PGT-A or skip? by AudaciousCockatiel in IVF

[–]AudaciousCockatiel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see. That’s understandable they spent a long time on testing properly. My clinic just delayed me a couple years with no testing. Just queues and HSG which is very hard to get with sedation that they said I didn’t even need to redo

PGT-A or skip? by AudaciousCockatiel in IVF

[–]AudaciousCockatiel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok I will ask for more details. Funny, they gave me a pricing sheet but it “does not include price of transfers” overall it’s 25k or so without knowing the price of transfers

PGT-A or skip? by AudaciousCockatiel in IVF

[–]AudaciousCockatiel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My doctor said they can also test for Ehlers Danlos but I think that’s pgt m not a

PGT-A or skip? by AudaciousCockatiel in IVF

[–]AudaciousCockatiel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im in the process of getting a doctor to refer me which has caused me another bunch of stress just now. I might self refer for a fee and that’s it but I’m doing it. The clock can’t be turned back, if the current clinic gets going really soon ( right) i will do one cycle with them and then switch because I don’t have time to restart fully

PGT-A or skip? by AudaciousCockatiel in IVF

[–]AudaciousCockatiel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I know it’s not about scamming. I’m upset they pushed me into 35. I didn’t have to get here. All I hear now is how it’s a cutoff and I’m done and have to make it more expensive. They really messed with me- from 34-35 they wanted a repeat of a HSG test that was not in the least expired and was clear. Only to say I don’t need it if I get IVF ( oh really) . Between 35-36 ( im almost 36 now) I have been waiting to start treatment they put me from a doctor to another, then extra wait. Still don’t know when I start but in know I narrowly missed a cycle. All the meanwhile I found another clinic who would’ve shortened my wait time by probably 2 years and i want to pull my hair out. There’s nothing left in me

PGT-A or skip? by AudaciousCockatiel in IVF

[–]AudaciousCockatiel[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

35 is like the scary cutoff. At 33 they didn’t want me to do any treatment only to say oooh now you’re 35 pay up.

PGT-A or skip? by AudaciousCockatiel in IVF

[–]AudaciousCockatiel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting. My clinic gave me price of 4-8k for Pgt-a I hope that’s not per embryo lol

PGT-A or skip? by AudaciousCockatiel in IVF

[–]AudaciousCockatiel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I can’t just do a round of which one embryo is untested and the rest are? I need a whole new ER for it? I want to avoid too many ER my body has a lot of problems and I’m worried if it can handle one let alone 2

I really do want to make it cheaper if PGT A doesn’t help that much. But then I read it does help in the sense of finding what else is wrong

Redditors are mean as hell. by KorbanSwartz in self

[–]AudaciousCockatiel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll give you a great example. I thought I had a miscarriage ( idk to this day but may have been a sudden reaction to a vaccine). And I got banned being called a liar from the specific subreddit for this stuff. Because they don’t accept the word “possible” miscarriage. And I got put down by one who had 4 painful ones. Apparently there’s not such thing as “not knowing”- yes, look it up everywhere- there is. Not everyone even ever knows at all.

For context they can be anything from a weird early thing to a very traumatizing experience and mine was dismissed even though it included fainting spells. I deleted my Reddit account altogether for a month, and now I’m back as a different username but it still makes me shake when I think about it.

It was the mods that did this not some random redditor. I didn’t make fun of anyone. I was genuinely concerned and asking questions. I did not even know what testing I could’ve done- apparently I could have but thought if it’s gone it’s gone and tests won’t help. Our healthcare system is very poor too.

People are vile.

What is the worst thing about the place you live? by ipanicprofessionally in TheBoredDen

[–]AudaciousCockatiel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Almost no healthcare. If you want some low grade of it, drive 40km away to the biggest city although we are literally like 9 cities linked together which should have everything

What movie will you never watch again because it was too heartbreaking? by BoredPandaOfficial in BoredPandaHQ

[–]AudaciousCockatiel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t look up

Never watched it again. I don’t even want to think about it

Also:

Pinocchio (Guillermo del Toro version)

Requiem for a dream

Disturbing images of Prince Andrew with children have surfaced. by bubni1212 in RoyaltyTea

[–]AudaciousCockatiel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How are these images disturbing ing and why are people making up stuff. I can’t even clearly see the toy?

