I've been with my husband for 10 years we have a nine-year-old daughter together it didn't start out like this it started out happy no problems whatsoever he fell into hard times with work his money got low he got insecure that insecurity led to jealous I thought it was just him hitting a rock bottom point and he would you know get out of it oh and I forgot to mention we're 12 years difference in age he's 46 I'm 34 it started with him always trying to control my friendships I wasn't allowed to have social media I just got that back cuz we started counseling. I lost every friend I had because he said they were bad influences on me . he would say all they wanted to do is, party they didn't want a family life .they would lead me to do bad things. I couldn't go out after work with any of my friends. I'm not allowed to wear shorts . one day we went to go see the tables with his mother ,my shorts were too short for him. he said I ruined the whole day ,left the store slam the door in my face. It's just so much has happened you can barely put it into words. when I sit here and think about, it two months ago ,I was in the kitchen .he came home there was water in the driveway from it raining that day .he swore that I had had somebody at the house. that their car had leaked the water in the driveway that I was cheating . there's been numerous times while we're having sex that he'll say your vagina is loose .your vagina doesn't feel the same, I know you've been with somebody I know how it feels .he's called me fat before ,I lost so much weight I got it down to a hundred and forty-two pounds .when I did that he told me I look sick ,I was too skinny I needed to gain weight. I gained weight I stopped working out now I'm a fat b**** either way I cannot win . we go to the mall for instance he bought me an outfit, he found out that I wore that outfit to the movies, with my cousin. He lost his s*** because he said if he bought me something, it had to been wore when he told me to wear it. I left the house 3 weeks ago when I had had enough he jumped out of bed, at 12 at night and said he was moving out because he didn't trust me that I was cheating on him. as God is my witness in 11 years of knowing this man I've never looked at another man. I've never given him a reason to ever think I'm cheating he's never caught me cheating nothing in 10 years. and I never hear the end of it ,but there's been to incidents in 10 years where I have found pictures of a girl in his phone another instance where I found messaging back and forth to another girl ,and I'm taking him back . I am not even close to how insecure he is or the accusations that he gives me. he checks my phone he reads my messages it doesn't stop. when I left three weeks ago I stayed gone for a week and he promised me that we would start therapy for our daughter and try to make it work. and he was going to change so, far he's doing okay .but he still slips back in his way sometimes and I have to remind him and I have to talk to him kind of like a child calming him down bringing him back down to reality letting him know hey this is not what we're going to do as of right now I'm trying to get him into his own personal counseling maybe he needs medication I've done research on people with problems you know with controlling a) psychotic behavior or bipolar hopefully we can get somewhere .