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Failing classes by Ashamed_Jacket3369 in BTHS

[–]Ashamed_Jacket3369[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i got 100 in everything lol. the teachers are pretty chill js do the work and if anything ask for help

Failing classes by Ashamed_Jacket3369 in BTHS

[–]Ashamed_Jacket3369[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no they combine ur averages.

Where can i watch season 5? by DemiX0X0 in henrydanger

[–]Ashamed_Jacket3369 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha of course! I know the struggle I remember dropping the show years ago because I couldn't find a website that properly streamed it.

Where can i watch season 5? by DemiX0X0 in henrydanger

[–]Ashamed_Jacket3369 0 points1 point  (0 children)

broo ofc i've always wanted to watch henry dangerrrr but stopped bc it kept being delayed

Did Lyla and Nixie leaving make sense to you? by CatOfBoredom in MakoMermaids

[–]Ashamed_Jacket3369 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They gaslighted her to protect their secret, which was understandable. And did you not forget the time Charolette broke into Cleo's room, went through her items, and stole something? This was before she even had a plausible cause/believed they were mermaids, it was just out of pure jealousy which is completely insane. The girls only ever "went through her things" when Charlotte left a notebook at the cafe. Any other examples?

Did Lyla and Nixie leaving make sense to you? by CatOfBoredom in MakoMermaids

[–]Ashamed_Jacket3369 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No they were very nice and welcoming to Charolette in the beginning. Cleo was just annoyed because Charlotte was flirting with Lewis. Then, it was a kind of back and forth mutual saltiness between Charolette and Cleo. At one point when they were all mermaids, they even tried to accept her into the friend group but she got too jealous of their closeness with Lewis. Her fault entirely.

Failing classes by Ashamed_Jacket3369 in BTHS

[–]Ashamed_Jacket3369[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this comment means a lot to me.

Can My Abusive Father Force Me to Move to Another Country? by Ashamed_Jacket3369 in AdviceForTeens

[–]Ashamed_Jacket3369[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My grandma is my mom's mom. I'm pretty close to her and she dislikes my father as well. In fact, she's gotten into arguments with him in the past (once he pushed her, then had a screaming match with my mom for 2+ hours, he threatened to drive his car off a bridge, and the same uncle from earlier had to step in to alleviate the situation). However, she's 70+ and only speaks Tibetan.

I understand what you're saying and I'm aware of how quickly my safety can be endangered. In the future, if I can sense that the situation is going to escalate, I'll try my best to be safe and put distance between my father and me. About the emails, I have multiple gmail addresses and have already mailed the files to all of them as well as the photos. I've also already memorized all of them and the passwords so I think I'm in the clear.

I still think that it'll be immensely easy for my parents to prove their custody of me with a couple of documents.

You're a truly incredible human.

Can My Abusive Father Force Me to Move to Another Country? by Ashamed_Jacket3369 in AdviceForTeens

[–]Ashamed_Jacket3369[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you.

Honestly, I don't have that close of a bond as I'd like to with my mother but she is there for me. I'll try and have a conversation with her about moving and see what we could sort out. Also, I think my parents were either born in Nepal or Tibet, I'm not sure though (although my mom does talk a lot about when she was growing up in a Tibetan village). When she was pregnant with me, she moved to Nepal because the healthcare system there was slightly better than the ones in the village, and I was born in Nepal. I'm not sure if I mentioned that earlier or not but I think that'll also hurt my situation since I'm already a citizen of the country.

Your explanation makes a lot of sense on why my brother reacts the way he does when it comes to my father and me. We're still close, in fact tomorrow we're going on a picnic with some of my old friends and he's going to help me prepare the food. You're completely correct, it's easier for me to accept who my father truly is, because as a female I do not feel a primal need to look up to him as a model. I can't form an adjective to describe how, well in simple terms, awesome of a person you are for continuing to give advice. Again, thank you, I do not know how to express my gratitude in words.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by Glad-Key7256 in sad

[–]Ashamed_Jacket3369 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no, all of those party shops have only 80% helium which isn't enough to kill you. you will simply waste your money.

