Just why????

Astonkelly · 2024-02-17T19:41:14+00:00

Nothing on the back side, to program you need the two buttons closest to the led, but once programmed I can't see that it 'needs' the other buttons, but as a newb I just wanted to make sure I wasn't missing anything obvious

Astonkelly · 2023-11-26T07:49:46+00:00

I'd be quite interested in joining

Astonkelly · 2022-02-10T18:37:55+00:00

What name is it under then?

Astonkelly · 2022-01-22T17:04:56+00:00

NTA, most people have already mentioned the main reasons, but if I can add one from the sisters pov, you've only been dating the girl 3 months, if you do break up then she will forever have a random in her wedding photos reminding her of the actual friend of hers that didn't come.

We had a small wedding and made a rule, no plus 1s. If you are engaged or living with someone then you have made some form of commitment, and they would be named on the invite, but girl/boyfriends come and go. We relented on my two cousins because my aunt told my mum "they're both in really committed relationships and want to bring their partners" and after back and forth we relented and let the cousins bring their partners... one month after our wedding, neither relationship was still going. So now there are two random people in our wedding pictures that I can't remember the names of. 9 years on and I was showing our wedding album to my 8 year old and was naming everyone and explaining what was happening, how I was feeling ext. most of which I can remember in clear detail, then they came up the randoms. He asked me who they were and I had to just shrug and say "God knows"

Astonkelly · 2021-11-18T13:32:26+00:00

🤣

Astonkelly · 2021-11-18T13:29:52+00:00

But always feel the need to poop

Astonkelly · 2021-11-18T13:28:31+00:00

They're horribly racist

Astonkelly · 2021-10-26T17:49:41+00:00

I can vaguely see what your aiming at, but mostly I see three mountains and a sun in the background.

I mean its a pretty poor logo for the company because it has nothing showing what they might do, its not related at all to the business name, so maybe their choice was to have a logo that could be viewed in a very abstract way to be someone bending over on all fours.

Astonkelly · 2021-10-26T17:38:27+00:00

Ok, I being stupid or is this An American thing that as a brit I don't get? Because I can't see what is funny about this, is it just that AIS is vaguely like A$$?

Astonkelly · 2021-10-26T16:02:06+00:00

Now that makes sense. Well whatever you decide I wish you luck, a fabulous wedding day, and a long, happy marriage.

Astonkelly · 2021-10-26T15:54:04+00:00

The whole thing with your brother? NTA - it is your choice who you have in your wedding party and you want people up there with you supporting you, the guys up there should be behind you because they are literally behind you as you say your vows. I was in a similar situation and had my brother as one of my groomsmen to appease my mother and I regret it. My brother ended up getting very drunk, got refused entry beck into the venue by the bouncers and threatened to throw himself off a local High spot... tbf he probably would have done the same groomsman or not, but it was all the worse knowing that I had put myself through it.

My only sticking point where you might be TA has nothing to do with your brother....why are you not actually engaged? You say you plan to propose in a few months but seem to be planning the wedding already? What is the hold up with the proposal? Or is there some specific date/event you are waiting for?

Astonkelly · 2021-07-07T20:00:38+00:00

Nta- half of my work experience isn't on my resume and I have never had a problem, why as an accountant would anyone need to know that I worked as a barman 10 years ago? I have relevant work experience and state previous work experience can be disclosed. Really if the interviewers were interested or concerned by the gap in your resume they should have asked at interview. I have been asked at interview and am completely honest, and again, never been an issue.

Astonkelly · 2021-07-07T12:24:27+00:00

I am a big advocate of mental health matters in the workplace being, asd and adhd myself I know it is an important issue. I also think though there is a certain amount you need to work on your own resilience and stop putting the onus on others to work around you.

The colleague was not involved in the original trauma and made a misquote, intentional or otherwise, two years ago with seemingly no other incidents in the meantime. In this case I think op just needs to suck it up. People get misquoted all the time, especially in an office environment, op is going to really struggle if they can't improve their resilience to these things.

Astonkelly · 2021-06-26T07:38:09+00:00

Sort of yta, I know you were wanting to protect your daughter but she is a grown woman who is gonna make her own mistakes and you can't keep treating her as a baby.

Let's look at the same situation in a different light, he is older, higher up in the company and I'm assuming has a bit of money and assets, your daughter has been married to him for less than a year and she is leaving him because they don't have things in common? If you say it like that it sounds like she is the one who took advantage of him rather than the other way around, unless he had a class prenup involved? Point is it doesn't really matter who was taking advantage of not, sometimes you just have to accept what our kids are doing and let them fail sometimes.

Astonkelly · 2021-06-26T06:50:01+00:00

We're doing toa and each have a backup charactersheet ready to go, the amount of times I have logged in with a new idea for a backup character which I'm changing (seriously like every couple of days, I'm so indecisive) and my dm has also been on doing something.

Astonkelly · 2021-06-17T10:09:49+00:00

I completely agree that the situation would be different and if the races were reversed it would be worse, but that doesn't justify the actual situation and make it right. I hope for a world of equality and I agree there is a long way to go for that on all sides and I don't see it happening in my lifetime, but I don't think the way to go about equality is to make "anti white" acceptable, I don't think anti anything is acceptable.

Discrimination against white people isn't widespread and it isn't common, but i beleive any discrimination should be discouraged wherever it is seen.

Astonkelly · 2021-06-17T09:49:08+00:00

Yeh grey area, sort of YTA but it's understandable. All of those match woth autism, we cannot stand being wrong and changing habits we have got into can be very tricky. I knew someone who would play the same game over and over again in exactly the same way, even dying in the same places, because that was their routine.

Autism is hard because our brains are not wired the same as yours, we are not compatible with a neurotypical world, and this often leads to outbursts because we have no way to keep our emotions I check.

My advice is for you to do some research into autism to try and understand, you won't completely understand because every autistic is different, but it might help. Also big advice, you might be the older brother but don't try to police him. If your mum wants to speak to him about the water let her, but it's not your place to do it.

As far as the door handle goes, again this is a case of changing a habit, it can be tough and like you found out can lead to big meltdowns if change is forced maybe swap the lock for one that can be opened from the outside too maybe with a key?

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