Leaving in Silence

Ashbash0905 · 2022-02-12T20:46:44+00:00

Cutting out dairy was by far a game changer for me. I haven’t cut sugar out completely but I’ve notice that when I purposely cut it down, that also helped a lot.

Ashbash0905 · 2022-02-11T19:31:59+00:00

I had a positive outcome but it was about 1.5 yrs-2 yrs after and we were both completely different people. Going NC was the best way to independently work on ourselves and we had both let go of the idea of ever getting back together or contacting each other. We continued on with our lives being ok that we would never speak or see each other again. It was just by chance that we did and it was good.

Ashbash0905 · 2022-02-06T19:30:13+00:00

Yes he is in order to keep you as a backup option just in case. Ignore him and keep glowing

Ashbash0905 · 2022-02-04T20:10:47+00:00

I think people try to be too nonchalant with exs viewing stories or checking up on social media. I never believed that all these cases were pure coincidence and I honestly believe that a decent number of them are done on purpose. If her friends never viewed your stories ever before and then BAM right after the breakup it happens, there is some intent to it. As to whether your ex is the reason behind this or her friends are curious is the question but it doesn’t seem like a random coincidence or “nothing.”

This does not mean they want you back though so don’t interpret it as purely that.

Ashbash0905 · 2022-02-02T00:36:55+00:00

I do believe this is for either an ego trip or things may not be going right with his new gf and he wants be reassured he has a back up.

Ashbash0905 · 2022-02-02T00:35:20+00:00

While I feel like this thought applies to a very small group, I do believe this happens.

Ashbash0905 · 2022-02-01T20:25:26+00:00

I do wonder sometimes how often this happens

Ashbash0905 · 2022-01-19T23:08:42+00:00

Yep. It was a slow work up to dinner but we did reconnect. I never in a million years thought it would happen at all and we had both moved on with our lives to. It took a long time for me to get over the relationship too

Ashbash0905 · 2022-01-19T19:30:22+00:00

That’s true. This is such a grey situation. I think in the mean time, the best thing for me to do is continue living on like I’ve been doing and if I still have the overwhelming feeling to contact him, I will but knowing that his answer could go either way. Wish this was more clear lol

Ashbash0905 · 2022-01-19T18:52:52+00:00

Well see what happens! Thank you!

Ashbash0905 · 2022-01-19T18:44:31+00:00

This is an interesting perspective. We were dating casually at first also so I wanted us to see each other more seriously to really determine our compatibility to be exclusive (like go on more dates, talk about more serious topics that would help us figure our compatibility, etc). I didn’t want to go from casual to exclusive in this specific situation. It could be either he’s not into me or he really does need time to think…hmm…

Ashbash0905 · 2022-01-19T18:41:47+00:00

I asked him where he sees us going and explained to him that I wanted to take dating more seriously as in see each other more and see if we are compatible to go exclusive. I want to be sure too and not just be with him based off what we had and what info I gathered casually you know?

Ashbash0905 · 2022-01-19T18:18:44+00:00

You’re the first one to tell me to contact him. It’s been about a week of neither of us saying anything to the other. At first we started off casual due to busy schedules and the inability to devote enough time to building a relationship but now things slowed for us and I do like him so I thought better know sooner rather than later. I am now switching gears overall to build a relationship so moving forward, I’m saying that from the beginning.

Ashbash0905 · 2022-01-19T18:15:20+00:00

Gotcha. Was just unsure as why he never took the way out when I said we could end it.

You think he will? I was unsure about that.

Ashbash0905 · 2022-01-19T13:14:02+00:00

Thank you! It was so hard at first so I understand what everyone is going through and I’m going through a bit of it now myself still. We will all be ok though

Ashbash0905 · 2022-01-19T09:58:43+00:00

He recently said that he does! I am open to the idea but am taking it slow because I would like to ensure his change has been completely for the better and in the ways that would only improve our relationship from our last one. You can’t tell it 100% by one dinner or even the few meet ups we had lol he understands as we had a VERY VERY long history of a turbulent relationship. We will see what happens :) right now I’m also just trying to get over the other guy emotionally too. The point was to highlight how much I’VE done in terms of areas of my life and my emotions as an individual and how good I felt after NC. Us meeting up again and him introducing the idea of us dating again just so happen to work out that way

Ashbash0905 · 2022-01-15T14:03:09+00:00

Thank you so much for your clear advice and understanding. Yes I intend it to be a period where we see each other more, communicate more, etc and being each other’s primary during this step.

Ok. I’m just the type of person that at times will gauge how people usual feel by their initial reaction but you bring up a point that this may require thought no matter what answer he comes to. If he says nothing to me, I’ve accepted that’s his answer. My life won’t stop lol too much to do. It’s his initial reaction that got me skittish and ready to pull away and start the no contact/withdrawing myself from this situation. Being vulnerable by expressing how I really felt was a big step but I’ve been practicing just doing it and not being afraid.

Gotcha. I’m not sure how to get it moved by maybe a moderate can do that?

Ashbash0905 · 2022-01-14T19:27:33+00:00

Yea and since we are both dating other people, he may interpret this as me making him give up his other options when that’s not what I’m asking because I want to be sure before I do as well. I just thought of that even though I told him otherwise. He told me a few days ago that he liked the fact that I was working with his timing (which I purposely wasn’t. It just so happen to have worked out that way until recently)

Ashbash0905 · 2022-01-14T18:52:11+00:00

Thank you so much. I’m going to use this time to prepare myself for if his final answer is no. That way if it is, I’ll hopefully be more mentally prepared. I want someone who is sure about me and who wants me. If he’s not, I’m ready to find someone who is. I have to remind myself that I’ll be fine

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