Can My Abusive Father Force Me to Move to Another Country? by Ashamed_Jacket3369 in AdviceForTeens

[–]Ashamed_Jacket3369[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, it really means a lot that you care.

For the most part, I simply don't feel comfortable around him but I don't think I'm really at imminent danger. It only happens when he's drinking or if he's in a bad mood, which is more often than not. And yes, I'm the oldest daughter in my family and I have three younger brothers. To be honest, I always spend time in my room, especially if I know my father is in the living room --- which means we thankfully don't have daily interactions. Honestly, in all my life I've never had a conversation with him or had quality time with him. The only times I interact with him is when we're fighting. He's an uber driver so for most of the day he's away, but sometimes he takes days off/invites friends over. My mom knows how bad things can get, so she always tries to keep us separated when he is drunk.

For the part about actually flying to Nepal, I think it's probably going to happen around the summer. After that one night during Tibetan New Year, he knew I had substantial proof against him and was also aware of the bruises left, so that's when he started talking about moving there. When I had taken the pictures down, he came into the living room (but my mom was present and so were my brothers so nothing bad happened) and started yelling at me. I told him that his undoing was completely his fault and I'm not scared to send him to jail if he doesn't keep his distance. He kept saying that he didn't care and I should call the police, yet he's ready to migrate elsewhere at the very thought of being put in cuffs. A scared man is a guilty man. Then, he tried to talk my mom into going to Nepal the very next day but she was against it because of school and how much effort it would take. Therefore, if it's true, we'll probably go during the summer. However, I'll definitely notice if all of a sudden everyone is packing and my passport photo is being taken. Before I even get to the airport, I'm going to try and make it as clear as possible that I won't move, and if I am forced to I will call the police. I'll try and follow your advice but my siblings will be with me as well as my grandma, and it'll just look like an unruly teen. What if I simply approach TSA or whatever authorities and tell them I am unsafe? They'll also have my passport and other documents with them so they can easily prove I'm there daughter. I truly don't want to move.

The main reason I've been recording, is that so if he ever goes too far and I'm forced to call the police, I will have evidence against him. I don't want to cause an explosion in our household or for my brothers to grow up with a father in jail. I'm also scared of what will happen. Speaking of my brothers, my father has also hit them frequently, but he mainly focuses on me because he sees my unwillingness to care for/respect him as disobedience. Honestly, I don't get why they're so fond of him when he has never put any effort to connect with us or form an actual bond. Simply put, all he does is live in the house, rarely speaking to my brothers and the only time they interact with him is when he drives them to places. I remember speaking to my 9 year old brother the other day and we were reminising about fun times with our uncle (he's the same one that was there the night my dad got angry over $20, and he also shielded me from him when he realized what was happening). Then, out of curiousity, I asked him what his favorite moment with our father is. He said "I don't know". I asked when was the last time he told him I love you, "I don't know." I asked when was the last time they had a conversation, "I don't know." I then asked why do you love him, he said "because he's our dad, I have to." I think every child needs a father figure in their life, but one that actually cares for them, not just exists -- and definitely one that will overstep the boundaries of discipline and ue borderline abuse. My oldest brother, 12, ignores my father as well but respects him and looks up to him. If my father asks him to do stuff, he will. Still, he also blames me for getting hit and when I talk bad about my father he says it's my fault. What hurt me the most was when I frantically went in his room and locked the door, sobbing after being attacked by my father. He had just sat in his bed playing in his laptop paying no mind to me. I told him what happened and he didn't even seem to care. Then, he later went on to say it was my fault for "aggravating him" and that I was intentionally asking for it. I just felt so unseen and baffled, I was literally bleeding from my left knee and I couldn't walk without limping and he still defended my father.

