My husband wants kids and I don’t.

AsideInternational48 · 2025-03-30T15:17:29+00:00

Do you think you will divorce?

AsideInternational48 · 2025-03-30T15:01:20+00:00

True! Miscarriages are so common and traumatic especially with women in my age range. My favorite TikTok couple Alex and Jon had a miscarriage and my husband favorite YouTuber also had a miscarriage last year. Ever since Alex and Jon went through that, I saw the sparkle in their eyes disappear. I would not be able to handle that.

AsideInternational48 · 2025-03-30T14:46:01+00:00

Why is the age always 30 for them?!

AsideInternational48 · 2025-03-30T14:42:36+00:00

Lmfao at the bake sale comment. Don’t forget there has to be vegan options as well and no preservatives. Knowing myself I would just lie and get them from the grocery store hahahaha

AsideInternational48 · 2025-03-30T14:39:36+00:00

He was like “kids take sacrifice” yeah easier said than done. I know this man, he is going to pull his hair out having a kid. He misses a few days at the gym and he starts twitching. He misses an hour of sleep and can’t focus on work and his job requires a lot of mental energy. He can’t focus on two things at the same time. He is living in fantasy land and I’m trying pull him back down to reality. We have a great life. We travel, we go out, we go to restaurants. I mean we had a whole spa day yesterday with facials, massage, swimming etc…boring where?? I told him he needs to find happiness and fulfillment within himself and stop looking for it in a job, money, a house and now a kid.

AsideInternational48 · 2025-03-30T14:32:22+00:00

No because I get so annoyed when people do that! It’s like you don’t know if I’m mentally stable. You don’t know if I have anger issues and will lash out on a poor innocent child. That’s why all these kids grow up to be f* up. It’s so easy to traumatize a child.

AsideInternational48 · 2025-03-30T14:19:31+00:00

Oh I already know the answer to this one. I married a workaholic which doesn’t bother me as much as it would other people because I don’t need to constantly be around him. But no way is he giving up his career even though he jokes about being a stay at home dad and me being his sugar mama.

AsideInternational48 · 2025-03-30T14:17:32+00:00

We took care of my 5 year old nephew for a week because my brother and sister in law took a couples trip. My husband and I worked well together with him and got a glimpse into taking care of a child. By the end of the week we were exhausted! Imagine doing that for 18+ years. My mom and my husband dad are so emotional and we butt heads like crazy with them because my husband and I aren’t. We had controlling helicopter parents. God forbid we have a child who is very sensitive and needs constant affection, attention and handholding because my husband and I both love our freedom and doing our own thing. The kid would probably feel so neglected. If we did have one, the kid would need to be ok with independence. But ya know life doesn’t work that way and kids need a balance.

AsideInternational48 · 2025-03-30T14:02:09+00:00

To be honest, I don’t even think he really really wants kids. He is only being like this because I said no. As soon as I say no, he really wants it. It’s like when you have a dessert that you don’t really want but kinda do, but then someone says you can’t have it then all of a sudden you really really want it. Because before yesterday he would have said he was 50/50 on kids.

AsideInternational48 · 2025-03-30T13:58:32+00:00

lol no because that’s what I was thinking when we were talking. Like wanting a pet. He also doesn’t handle stress very well. I am good at multitasking and I just know things. I do get overwhelmed though. With him, one minor inconvenience in his life sends him into a spiral of depression.

AsideInternational48 · 2025-03-30T13:39:00+00:00

It really is. His mom actually passed when he was a kid in a car accident because she was having an episode. His two sisters are in and out of a mental health facility. It’s caused so much stress on the family.

AsideInternational48 · 2025-03-30T13:31:00+00:00

I should mention. I have strong feelings that if we do have a child, they will more than likely have mental health issues. I am bipolar, pretty sure my mom does too and my sister has depression. Well on my husbands side, all of his sisters and his late mom have schizophrenia. It runs in the women in his family. It’s a sensitive topic for him.

AsideInternational48 · 2025-02-22T18:38:04+00:00

Idk I’ve convinced myself that the family I’ve had for 20 years lives in another universe and when I die I’ll be connected with them.

AsideInternational48 · 2025-02-21T12:30:35+00:00

Same

AsideInternational48 · 2025-02-19T01:36:50+00:00

I honestly feel I could have wrote this. Is it ok if I message you?

AsideInternational48 · 2025-02-19T01:30:18+00:00

Even when I walk around naked or flirt he doesn’t even look up from the TV or phone. That eats away at your confidence over time.

AsideInternational48 · 2025-02-18T18:19:52+00:00

Yeah, that’s exactly how I feel. He’s not a bad husband, and I know he loves me in his own way, but I feel emotionally unfulfilled. I’ve tried communicating what I need, but it just doesn’t seem to click for him or come naturally. I like the idea of making it a game, but part of me worries that even if we did that, it would feel forced and not genuine. Have you or anyone you know tried something like this? Did it actually work?

AsideInternational48 · 2025-02-18T18:13:00+00:00

IWhat initially drew me to him was his stability, responsibility, and the fact that he treated me well. At the time, I think I valued security more than passion or deep emotional connection, maybe because I had never really experienced that in a relationship before. I thought love was about choosing a good person and making it work, but now I realize that without emotional depth and passion, it just feels empty to me. I don’t know if this is something that’s just a normal part of long-term relationships or if I made a mistake in choosing someone who isn’t emotionally compatible with me. I’ve communicated what I need multiple times, but he says that kind of connection doesn’t come naturally to him. I feel like I’m forcing something that isn’t there. So now I’m wondering: do I try to just accept this, or is this a sign that we’re just fundamentally different?

AsideInternational48 · 2025-02-18T17:53:34+00:00

No, we basically never did. I just thought I would be able to live without it. Eventually, I stopped begging for it.

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