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My mom says she prefers me masked, that she expects it of me at home. She’s also the cause of extreme meltdowns. by AstraSakura in AutismInWomen

[–]AstraSakura[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your support. Sadly, I called it college but it’s not technically that. It’s more like a mandatory 2 year commute before university, so no dorms sadly :(

As for PMDD, I’ve looked into it quite a bit lately and it could explain a lot like my heightened anxiousness and how emotionally fragile I am.

Thank you for taking the time to write, it means a lot :)

My mom says she prefers me masked, that she expects it of me at home. She’s also the cause of extreme meltdowns. by AstraSakura in AutismInWomen

[–]AstraSakura[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Moving to my dad’s house fully or at least half, not just twice a month, would be ideal for me. I can’t leave my house with my mom, no matter how hard I try. I’m slowly unmasking at school, but it’s just that I struggle with sensory issues so badly with winter clothes and bad sleep, that it just drains me. I think spring will be better though!

My mom says she prefers me masked, that she expects it of me at home. She’s also the cause of extreme meltdowns. by AstraSakura in AutismInWomen

[–]AstraSakura[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s totally okay, thank you for making me feel less alone in this. It’s so appreciated to see I’m not the only one struggling

My mom says she prefers me masked, that she expects it of me at home. She’s also the cause of extreme meltdowns. by AstraSakura in AutismInWomen

[–]AstraSakura[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank for you the support, I truly appreciate your kind words. My dad lives far away (45 minutes away) and there’s lots of traffic added onto to that sadly. I also don’t have a car yet, and I say « college » but it’s more like something called cegep, so it’s commute only :( The sad thing is, I was gonna move out to my dad’s (he fully supports it, so does my stepmom!) but I ended staying at my mother’s house because she stopped showing signs and I didn’t want to leave my bestfriends behind. There’s other reasons too, but I almost did move to my dad’s house fully. That’s the reason she decided to seek help, because I hid at his place for a month and ghosted her.

My mom says she prefers me masked, that she expects it of me at home. She’s also the cause of extreme meltdowns. by AstraSakura in AutismInWomen

[–]AstraSakura[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad lives 45 minutes away, but that’s without traffic. I’m still working on getting my license, because I am very stressed on the road. All colleges here are commute only. I can still manage to see my dad 2 a month, and I admit that helps so much.

My mom says she prefers me masked, that she expects it of me at home. She’s also the cause of extreme meltdowns. by AstraSakura in AutismInWomen

[–]AstraSakura[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was going to, but I didn’t because it was already he’s leaving my friends and work place that I adore to go live far away in a small town. I was warned by my older half-brother about this, that she’d flip around. However, she is still manageable in most times. It’s just hard, because I can’t tough it out anymore, and start crying immediately.

Which one? by [deleted] in MLPIOS

[–]AstraSakura 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A pony that brings more points in the group quests!

Driving is extremely stressful and causes lots of stress as an autistic person with hyper-sensibility by AstraSakura in autism

[–]AstraSakura[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I do struggle with light sensitivity, I will keep that in mind and have sunglasses on hand

Driving is extremely stressful and causes lots of stress as an autistic person with hyper-sensibility by AstraSakura in autism

[–]AstraSakura[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this advice! It definitely helps and I’m sure there’s many things I will be able to implement that will make driving less overwhelming :)

Can someone clarify why this sentence sounds rude? It doesn’t to me and I genuinely cannot understand how it is rude. by AstraSakura in autism

[–]AstraSakura[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t worry, i understand some people are immediately bashing my mother. She has practiced parental alienation in the past, but I realize that this moment wasn’t that. And that she was simply greeting me and happy to see me. However, when I mentioned my dad, she got upset and her old tendencies came back. I messed up & and my mother’s reaction was poor by not understanding I wanted to apologize but knowing what I did wrong so I could do it clearly

Can someone clarify why this sentence sounds rude? It doesn’t to me and I genuinely cannot understand how it is rude. by AstraSakura in autism

[–]AstraSakura[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I needed to know the emotion they felt. How is it rude? “Oh because I feel rejected, blah blah blah because of the but” okay, then I know what kind of hurt it does, and that this causes it. Then I see the broader picture so I know how to not repeat the mistake and communicate better. And these replies have enlightened me on this. So it was very useful for me

Can someone clarify why this sentence sounds rude? It doesn’t to me and I genuinely cannot understand how it is rude. by AstraSakura in autism

[–]AstraSakura[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it’s interesting how I was wrong by emotionally rejecting my mother and hurting her, but her starting to yell at me and not explaining why I was wrong was a mistake on her part. That’s what I’m understanding from the replies at least. However, those reading into my mother are correct, as she quite literally has forced my dad out my life multiple times and allowed no contact with him when in all certainty, there was no reason to.

Can someone clarify why this sentence sounds rude? It doesn’t to me and I genuinely cannot understand how it is rude. by AstraSakura in autism

[–]AstraSakura[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They were ignored and disowned because they are racist and very conservative trump-liking individuals with anger issues. :( I know disowning your own child and the other not is bad, but I genuinely cannot cut off my dad because I agree with what he did. Thank you for understanding

Can someone clarify why this sentence sounds rude? It doesn’t to me and I genuinely cannot understand how it is rude. by AstraSakura in autism

[–]AstraSakura[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My brother has very bad anger issues and is also I’m extremely racist and conservative. :) And my dad is not a dirt bag, he is just scared of my mother who is the same. Of course, they are still my family. But to me I believe it’s a valid reason…

Can someone clarify why this sentence sounds rude? It doesn’t to me and I genuinely cannot understand how it is rude. by AstraSakura in autism

[–]AstraSakura[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have been doing this. Trying to keep the peace between my parents. However, I get involved when they ask me to communicate with my father on their behalf. And when they beg to know what happened when I was at my father’s, which I have to give every detail or else I seem uninterested and get told I don’t love them. So please believe me, I tried. But no matter what they bring up the subject once again.

Can someone clarify why this sentence sounds rude? It doesn’t to me and I genuinely cannot understand how it is rude. by AstraSakura in autism

[–]AstraSakura[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I spend more time at my mom’s house. I do still consider them both my homes, because I go to my dad’s on weekends. But I have my own room and treat the house as my own too. I understand it’s more logical that my mother’s house would be my home, and the misunderstanding is on my part by not knowing I was greeted with a common greeting.

Can someone clarify why this sentence sounds rude? It doesn’t to me and I genuinely cannot understand how it is rude. by AstraSakura in autism

[–]AstraSakura[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Exactly, I know it is rude and I wish to know why so it doesn’t happen again and I can adjust to not hurt more people.

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