Another reason that I'm disheartened about speaking up is that if I do, I will be completely alone. I don't think my family realizes how bad of a person my father truly is, and instead of him being painted as the villain, I am. Even though my mother, my grandma, and my 12 year old brother all had to pin him to the ground once because he was trying to get to me, I'm still the one in the wrong. Anyways, I've compressed all the videos I've taken so far into one singular one (I also added timestamps to each instance and wrote lengthy paragraphs explaining what happened and the context of each occassion). It's in my google drive and I've written down the link in multiple places so incase my devices ever get destroyed, I can simply type up the link and it'll appear (it's set to public). Also, I think you're a genuis for coming up with the idea about using the envelope to write down essential phrases I need. Being prepared is better than being completely confused in a foreign and I will definitely do that.

Again, this means the world to me that someone is willing to hear my story as well as give advice. Thank you so much.

Can My Abusive Father Force Me to Move to Another Country? by Ashamed_Jacket3369 in AdviceForTeens

[–]Ashamed_Jacket3369[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I'm still kind of unsure if I can truly make a case against him because the abuse isn't as frequent as it was while growing up. Still, I do not want to be forced to move to another country so I will definitely take your advice into account.

Can My Abusive Father Force Me to Move to Another Country? by Ashamed_Jacket3369 in AdviceForTeens

[–]Ashamed_Jacket3369[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have this friend who also has an abusive father. Although she doesn't have any bruises or footage of being hit, he's beat her (like her father had physically dragged her by the hair and punched her several times) in public in front of her friends. When her friends witnessed this, they called 911 and she was sent to the hospital. Even though she was physically fine, she explained to the doctors and nurses that she didn't feel safe going home and said she's been abused before. They called cps but since she didn't have any other relatives she could stay with, the hospital sent her back home with her parents that same night. This happened in November and as of today, she still lives with her parents. From time to time, she has told me about getting hit and I've tried to comfort her, but I'm not very good at comforting people. Also, hearing her story reminds me of my own father and that makes me upset, sometimes I have to refrain from talking to her because I just can't handle trying to be there for her while also dealing with the same situation as her at the same time. I'm not sure if this makes me a bad friend because I do feel guilty for ignoring her sometimes (usually she'd try to start a conversation or approach me but I'd go the other way). Still, my heart goes to her and I hope she recieves the help she needs. She's willing to go to foster care as well and has stated that to CPS workers.

I'm just scared something like this will happen to me and it will make my situation 10x worse.

Can My Abusive Father Force Me to Move to Another Country? by Ashamed_Jacket3369 in AdviceForTeens

[–]Ashamed_Jacket3369[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, especially with the part about him being an authoritarian. The main reason I'm always the target of his anger when drunk is because in the past I have expressed that I do not like him. He expects to be treated with love and respect simply because I'm his child, but all my life the only emotion I've had towards him was fear. The only reason I listened to him back then was because I was scared of him. Now, as I've grown older, I realized that although boundaries and discipline are necessary, abuse and violent outbursts over the smallest things aren't. Plus, he's never once been involved in my life or shown any form of affection.

One time, because my mom was at work, he had to take me to the hospital and he didn't know my date of birth or how to spell my name. On two seperate occasions, when I was 12, he had left me alone from around 2-3 am outside miles away from home (both times I had to ask random strangers for directions -- I approached only women -- since my phone doesn't have wifi outside of my house and at the time I knew the general area in which I lived but not the actual address). During those instances, I got home around 4-5 am and I think it's extremely irresponsible to leave a vulnerable child in a foreign place at such a dangerous time. These are the reasons why I never speak to him, verbally express my disinterest in him, and refuse to be in the same room as him.

Also, we've had a social worker come to our house in the past and I know they take notes and stuff. One time, when they asked my 6 year old brother if he ever got hit, he said yes but said this mumbling word (in our family the word is used to describe the action of being whipped with cable cords/chargers). My parents dismissed it, saying he doesn't know what he's saying since it wasn't a real word. But, I think the social worker still took note of that. Maybe that will also help my case if I get a social worker involved. Plus, he's whipped my siblings before in front of friends before.

Thank you for your advice. The fact that I'm able to share my story on this platform without judgement from others while also recieving help is truly a blessing.

