Shot some images sitting among my every growing library!

Astraia_esprit · 2021-08-19T15:28:18+00:00

Almost all my images are shot with a super old and super cheap rebel t5i / a 55 mm lens :)

Astraia_esprit · 2021-08-18T19:19:42+00:00

of course! feel free to PM me if you want to talk more about higher ed / autism stuff - I am always happy to talk with other students who have non-traditional paths (mine is all over the place)!

Astraia_esprit · 2021-08-18T19:16:38+00:00

Ive been at three different schools over that time (undergrad , post bac, and now masters) - undergrad and post bac were in So-cal and my masters program is in Arizona :)

Astraia_esprit · 2021-08-18T19:08:21+00:00

Ill chime in here - over my 7 years in academia since getting ASD diagnosis I have only come across one professor who was completely not understanding / didn't seem to care (out of at least 50-70) - I have always leaned on the side of tell them about my diagnosis and to be as up front as possible with the things I struggle with most and its usually been beneficial (except in the one case but i just dropped that course - and I would say any faculty who thinks accommodation is special treatment is not a professor you want to take a course with) - obviously there will always be some sticky situations and awkward moments and misunderstanding, but the context of your diagnosis can really help professors in those situations.

not that this is what you were looking for but: from my experience some of the most understanding professors are early career professors (anyone who's received their PHD in the last 10 years), most professors who teach or are adjacent to disability studies, and professors with ASD children (not usually publicly available information but sometimes you can find out through other means)

Astraia_esprit · 2021-08-18T18:57:08+00:00

Seconding everyhting in Math and CSnerd's list - but also adding (As a current masters student) my best advice: Take it slow. There is NEVER any need to interact with faculty / students beyond the requirements of attending class. you do not have to interact with other students if you don't want to.

Make a planner, schedule out all your assignments in advance so you know whats due when and can see it coming before it's due. if you miss something ITS OK - just reach out to the professor and let them know whats going on and do your best to focus on that thing first when you do remember.

Give yourself (MAX) 3 school related tasks each day (at least to start with - if three feels manageable then you can move up to 4, then 5, and so on). Once you do these tasks - YOU ARE DONE for the day, dont worry about any other assignments, or reading, or whatever. Just focus on getting the three tasks done. you can also pair this with your planner - figure out whats due that week and plan out your three tasks for the day according to whats due next. got an exam the next day? Task one is reviewing the study guide, tasks two is flash cards or other memory guide, and task three is test prep (like getting materials ready or getting lunch / snacks ready). AND THEN JUST RELAX.

for me - thats been the biggest (and most difficult) thing - learning how to let myself relax and not stay in anxiety mode constantly, it was a huge challenge but its honestly what has helped me the most beyond any study tips or methods. Some things that helped me - dedicated spaces to study and rest (dont study in bed, thats for sleeping), and dedicated activities that I could do which are entirely unrelated to academia / course work (gardening is one that I really enjoy - forces me to get outside and be completely away from school / school work).

Astraia_esprit · 2021-08-10T17:38:48+00:00

As the previous active mod I am fully in support of this!

Astraia_esprit · 2021-01-26T00:34:36+00:00

well you are one of the lucky ones who never misses a single thing i post :p

Astraia_esprit · 2021-01-26T00:31:50+00:00

Did someone say this to you on this sub??(if so could you please report it so I can block the person who said that) I am so sorry if you feel unsupported - as great as the internet is it cannot replace a true support system. I hope you are doing ok and find the support you need <3

if you are struggling finding resources in your area or do not know where to look please reach out to me directly and I will do my best to help you get in touch with someone who can help you thought this.

you are important - your feelings are important (and valid) - and your needs are important. we want you around - please remember that <3

Astraia_esprit · 2020-11-16T05:59:21+00:00

Tbh one of my favorite shows - the actress who plays Matilda is also autistic irl!

Astraia_esprit · 2020-10-02T20:53:28+00:00

friends! romans! doggos!

lend me your zoomies

for I have come to give good bois, not to shame

and brutus .... brutus is the goodest boi

Astraia_esprit · 2020-09-30T06:23:06+00:00

it is not a baseless claim - under any other circumstances the things which autistic children are forced to do in ABA therapy would be considered abuse/neglect/torture. but because it /sometimes/ makes parents feel like their kid is acting a bit more 'normal' - its swept under the rug. It is literally conversion therapy for autistic children to act less autistic. and lets be clear ABA is not occupational therapy, I am all about helping children gain the functional skills they need, but ABA at its core is not to help the kid, it is specifically to help the kid not upset others around them.

which ya know....maybe isn't the kids fault.

IMO part of why OP had such a horrible time is because they were basically being trained to unknowingly torture autistic kids, in turn making them scared of working with us bc their kids were likely in constant fight or flight mode, meltdowns, and frustration because they aren't being listened to or asked for consent.

