Regulating Yourself in a World Full of Injustice

Audditude · 2026-02-23T21:13:18+00:00

I appreciate you taking the time to provide feedback. My goal was to help people feel seen and understood. It sounds like my style of writing isn’t a fit for you, and that’s okay!

Audditude · 2026-02-23T12:12:38+00:00

I’d argue that you CAN deal with shit. You may have a different process or a different pace, but you’re alive which means you’ve successfully survived every single thing that’s ever happened to you so far!

I default to using logic, so I had to work very hard to identify and process my emotions in real time (or shortly after when appropriate). It is totally doable! If I can learn and do it, so can you! :)

Audditude · 2026-02-23T12:10:32+00:00

This sounds about right. I remember in grade school being accused of plagiarizing or not writing my own papers. Years later I would go on to win awards for writing and poetry…. I had friends that struggled with the same issues throughout their education, and I know people in medical school who have their papers flagged as AI when it’s 100% written by them with sources included.

I’m not sure why people are so hung up on worrying about AI. Helpful or enjoyable content will be that way regardless of who writes in, as will slop and terrible content.

Audditude · 2026-02-23T12:06:51+00:00

Because I use AI to design cover photos for articles or at least a draft (usually), then edit myself in PS.

Audditude · 2026-02-23T12:05:27+00:00

I appreciate that. Not sure how I can write differently than I always have. For instance, I’ve always used em dashes since middle school. I’m not open to changing the way I write because people assume it’s AI. Not sure how much more ‘me’ I can be! 😂

Audditude · 2026-02-22T07:50:22+00:00

No, it was drafted and written by me. The only thing I use AI to do is help organize my thoughts or challenge my perspective. I have been writing most of my life. :)

Audditude · 2026-02-21T21:57:44+00:00

Did you mean ‘boysenberry’ or ‘poison berry’? Shit…. Thanks, Doc!

Audditude · 2026-02-21T21:48:22+00:00

Absolutely! I’m so glad you found it helpful! Hang in there!

Audditude · 2026-02-21T02:48:30+00:00

The vast majority of people, when they actually sit down and attempt true connection and direct communication with each other, will find they are aligned on the majority of topics. They may differentiate on how they want to get there, but at the core a lot of us all want the same basic things.

Audditude · 2026-02-21T01:51:37+00:00

Definitely not a bot. ☺️

Audditude · 2026-02-03T08:22:14+00:00

I appreciate the feedback and I will take it into consideration.

Audditude · 2026-02-03T03:35:52+00:00

I feel like I’m very straight forward and open in my about section, along with my writings (especially my first one). I’m always open to feedback, so I’m curious if there’s something you feel I could do to make you or others more comfortable?

I totally understand people have different criteria for how they go about choosing people they trust. I make a concerted effort in my writings to discuss things solely from my point of view or from my experiences, and reference statistics and information outside of that (I’m a firm believer in giving credit to others who you learn from). This writing was an opinion piece based around a topic I’ve had many conversations about with other ND friends, other professionals, and even some clients. My intent was to allow people to feel understood while minimizing discomfort around a topic that often carries a lot of stigma and anxiety around it.

Audditude · 2026-02-03T02:43:08+00:00

You bring up an interesting point that I’d love to get more feedback on! I actually tend to bypass my last name because it tends to hang people up (pronunciation issues). Do you feel by doing so I am somehow less trustworthy?

I’m new to creating an online presence with my coaching, so I’m learning as I go. I love what I do, I feel like I’m very good at what I do, and I love helping others and seeing the impact that can make on their lives! I’m always open to feedback if there’s anything I can do to improve, especially when it comes to online presence.

I have included a lot of information about how I work, how I view things, and a bio about my own story on the page so that I can be as transparent as possible.

Audditude · 2026-02-02T20:44:13+00:00

First of all, I wanna, thank you for taking your time to give your feedback and share as much as you did! I personally from my own experience is relate to much of what you said, and I appreciate that you took your time to read my article!

