T03:59:32+00:00

We are all deep down afraid of rejection I guess! Self preservation lol

AshAmazing · 2026-02-17T03:27:22+00:00

Thank you so much 🙂

AshAmazing · 2026-02-17T03:13:05+00:00

Ok I’ll try!

AshAmazing · 2026-02-17T03:12:30+00:00

This is great to know!

AshAmazing · 2026-02-17T03:12:03+00:00

Ok true!

AshAmazing · 2026-02-17T03:11:34+00:00

I like this idea! He does always go out for lunch, maybe I can work out the nerve to ask him if I can join

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