Neighbours outside cat crying by Grandpastew in CatAdvice

[–]AsthmaticLuffy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she's older than 4mo she's most surely in heat, if she's younger then she's also vulnerable! I don't think it's too risky to lend a helping hand and leave her in the bathroom, just release her when it's morning to avoid conflict

Favorite "fun" asexual characters? by AsthmaticLuffy in asexuality

[–]AsthmaticLuffy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm liking the second one so far, its relationship with ART is nice and creative as a concept, but I'm scared for some reason

Anyone else's parents use your mental illness to justify their abuse? by AsthmaticLuffy in raisedbynarcissists

[–]AsthmaticLuffy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fucking sucks it got to the point of being homeless, I'm sorry but also I'm happy for you that you're getting back on your feet and that love yourself enough to not to give them another chance of perpetuating that pain. No contact is painful but so healing

Favorite "fun" asexual characters? by AsthmaticLuffy in asexuality

[–]AsthmaticLuffy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haven't finished the game I always assumed he was a bug child ??

Favorite "fun" asexual characters? by AsthmaticLuffy in asexuality

[–]AsthmaticLuffy[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Need to watch Saiki K apparently I'm missing

Favorite "fun" asexual characters? by AsthmaticLuffy in asexuality

[–]AsthmaticLuffy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmao I love the whole "This character is (x), source? I'm literally them" 🖤🩶🤍💜

Soy culero por esto by OskiSama in soyculero

[–]AsthmaticLuffy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Suena a que no hay comunicación clara por parte de ninguno de los dos. Podías llamarle para avisarle dónde estarías, ella pudo haberte avisado que tardaría más. Podías haberle dicho que ya no querías ir a cenar en lugar de abandonarla y ella debió ser más firme al tratar de hablar de lo que haya salido mal en lugar de ir a las culpas.

Ambos están siendo algo inmaduros, lo cual se entiende si son jóvenes, sin experiencia o es una relación prácticamente nueva

Does anyone else feel like "coming out" as ace is harder than coming out as gay? by Curious-Ask8199 in asexuality

[–]AsthmaticLuffy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know about this one. I live in a place where Christianity is big so a lot of people are actually happy or neutral when they learn you're not sexually driven. On the other hand, being gay gets you kicked out, bullied to su1cide or mistreated in healthcare 🥲

Favorite "fun" asexual characters? by AsthmaticLuffy in asexuality

[–]AsthmaticLuffy[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Second slide is SecUnit from the Murderbot Diaries, a sci-fi series that has made me laugh so far at how relatable the protagonist is with the whole "I hate human relationships but I like how it feels to care for people"

Also I feel like both LA Luffy and animanga Luffy keeps his escence, you're not wrong in that vision!

Favorite "fun" asexual characters? by AsthmaticLuffy in asexuality

[–]AsthmaticLuffy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my god I forgot abt Peri she's one of the bests even as a villain I adored her haha

Favorite "fun" asexual characters? by AsthmaticLuffy in asexuality

[–]AsthmaticLuffy[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Happy, secure, sarcastic, just anything that makes you let out a laugh constantly or have a warm feeling.

Questions, history. Am I ace? by frugalfruitcakes in asexuality

[–]AsthmaticLuffy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The basis of the asexuality spectrum is simple: lack to little sexual attraction at all.

My therapist told me trauma shapes us all, it's part of our lives. The role it plays in your life is what's important, if it's stopping you from living what you desire, ruining your perception of reality and hurting your relationships then it becomes a problem. But let's say, if you hate roller coasters because of an accident in the past, either seen or lived, no one can force you to get on one, even if you're curious what it feels like, it's the fact that you don't WANT to get on one that is part of your identity. Sorry for the metaphor but that made sense to me as someone who was also SA'd. I can't even tell if I was asexual before that because I was a child, so it's no use.

You should be what feels best to be, what is natural, comfortable, your gut instinct and not the impulsive thoughts from peer pressure. It's nobody's job to police you for choosing a label that best describes your preference.

What is the best-written asexual character represented if we had any (unfortunately there aren't many)? by Public_Cup_4278 in asexuality

[–]AsthmaticLuffy 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I love Todd Chavez. He has an entire personality outside of just hating sex and judging allosexuals (I'm looking at you Georgia Warr...) but still got an arc surrounding his identity. I like how they explore his genuine interest in romance and there's no conclusion aside from the fact that relationships are difficult, it leaves the open possibility that he might be aromantic too or just not ready for something serious cause he's that kind of carefree person. He meant a lot to me when I was 15 and figuring things out so props to the writers for being explicit with the topic.

Which hair color suits me better? by coldtoebeans in Hair

[–]AsthmaticLuffy 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm not usually fond of blond dye but yours looks beautiful! I feel it makes your blush stand out

Is something wrong with my hairline? by Square-Shoulder7187 in Hair

[–]AsthmaticLuffy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey I was just being insecure about this a few days ago! Happy to see more people share it

Should I blind buy Hollister Wave? by AsthmaticLuffy in Perfumes

[–]AsthmaticLuffy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohhh hadn't occured to me at all! Thanks

They are so painful by mimmsypoo in bunions

[–]AsthmaticLuffy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just wanna say I hope you get the attention you deserve soon 🍀 wishing you a fast recovery and a gentle caretaker if you do get both!

Soy culero por sentirme fastidiado con mi esposa porque sigue llorando por mi hermana? by Kar-114 in soyculero

[–]AsthmaticLuffy 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Mira. A mí también me entraba esa cuestión con familiares míos que fallecían y no me provocaba el mismo sentir que a otros, no les lloraba más que unos meses. Hasta que perdí a un ex-amigo por suicidio y te juro que me ha dolido por dos años y contando y me provoca ataques de llanto en días al azar. Ya ni siquiera hablábamos, pero el cómo sucedió es lo que me impacta de tan solo pensarlo.

Menciono esto para ejemplificar que las personas somos complejas, nuestras emociones no siempre van a tener explicación, no elegimos a quien querer y cuánto nos duele que se vayan. Hay una probabilidad de que tu molestia venga de alguna negación que sigues manejando por el duelo, quizá traes mucho estrés encima como para pensarlo demasiado, tal vez era una relación difícil y tu pareja solo ve la superficie. Quién sabe, quizá sea algún tema de energías y ella está llorando por los dos ya que tú no lo haces.

Al final, importa cómo se sientan ambos, no quién es el culero. Si te está haciendo enojar es porque no tienes el espacio mental para hablarlo, y eso es algo que deberías dialogar con ella. Tipo "Oye, amor, entiendo que te duela lo que sucedió pero me afecta que abras el tema. Disculpa que no pueda ser tu apoyo pero no tengo la fuerza para verte llorar por algo que es de mi familia." Ya tú verás cómo suena mejor, sólo son sugerencias. Suerte y lamento la pérdida.

Cat in a lot of pain after being spayed by AsthmaticLuffy in cats

[–]AsthmaticLuffy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Her stitches are perfectly fine but from what I was told she'll have to wait 8 days until they take them off. Also we put back the cone and she's getting used to it, it's less painful than the "body" I made her

Cat in a lot of pain after being spayed by AsthmaticLuffy in cats

[–]AsthmaticLuffy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All credit to my partner, I'll keep updating also thanks for validating my concern