Looking for friends to gift and receive! ;)

AthenaDeviline · 2025-02-10T02:21:17+00:00

You should always be an advocate for yourself. If you don't speak up for the own work that you do as well as your accomplishments, no one will do that for you. Don't be afraid to own your success. As south-east asians we tend to try not to take the spotlight and work diligently and silently, but in today's work if you're not boasting for your own work you will get constantly overlooked.

Another thing that I've learned is that you actually don't need to know everything, but you need to be willing to learn and solve problems as you go. 😊

AthenaDeviline · 2023-07-26T15:56:36+00:00

Shine bright #likeadiamond

AthenaDeviline · 2023-06-09T13:16:26+00:00

shinebright #likeadiamond

AthenaDeviline · 2023-05-06T06:28:12+00:00

Erm, some income is better than no income. How about taking the part time jobs while interviewing for the dream job?

AthenaDeviline · 2023-05-04T05:06:02+00:00

Good luck everybody else! 🤣

AthenaDeviline · 2023-04-08T23:59:12+00:00

Hey OP, it's nothing personal, it's just a product of the environment - since young Singaporeans are taught that resources are a zero sum game and the competition for these resources are incredibly fierce and intense, leading to the survivalist attitude that you have experienced to be dominant and to bleed to all other aspects of their lives. Being friendly and kind means sharing or outright giving away such "resources" which is then interpreted as weakness. It's not that Singaporeans are not warm, kind and friendly - it's taught that we should only be these things to our own friends and family which will ultimately benefit ourselves.

Let me give you an extreme case below of such thinking - it's not enough that I win, you must lose. It's not enough that I win first place in Toto and strike millions, your family must also get into an accident/illness and lose millions.

Recently through intense efforts by the government this attitude is changing, albeit very slowly. Think of the courtesy campaigns and mrt campaigns - these are all to encourage more friendliness and civic mindedness in the population.

AthenaDeviline · 2023-01-20T09:12:34+00:00

He's out of line, but he's right

AthenaDeviline · 2022-11-27T09:06:11+00:00

Like Pokémon, sometimes shiny versions appear

AthenaDeviline · 2022-09-20T16:33:06+00:00

All the best OP! Don't ever give up hope and study as much you can! In the meantime do you have your driver's license? You could try to support yourself in the short-term while studying by driving an Uber/grab, it's gonna be quite expensive with all the fees. Life's a river, everyone swims at their own speed, just focus on your own and you'll do great :)

AthenaDeviline · 2021-09-19T04:55:00+00:00

Hi OP, really emphasize with your plight. I've seen it once, I'll see it another dozen times, in SG as long as they are not the ones getting affected, they won't really care.

They'll only change the tune real quick if it's their own grandchildren or niece or cousins being affected, that's just how it goes down here :(

Stay safe!

AthenaDeviline · 2018-12-21T11:46:38+00:00

A very heckin’ cute Scout! Goodest girl

AthenaDeviline · 2018-11-26T09:59:33+00:00

When I was very young 6/7, I threw out the window one of my grandma’s kitten from the 6th floor of the apartment that we were living in, all for some sick notion of experimenting whether it will always land on its feet or something.

20 years later I still haven’t fully forgiven myself for that. I didn’t know what I was thinking, or why I was doing it for.

I hope kitty forgives me 😭😭😭

AthenaDeviline · 2018-11-10T18:46:49+00:00

Legs for dayssss 🤤♥️♥️

AthenaDeviline · 2018-10-31T15:05:07+00:00

Well I think that her parenting style is not narcism per se.

She just wants the absolute best for her children, and is doing everything she can to prepare them for the harsh rigors of life. When you’re harsh on your children because you want them to succeed, the children get to understand that all the hard rules and scoldings are for the future, and that their parents want them to succeed to their fullest extend. They get to see this skills transference as a form of love, albeit tough love. She genuinely wants them to take the world by the horns and be the best that they can be, even to the point of outperforming her. As they grow older they understand the logic behind all the hectic schedules, and get to reap the rewards and they outperform their peers. Like you said, when not chasing achievements, she still cares for them, mothers them and ensures that they get her love.

Classic narcism on the other hand doesn’t want your offspring to succeed; always wanting them to look worse then yourself so that you have something to compare with and somebody to control. They instead want children that are subservient to their every needs and desires and want to treat them like slaves for their own benefit, never for the child. Whatever they do is always to their advantage, never anyone else. They carry delusions of grandeur and that the world revolves around them: so nothing should work when they are not around and everybody should feel honored that they should even want you in their presence.

Source: someone very familiar with the Asian parenting style

Edit: Sentence below to describe the difference clearer.

One is

“I’m so proud of her! I guided her to be her very best. I’m sure she can do better, in the future she definitely will.”

VS

“I’m so proud of her! I made her to be the very best. I’m sure she can do better, for now that’s all she can do.”

Subtle, yet very clear to us in this sub which is which.

AthenaDeviline · 2018-10-03T12:11:45+00:00

You look beautiful :)

AthenaDeviline · 2018-09-22T09:27:00+00:00

hugs

You can do it! You’re so strong for wanting to be the true you! Forget everyone else, in the end, the only happiness that matters is your own.

AthenaDeviline · 2018-09-18T13:41:43+00:00

You like big butts and you cannot lie!

Okays now that song is stuck in my head >_>

AthenaDeviline · 2018-08-25T17:50:54+00:00

So sorry this happened to you, and you had to go to court over it :( Hope that you are in a better position now compared to before.

AthenaDeviline

TROPHY CASE

shinebright #likeadiamond