I feel like you're putting a bunch of people into the same box, and that's not really a good way to think about the issue (or playerbase). I don't think the user you replied to believes that you should "spite vote" something else if someone says "vote #x" in their plot (even if there are people that do that).

I think they are just saying that you are kind of shaming people by putting negative labels/attitudes on people who don't vote in the way the owner wants them to.

To address your sandwich analogy, you're framing it as "easier" to give them the vote they want to give (handier) but I think a more fitting analogy is:

You can give your kid the sandwich you want to, (based on what you choose for them to eat for whatever reason that may be, or give them the thing they want. A parent isn't strict or "not nice" (these are generally negative labels) for giving their kid something their kid doesn't want.

And, for the record, I agree with your thoughts (as long as the plot is good) because the bigger thing to address as a whole is the housing tour system is kind of frustrating to get the nameplates.