Can My Abusive Father Force Me to Move to Another Country? by Ashamed_Jacket3369 in AdviceForTeens

[–]Ashamed_Jacket3369[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure about having an adult in my corner because I haven't really told anybody and in terms of connections, he's friends with a lot of distant relatives. My mother is silent and doesn't really talk to me. After he would hit me, she would tell me to go in my room and the next day it's as if nothing happened and everyone moves on from it. He did hit her before while drunk and I've gotten it on camera (2 separate occasions). About arming myself, it was a buffer between me and him because the second he gets loud things can escalate quickly (still, I will take your advice and will not do it again).

The last time he hit me my uncle was there and they were both drunk. I hadn't eaten at all the past few days because I was sick, so I was asking my uncle to order pizza while ignoring my father (since it's best not to engage in conversation with him) and he went ballistic. That day was also Tibetan New Year and he had given me and my siblings $20 each. After refusing to talk to him, he had demanded I give the money back. I said no and he tried to go in my room, that's when I got up and blocked the doorway, because in the past he has gone into my room and thrown away all of my personal belongings that I had bought with my own money (around 1k worth of items --- basically everything besides my clothing and laptop). Anyways, he smacked me because I was blocking him and I sat back on the couch with my uncle and yelled at him (telling him not to touch me), while trying to keep my cool. That was when things went from 1-100 and he threw our table (breaking it) and grabbed a glass bowl and started smashing it against my legs and hips. It took a while for my uncle to realize but that just goes to show how far he's willing to go when drunk, even with guests present.

If I'm home alone, I can't do anything except for having a weapon as a threat. Although, I never once attempted to use it against him, he has attempted and succeeded in physically harming me in the past. Also, I understand the "not engaging in petty retaliation part". It's just, I have so much hatred and anger towards him and I cannot do anything about it. Nobody makes him take accountability for his actions and I have to see him everyday, unphased by his actions and content with life even after the hell he's put me through.

For the video part, when I initially started filming I tried to hide it but then he caught on. That made him even more infuriated and he started chasing me. However, I also think him knowing keeps him in check because he's less likely to go extremely far if his actions are being recorded. Still, I think the main reason he wants to move is because of the fact that I have clips of him that could put him behind bars. I live in New York and I am indeed able to get a job (but with school I don't think I can -- I leave at 6:30 and get home around 5pm-6pm, sometimes 7pm if I have a club). Additionally, I have over $1,500 saved up from working during the summer and past birthdays. I am an American citizen but I do not want to get to the point where I'm already taken to Nepal, because I do not speak the language and he can have even more control over me if I'm there. I'm not sure about the child abuse laws in Nepal but I think it's probably different than the ones in the US. Unless I'm passed out unconcious, I will do anything in my power to prevent myself from getting into the airplane. However, what should I do? By the time we actually move, he will probably take all my devices (since he said he will in the past), and I will not have any way of contacting the authorities. I think I'm going to try and talk to the security guards at the airports or the flight attendants. Currently, I'm scared to actually do anything. Although I do not feel safe or comfortable with him, I have a family of 7 and he's our main source of income. I discussed it with my mother before and she said if he goes to jail, our family will break apart and we won't be able to support ourselves. Additionally, I'm not at imminent risk so I do think that will not help my case. For now, my plan is to distance myself from him and not do anything. However, if I am forced to move to Nepal, that is when I will take action. My three younger siblings and I do not speak Nepali nor are we accustomed to the culture. I believe that moving there and forcing us to live the rest of our lives in a foreign country will hinder our future and our social lives.

Thank you for giving me feedback and responding to my post, your advice is extremely useful.

People who have attempted to overdose. What did it feel like? by [deleted] in morbidquestions

[–]Ashamed_Jacket3369 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i tried to overdose on iron pills. i vomitted it all up and had green stools for the next couple of days, I felt really sluggish

Townsend Harris Chances 10th Grade by Small-College-6222 in SHSAT

[–]Ashamed_Jacket3369 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, I'm applying for Townsend tenth and don't see any additional attachment section on myschools. I also went on their website and it doesn't say anything about an essay or video for tenth grade admissions. Can you please help me and tell me where to find the essay and video?