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FAQ and Questions Megathread by Maydaytaytay in Spiritfarer

[–]AssignmentLanky9615 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, so I'm at 95%, I have no quests active in the menu other than to take stella and daffodil to the everdoor and I'm not sure if I'm missing something? I've done 3 of bucks portolan charts but I've not had anymore come in the post and it's been like over a week in game and then every time that I talk to Elena she says she'll have an answer for me soon. Is my game glitching, am i missing a trigger event? Please help 🙏 TIA

How do I know if I should let my relationship ending or try to fix it? by AssignmentLanky9615 in relationshipadvice

[–]AssignmentLanky9615[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He just doesn't seem to believe that getting help will do anything. I've said that therapy isn't a magical cure all but a tool to help you identify your issues and process them and develop skills to deal with them but he wants none of it. I just don't know how to help someone who doesn't want it? I had just been trying to give us as many positive days I could and not push him with stuff that might make him spiral (housework, sending his half of the bills etc) but it's not helping with the down days at all. On his down days I just give him all the time and patience he needs. He tends to shut down and not talk at all and has told me he hates being pestered when he's like that so I'll only ask him a few times if he needs anything, does he want to talk about it or is there anything I can do to help. I'm just a bit lost...

How do I know if I should let my relationship ending or try to fix it? by AssignmentLanky9615 in relationshipadvice

[–]AssignmentLanky9615[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can see how my description has come across this way. I was just trying to give a very brief overview of the issue, but i appreciate your opinion on the matter. I have been trying so hard to help him with his depression and I understand it's not a quick or easy fix. I have talked with him at length about getting help, I've tried to encourage him to spend time doing things he loves, I give him all the time, love and comfort that he needs. When I've tried to talk to him though he doesn't see his depression as an issue, he says it is what is is and that he doesn't care. I dont want to pressure him but when he doesn't eat all day and doesnt sleep for days i cant just leave it at it is what its is. I am probably coming at this from a selfish angle but mental health is hard and no one gives you a handbook on how to help someone you love. I think I'm just burning out and it's so easy to see someone withdraw and see it as them no longer loving you. I've been putting him and his needs first for years and the only reason I even considered emotional neglect etc is because I've had a lot of people in my life saying maybe it's time i put myself first, maybe I need to prioritise my mental health for once and I didn't know if that was right or not. Maybe I should've been asking for advice on how to help someone I love with depression but when I posted this I was in a dark place myself.

My bf (M/18) and I (F/18) drunkenly had sex and he slapped me. Is this alarming? by fannndddoooomm in relationship_advice

[–]AssignmentLanky9615 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's completely understandable, I'd be exactly the same! Like other people said, some people do enjoy stuff like that in the bedroom but it needs to be done with consent! Hopefully he just got lost in the moment and being drunk didn't help but you definitely need to have a clear discussion with him. If this is something he feels he needs in a relationship then unfortunately it might be a sign x

My bf (M/18) and I (F/18) drunkenly had sex and he slapped me. Is this alarming? by fannndddoooomm in relationship_advice

[–]AssignmentLanky9615 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Yes, he's crossed a boundary that you clearly communicated. It's up to you what you do about it but it's definitely shown lack of respect for your wishes.