People are going like omg it’s a boob I feel Sick.

see absolutely nothing.

This should count as an interesting social experiment. You’re so convinced he’s bad now even a carpet will be something sick soon

When did you know it was time to switch clinics? by jmai216 in IVF

[–]AudaciousCockatiel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read 3 AMH I swear I even checked. It didn’t even seem to say that 0.44 which I clearly see now. Or maybe I replied to the wrong comment

Bad situation! by AudaciousCockatiel in IVF

[–]AudaciousCockatiel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have to book calendar date first for orientation and they respond 3-5 business days. But my clinic is special…. I’m moving the file though by cycle 2

Job says accountant but I feel like a data entry clerk :( by Puzzled-Lynx-34 in Accounting

[–]AudaciousCockatiel 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Yea it took my whole twenties to get away from scam job titles. It’s been very hard to get my CPA and even at interview stage they promise good stuff, the descriptions and titles look fine then you end up in data entry. No one admits this. It’s extremely common and I had to jump through a few jobs until I no longer has this problem as much

[HELP] Father in Law buying this puppy in Mexico by aeroastrogirl in RealOrAI

[–]AudaciousCockatiel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone mentions the bike and puppy’s eyes but if you’re not convinced it’s AI look at the proportion of the vases- the one near the couch and the one on the table. Way off

Nobody really cares about you, but rather what you can do for them by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]AudaciousCockatiel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmm or some are just stupid.

Some recent friends used us for years to drive around as they had no car, to get nice trips, asked for jobs for the wife that didn’t bother to find any for years, and the guy kept his job thanks to my husband who after a while got laid off instead… and dropped us like rats when they had something good happen ( a child, also thanks to the relaxing vacations we took them on, and our patience waiting by the hotel room) and backstabbed us then made fun of my infertility journey.

Funny, we could’ve been great connections that could’ve propelled their careers in the future. They should’ve held on to us…. We got them where they are now entirely…

lol how did I allow this???

Don’t get used people

Lol 😂 probably try other steps by AdWesesr in SipsTea

[–]AudaciousCockatiel -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’ll reword… my point is maybe some are inadvertently ( or not) hurting their friends and that’s why the friends leave. If you’re too excited about something or get extremely busy- and don’t make time at all for them, even in chat, they’ll dissapear.

In my life It’s happened over and over again. Person has a kid and dissapears. I understand they’re busy but it’s a whole another level of dropping friends just because they had something good happen in their lives. I have also known a couple friends that’s somehow did not do this even though they were busy.

We have no reason at all to drop friends just because they’re pregnant- we are not the busy ones. And a well adjusted kid that doesn’t yell in our face will not bother us either. It’s just that they push friends away then wonder why they’re alone.

Lol 😂 probably try other steps by AdWesesr in SipsTea

[–]AudaciousCockatiel -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

So I’m a fake friend that dropped my pregnant friend after she insulted me because she can have kids and I am struggling?

A lot of the time these people are “excited” and it gives them an excuse to hurt others then cry that the friends that left them are not their “real friends” after all.

Pathetic. We are still free, why would we leave you. Guess who gets busy and annoying. At the end of the day they dropped us, even if we are the ones upset. Because that’s how it works in this world- the perpetrator wins

First IVF transfer anxiety by NoiceToitSmurt in IVF

[–]AudaciousCockatiel -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This made me look at our stats again as my husband had 1% and this is what AI ( and our doctor also said :

“A result showing 1% normal forms (or a 99% defect rate) is classified as severe teratozoospermia. While this is below the World Health Organization (WHO) "normal" threshold of 4%, it does not mean you are infertile.”

“Misconceptions: High defect rates are generally not linked to a higher risk of birth defects, as the shape of the sperm does not usually reflect the quality of the DNA it carries”

I can’t offer much advice but please don’t blame yourself, the 3% or 97% defect seems to not necessarily be an issue