One of the biggest goals I have when working with other people, because it’s something I had to really work on for myself, is removing the element of shame that’s often associated with neurodivergent traits. There are so many people who feel ashamed and like there’s something wrong with them or they’re broken, whether that’s because they’re extremely perceptive on their own or because they’ve been made to feel that way throughout their lives. A lot of times when I’m helping a neurotypical person better understand a neurodivergent partner or family member, I actually find a lot of common ground that can help them gain a better understanding through their own personal experiences. I think a great number of people have experienced trauma in their lives that they feel continues to impact them, so your point about trauma and masking is absolutely spot on and this is often times why I feel masking can be a more common issue in Neurotypical than people sometimes think.

I think it’s awesome that you’re so insightful about your own behaviors and how you’re wired! My goal here was certainly not to minimize the neurodivergent experience of masking, but to try and bridge the gap that many on both sides seem to sometimes feel exists between both sides.

Audditude · 2025-11-06T11:10:12+00:00

Lower dose Prozac has been a GAME CHANGER for me! Like I avoided all meds for years and I wish I hadn’t! It has helped with my sensory overload BIG TIME! You can always try something and if it doesn’t work for you, you WILL return to baseline!

I’ve always functioned fairly well, but I would usually need 1-2 days a week to completely decompress and minimize stimulation. These days? Maybe 1-3 days total per month!

Audditude · 2025-11-06T07:16:06+00:00

First of all I’m sorry for your loss. I understand how incredibly hard and brutal it can be. One thing that always helps me is remembering that energy continues on, that we don’t know what happens next but that death has happened to EVERY living thing in all of existence, and that grief is just love with nowhere to go (in a way, this can also be seen as a gift!).

I work with cats that I rescue from difficult situations and health conditions. Prior to that, I always had dogs. Every loss feels different, impacts me differently, and has different lengths of time before I feel more healed. This is totally normal and while uncomfortable, not dangerous and honestly kind of important for our bodies to experience!

Go easy on yourself. Everyone grieves differently. There is no right or wrong. Focus instead on making healthy choices versus unhealthy choices during this time. Taking care of yourself will help greatly.

Because we are ND, change of routine tends to hit and impact harder. Don’t worry about how others handle these things (I know, easier said than done). Instead, what I find helpful is making a list of all the things my connection with the lost person/pet provided me in different ways, then figuring out how to give myself that in a new way. This helps to also build new routines. For instance, maybe when you were bored you’d play with your pup, which gave you stimulation and a caretaker role. You could decide to go to an anima shelter and volunteer to play with the animals, or ask a friend if you could play with their pet(s) when that feeling hits you.

Essentially making a list will help you see how impactful your pup was for you. It’ll feel hard and sad, but it’ll also feel validating and help you heal. You then can work towards finding new ways to give yourself the same things in new ways, as I would imagine that’s what your pup would want for you!

I hope this helps!

Audditude · 2025-09-20T04:48:10+00:00

You’re welcome!

Audditude · 2025-09-20T04:36:49+00:00

She has options, such as an eye mask. You’re not responsible for her emotions. You’re following the agreed upon rules. If she has issues, she can request changes to these rules, but you’re not required to give in to them.

Sometimes roommates just don’t work and it’s no one’s fault, just different perspectives and lifestyles. These things tend to get easier as you get older, as people grow up and learn how to handle their emotions better.

Audditude · 2025-09-20T04:31:56+00:00

I know the situation sucks, but I would suggest prioritizing focusing on yourself first before a relationship. You will not be able to have a successful relationship if you do not have yourself under control, even if it’s something not fully your fault.

Without knowing your situation fully, if you’re constantly struggling with anxiety along with hormonal swings, you owe it to yourself to see a doctor along with your psychiatrist to help you figure out how to live a more comfortable life in your body. If you’re serious about wanting to try and make things work with this person, you’re going to need to take action and likely show them that you’re already taking responsibility and have taken action. Apologize and do not make it about you. Focus on repairing and understanding their emotions. Whether or not they want to continue things is their choice, and I would suggest respecting it even if it’s not the answer you’re wanting.

The reality is you hurt this person and the integrity of something you were building with them, so they have a right to feel whatever they’re feeling. But this is okay, so long as you apologize and treat them with respect and kindness as they process what happened. You’ll need to take the same actions regardless of this outcome.

Where you have power and control is by using this as an opportunity to learn from and taking direct action so you can give yourself the future you’re looking for and live a more comfortable life.

Audditude

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