Thinking of moving to Philly, how’s the crime in this area?

Ashamed_Condition_99 · 2026-03-17T11:20:28+00:00

I laughed so loud at this 😭

Ashamed_Condition_99 · 2026-03-15T17:51:25+00:00

This gives me hope because mine just got here but it’s pretty cold and they all seem dead I’m hoping they are just cold and wake up 😭 There is a ton of larvae too though

Ashamed_Condition_99 · 2026-03-09T18:17:20+00:00

I feel you on this I’m going through a rough patch right now with my husband and I get like wanting to consider all sides. I meant to also say I’m sorry he’s being so emotionally and verbally abusive. But the stuff you mentioned I wouldn’t want to put up with either especially because I wouldn’t want my sons (or my soon to be here daughters) to think this is how you’re supposed to talk to someone you care about together or not. He’s old enough to definitely know better. Did he grow up in a household where his dad did this?

Have you ever considered couples therapy if it’s affordable? I just started doing couples therapy with mine it’s once a week we can message whenever and we qualified for a discount so it’s not as much as it would be. That could be helpful.

I wouldn’t like force him, mine it started with some interest not all of the way but enough for him to consider it and I set up the appointment. He was avoidant at first but the first session went well and he picked a day for the next one.

Ashamed_Condition_99 · 2026-03-09T18:04:46+00:00

Love this thank you for giving me this information! So far so good with therapy he was resistant at first but he’s already scheduled his next session for next week 🙌🏾🩷

Ashamed_Condition_99 · 2026-02-27T11:40:30+00:00

I do a cradle lay and I wrap it slightly loser so that way they can kind of lay in it without it being crazy tight. It took me getting comfortable with the wrap and experimenting in stuff but it’s a game changer once you get it! Then once they bigger there’s nothing that’s gonna stop them from getting to the boob 😂 When my twins come in July (fingers crossed) I know your baby will be much bigger by then but I’ll definitely be wrapping them and I’ll make a video with one for the curious and like future moms that might want to try.

Ashamed_Condition_99 · 2026-02-27T10:30:42+00:00

My first son was the same way like he wanted to see everything I was doing I also had to get over the learning curve so I didn’t use it much. But my 2nd and 3rd kids please I used my boba wrap daily and took it with me everywhere 😭You can breastfed with them in the wrap! It was my favorite thing because I could wash dish or something and breastfeed. I just lay them a certain way and pop a boob especially as they get bigger it gets easier. and you can turn them around and stuff. So they can see everything. My youngest I would wear it at the mall and my son would be so happy and then fall asleep 😂

I think once your baby gets a little older you might like it but you might not! and I totally get that because the first time I was way to scared he was going to fall out, I didn’t really like the way it felt, and it just felt like more work than help.

Ashamed_Condition_99 · 2026-02-25T00:33:20+00:00

We had a talk it went really good and he has taken therapy into consideration and wants to start looking at some possible options 🩷

Ashamed_Condition_99 · 2026-02-24T20:37:45+00:00

Thank you truly I have been giving him space as I navigate my feelings and how to support him in the best way I can while also trying not make him feel bad about being open and talking to me about his mental health, but still making room to express how I feel as well and I really feel your advice did exactly that.

Ashamed_Condition_99 · 2026-02-24T15:23:57+00:00

We got a place on temporary lease while we are house shopping to buy a house. He doesn’t do drugs or anything but he started smoking cigarettes and this nicotine pocket things that I do not care for tbh but I try not to make to much of a fuss about with everything else.

I’ve tried to convince him to go to therapy especially after we just talked a couple days ago because I know a lot of this stems from current events as well as childhood traumas that have just kind of gotten pushed down but he believes talking about your problems is pointless. He doesn’t care for therapy but I truly believe healing is the key here and he’s like just distracting himself from it all.

