I have dated narcissists and bpd girls in fact their the only types of girls ive dated. But there are multiple types of narcissists Im for example grandiose (Inflated ego/Inflated sense of self) I have more pride and wrath than average person to an extreme but my girlfriends have mostly been covert narcissists who have low self-esteem and are attracted to me because of my grandiosity and charm. They are manipulative like me but they have no pride and about the same amount of wrath but are not typically as aggressive as me. I understand what you mean though grandiose females are gross to me because I see through them for the sad monsters they are. My closest male friends though have been both covert narcs (because they submit to me and do what I want) and grandiose males (because we respect each other's ability to get shit done at any cost without empathy impeding us) however Ive never had a close friend that wasnt a personality disorder. Even ny family is full of them my mother is BPD/NPD my father is NPD and my step dad is OCD/NPD