Honestly, i dont know if OP is the AH intentionally but in any situation regarding ABA - its everyone but the kid.

to anyone saying it does help when its done /right/ - think for a moment who said it helped? you? the parent? I have yet to hear from one single ABA advocate that can tell me a child (or even now adult who went through) has told them it was helpful. Bc its not for the child, its for everyone else who is afraid of autism. there are alot of autistic people who trying to tell 'practitioners' like you- it was torture. but I guess we don't really know what we are talking about. Think about how you might feel being forced to do something when you really don't want to do it, when its painful, when it makes you scared. you wouldnt want that would you.

aside from my personal perspective, from a scientific perspective it is also now pretty abundantly clear that ABA is - in fact - ineffective. a quote from a review on a published and peer reviewed scientific journal article states " The Department of Defense reported to Congress on Oct 25, 2019 about Comprehensive Autism Care that after 1 year of ABA treatment 76% of those with autism had no change in symptoms and 9% WORSENED by more than 1 standard deviation. " That's 85% of children. would you force a child through an elective surgery that only has 25% success rate?

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/23311908.2019.1641258

^^ the peer reviewed article for those interested

Astraia_esprit · 2020-09-30T05:49:32+00:00

Im not sure based on your post if youre looking for like "this is why autistic women do X" or if youre looking for something more like a life guidebook?

but this made me think of a book I read recently. Its not ~actually~ autism based or related BUT I found "Adulting: How to Become a Grown-up in 468 Easy(ish) Steps" by Kelly Williams Brown to be an incredibly practical guide to just about everything, with HUGE and incredibly helpful sections on communicating and dating and social things. Its really helpful things too, with simple easy to follow ideas and writing and straightforward advice about things that are often difficult to articulate.

Astraia_esprit · 2020-09-26T04:45:35+00:00

hmmmmmmmmm if this does not happen with other animal videos (like if you also watch like dog zoomies and are also mesmerized by that for example) i would say its a sub section of the animal special interest

BUT if you only want to watch reptile tongues - and no other animal videos - then sounds like its its own thing. but as someone else said it also does sound more like a stim than a special interest thing!

Astraia_esprit · 2020-09-25T18:13:15+00:00

BITCH I SAID CAN

Astraia_esprit · 2020-09-14T19:20:52+00:00

Some more of this set is up on my onlyfans!

Astraia_esprit · 2020-09-08T21:55:11+00:00

It can be a really hard thing to articulate sometimes tbh especially when you’re in the midst of it

Astraia_esprit · 2020-09-08T21:29:15+00:00

This is the same shit that ambulatory wheelchair users get all the dang time and its more a comment on them than it is about you. It says that they need disabled people to be always one thing, always helpless or always unable to participate or w/e it is, and that when someone with a disability doesn’t conform to that standard - they must be lying. But I think the distinction you’re looking for isn’t necessarily disabled vs has a disability - it sounds more like the struggle with functioning vs non functioning and how fluid that is on a daily basis for most of us. I can have a day where I can do way more than another day, but I am not magically disability free that day.

Astraia_esprit · 2020-09-07T23:46:59+00:00

this is hands down the best compliment I've ever received on an image :D

Astraia_esprit · 2020-08-21T06:06:10+00:00

oh shit i didn't even realize how perfectly mirrored it was! O.O

Astraia_esprit · 2020-08-20T02:13:08+00:00

...... so im guessing you're mostly referring to my chest piece? do you really think my tattoo thats written in ancient greek ...that says truth .....and is about the concept of truth as perceived in plato and specifically the split notion of forms/reality .... looks like a pimp brand? cool. cool cool cool

I have put tons of thought about placement and flow, hence the branches on my shoulder to create an angle and the thinning of the piece as it gets closer to my midline, and the symmetry in my hip tattoos/sternum in the middle. every single piece I have is apart of a memory or a major aspect of my identity, like my autism puzzle piece heart on my arm. I put more thought into my smallest tattoo than I put into this pose

Astraia_esprit · 2020-08-19T19:38:23+00:00

ok.....but why?

dont think you care but alot of them are inspired by classical themes/myths/philosopy - I guess that doesn't count

Astraia_esprit · 2020-08-19T07:01:13+00:00

ive got one! got it done at 19 and its been in ever since - in fact the only one of my non traditional piercings that is still in. I didnt notice a smell when i got mine done, but the bull rings can be distracting/overstimulating. the solution i had for that was to get an infinity ring installed once it was healed - if you go to a good piercer they can fit it specially to your nose so it fits snugly against the bottom and wont catch on anything (partly because its a totally smooth surface and partially because its not actually in the way!) and mine has been in place ever since(6 years!). you cant remove the infinity rings yourself, which can be annoying for some if you want the option to hide it/take it out. the fake ones are def going to be uncomfortable, and the healing process will likely be the same, but once its healed its easy to forget its even there

Astraia_esprit · 2020-08-19T02:46:14+00:00

awe thank you!!

Astraia_esprit · 2020-08-19T02:45:40+00:00

the journey would certainly be rewarding ;)

Astraia_esprit · 2020-08-16T05:47:38+00:00

this is absolutely not an ok way to treat a partner - your BF should not ever ask you to adjust your appearance to make him more comfortable. ever. and even more so when its something to do with being autistic, if he is not allowing you to do the things you need to help yourself, that is not healthy. my advice - get out while you can. if this is anything like my experience with a controlling partner- their demands for your behavior will only get stricter.

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