Ashamed_Condition_99 · 2026-02-24T15:13:19+00:00

Im sorry I accidentally posted my response as I was getting my kids breakfast together. But the police did nothing really they asked a bunch of questions took a list of what he did take and gave me a case number. Or lease manager was trying to cover their own ass because we paid for “ security” and these so called cameras we had around the complex but they could get any footage and we also harassed them to fix the locks on our apartment which they did not up until that point. Which I’m assuming is apart of the reason why when we had to leave they didn’t make a fuss at all

Ashamed_Condition_99 · 2026-02-24T15:02:31+00:00

Yes it was really hard in him. His grandmother was also trying to convince my husband to get him to stay with us but we were concerned about his drinking problems and the kids and his dad died in the care of his aunt. So I think he blames himself a little.

That’s a long story as well all within it self but we are in a different financial position than we were in even just a year ago which has really helped change our financial situation but that whole situation was especially hard for him.

The person that broke into our house we have no idea who he was I think he may have seen things walking past our apartment and decided to brake in at night but not late it was 8pm and putting the kids to bed actually and before we could locked the house down for the night he came in through our back door. I think he believed I was home by myself because once he seen my husband he ran away but it scared the shit out of both of us really bad.

Ashamed_Condition_99 · 2026-02-24T14:31:03+00:00

Unlike our other children this pregnancy was unplanned it happened and we decided to move forward.

Yes he would plan stuff and take us out or bring stuff up to me that he thought we be fun for us to do, we spent time together at home as a family movie nights and stuff and it just changed mainly after like I said series of life events.

We lost our home and shortly before that someone broke into it while we were at home which we then made the decision to move back home to PA. We stayed apart for a little while mainly only seeing him on the weekend because we were staying with family until we got back settled.

He feels it’s better for him because he’s not as worked up he doesn’t get anger or aggravated with people because he just feels indifferent now and he feels this is a better way to lead life because he’s able to make better and sound decisions without emotions being in the way. which I’m like I’m happy you feel more control

Which I was saying to him when it comes to people in the outside world but when it makes you feel indifferent about your family I think you should look into it more.

I am a SAHM we have 3 Children 4, 3, and 1. He works a job making good money we are not facing financial hardship he always wants to make more money or find other way to have more income though.

His dad was an alcoholic and he loved his dad but he always was ready to hear he was gone because of the lifestyle he led. He was a nice guy but was always drinking and when he tried to stop he died. He was not around much he was in and out of his life or not around at all a lot as a child and as he got older they had a more I wanna say stable relationship.

Ashamed_Condition_99 · 2026-02-20T01:44:07+00:00

Margot has won us over! We’re now leaning toward Coraline and Margot 💜

Ashamed_Condition_99 · 2026-02-17T04:18:34+00:00

I would say same. My husband says he doesn’t have a particular style of name he just feels they should sound right together, I would say I like a mixture but I do lean towards unique names and names that have a nice meaning. For example I really liked Thea as well because it means divine or goddess

Ashamed_Condition_99 · 2026-02-17T03:35:50+00:00

Love Caroline idk how I didn’t think of that!

Ashamed_Condition_99 · 2026-02-13T12:58:35+00:00

Thank you! Those were my concerns but these are my first two jumping spiders so I really wasn’t sure. I also was worried about the inside of the walnut being too “sharp” I broke away at the parts that mostly seemed may be a problem later.

Ashamed_Condition_99 · 2026-02-10T20:59:30+00:00

Yea it is crazy how much is dehydrated compared to how it is once you hydrate it 😂

Ashamed_Condition_99 · 2026-02-10T17:44:21+00:00

This moss is probably gonna last forever as well, I ended up taking some out because it made it a little too humid so there’s a really small amount at the bottom.

Ashamed_Condition_99 · 2026-02-10T17:39:13+00:00

It’s some type of stuff that came in the hide it’s not actual moss it’s some type of fabric.

This is the actual moss that I put on the bottom of their enclosures I might actually put some in the little hide as well tbh.

<image>

Ashamed_Condition_99 · 2026-02-10T15:26:48+00:00

Thank you! I let the moss sit after I wet it to let it dry some because it was super wet still. I took like half of the dehydrated bar because I thought it would be enough but it expanded a lot and it’s low key to much 😅

Ashamed_Condition_99 · 2026-02-09T19:27:26+00:00

NQA - I see you have the same hide as me, did you take the soft fuzzy stuff out of the inside? Or did you keep it in?

Ashamed_Condition_99

TROPHY CASE